vent

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ahhhhhh Vent and scream away )!! How are things going there now?!?!

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Jmducky@...

-Jessi

" If you think you're too small to make a difference, you've obviously never

been in bed with a mosquito. " --

[Guest guest]

:

You are not a horrible mom, first understand she is trying to rattle your bones and those of DH she can, I would invite her to leave the family if she wants, no more clothes, no more free board, no more medical or dental, start recliaming all you have given her. She may rebel a bit more but this tough love seems to work.

I was once told we were bad parents because at graduation he was the only one not getting a new car, we told him that he can leave the house, pay board, feed himself, buy new clothes, we were giving all his possessions to charity. Told him he was privileged, he had free food here, dental and medical care, now go out and earn it.all, no car! Well he thought over the terms and stayed until he was 26 and got married.

With a 13 yr old things are different, talk to the school counselor,shes got everyone fouled up here, she most likely has preyed on the neighbors sympathy, Try to talk to them, go over to the houses, explain her behaviour Remember with all kids who rebel that there is no fun to the play if you have no audience

Anne

[Guest guest]

,

I think I may be able to help you. I *was* your daughter a few short

years ago, okay, maybe more like 10 years ago, but who's counting? Is

there any time your daughter is calm? Maybe get her favorite treat and

say that you want to have a woman to woman talk, just as friends.

Explain your feelings of not being a good mother, and how you don't want

to deprive her of a good time, but you are afraid of her getting hurt.

Important---keep this calm and like you are talking to an adult. Tell

her you'd like to give her complete freedom, but you are scared of her

running away. Ask her what it is in particular she thinks you are doing

wrong. Ask her if you guys could have a slumber party, and rent a cool

movie she'd like. I know this sounds like giving in, but I wish my

mother had come to me and ask me what I needed. If that doesn't work,

maybe I could write to her and we can be pals....someone for her to talk

to. It is obvious to me (and you, I'm sure) that she is hurting and is

angry. She is looking for a way to express her hurt, may not even know

she has some.

Good luck and keep in touch about this,

vent

Hi guys. Sorry I havent been around. Have been going thru hell here.

Maybe someone has some advice? I have not handled anything well

lately.

Have been fighting with my youngest daughter, she just turned 14- I

know, thats part of the problem. It actually started around her

birthday, she wanted us to rent her a motel room for her party,

and " had " to invite around 20.... NO! Nothing else was good enough,

and just made her mad. Thats all she wanted. Then she called from

school(middle school) on her birthday, wanting to leave with her

friend, for the rest of the day- again, no. I said she could go out

to lunch with her (although I wanted to take her), but she had to go

back. She called several times and fought with me, from the office,

yelling at me. I gave permission to the secretary for her to go to

lunch, and made it clear I expected her to go back. (The secretary

said she wouldnt have allowed her to do anything, after hearing the

way she talked to me) She didnt come home after school, missed her

birthday dinner, didnt get home till 9:30, then yelled at me cause I

bought her a new bed- and she didnt want it, or me in her room, I had

gone ahead and set it up. She didnt even open her presents, and her

dad just went to bed.

Then she got in trouble at school, one thing after another, till she

got suspended last week- detention,one day in school suspension, then

out. Our standard rule- grounded. And no more running around with the

little moron up the street that instigates the fights that she gets

into.(and started the fight on her bday) She was furious, we had no

right to ground her, the school had no right to suspend her, " and its

no big deal anyway " , same friend gets thrown out all the time. The

school counselor thinks she is still depressed from last year, and

angry with the world in general, and put up a wall/outright hostile

so no one can hurt her again. DUH (I have only been asking this

school for help for her since last year in January!) She had to sign

the general I will be good contract to get back in Fri before Easter.

Easter she didnt want a basket, or candy, or to speak to us. Monday she

had a choir concert, said she was just going to get a

sweater real quick, from above friends house- and never came back.

her dad stayed here, in case she came, I went to the concert, she was

there. Didnt aknowlege my existence, and tried to ditch me after. I

pulled the car up to where she couldnt get past me, so she had to get

in, but didnt speak all the way home.

Wed she ran away. She was up the street at friends house, and she

lied to us, and said she wasnt there. Then her dad called said she

was. DH went up there, she had gone, went across the street, those

girls said they hadnt seen her, then her father said she just went

out the back. Her dad couldnt catch her. He finally called the

police. I was out looking till 1, and I never saw a police car. She

went to school Thursday, I went before school got out, and asked them

to call her to the office, so I could pick her up. She ditched me.

Friday she went to school, I had the police pick her up, and met them

at the station. I had her in the car, and almost made it a few feet,

before she got out & took off.

I handled it so badly. I yelled at her. I told her if she didnt want

me to be her mother, that social services would, that she could

either come with me, or I would put her in the youth shelter. She

said that was better than going home. Her friends are her family now,

and she can take care of herself- better than I have for the last

13yrs.

I wanted to take her for a hamburger, and talk, and tell her I love

her, and I understand, and we will work it out. But nooooo, I was

hurt, and mad as hell, and havent slept, and all I could do was yell,

and drove her away. I feel like a complete failure, I am a horrible

mother- and thats the only thing I ever thought that really meant

anything, for the last 30 yrs, thats what I have lived for. I cant

handle losing another kid, much less my baby.

I dont know what to do. I wish someone could help me.

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

No. 1: You are not a horrible mother, and have not failed in your role. You

have just met with a few major setbacks. THe fact that you penned your

message, venting and reflecting your concerns for your child showed that you

do CARE and LOVE your child. THat is the most important.

I do agree with . Since your daughter has hit 20, and from the things

she wanted from you, she WANTS to be treated like a adult. Try to talk to

her along that level of maturity... she might be more receptive. Maybe her

peers can help too? I will be glad to email her and talk to her too if I can

be of any help.

If all these do not work, you may want to consider professional help then.

Talk to a family counsellor? Sometimes a third party can see things from a

different perspective, and may be able to converse better with the affected

parties.

Take care, the most important thing is not to give up.

Ling

vent

>

>

> Hi guys. Sorry I havent been around. Have been going thru hell here.

> Maybe someone has some advice? I have not handled anything well

> lately.

> Have been fighting with my youngest daughter, she just turned 14- I

> know, thats part of the problem. It actually started around her

> birthday, she wanted us to rent her a motel room for her party,

> and " had " to invite around 20.... NO! Nothing else was good enough,

> and just made her mad. Thats all she wanted. Then she called from

> school(middle school) on her birthday, wanting to leave with her

> friend, for the rest of the day- again, no. I said she could go out

> to lunch with her (although I wanted to take her), but she had to go

> back. She called several times and fought with me, from the office,

> yelling at me. I gave permission to the secretary for her to go to

> lunch, and made it clear I expected her to go back. (The secretary

> said she wouldnt have allowed her to do anything, after hearing the

> way she talked to me) She didnt come home after school, missed her

> birthday dinner, didnt get home till 9:30, then yelled at me cause I

> bought her a new bed- and she didnt want it, or me in her room, I had

> gone ahead and set it up. She didnt even open her presents, and her

> dad just went to bed.

> Then she got in trouble at school, one thing after another, till she

> got suspended last week- detention,one day in school suspension, then

> out. Our standard rule- grounded. And no more running around with the

> little moron up the street that instigates the fights that she gets

> into.(and started the fight on her bday) She was furious, we had no

> right to ground her, the school had no right to suspend her, " and its

> no big deal anyway " , same friend gets thrown out all the time. The

> school counselor thinks she is still depressed from last year, and

> angry with the world in general, and put up a wall/outright hostile

> so no one can hurt her again. DUH (I have only been asking this

> school for help for her since last year in January!) She had to sign

> the general I will be good contract to get back in Fri before Easter.

> Easter she didnt want a basket, or candy, or to speak to us. Monday she

> had a choir concert, said she was just going to get a

> sweater real quick, from above friends house- and never came back.

> her dad stayed here, in case she came, I went to the concert, she was

> there. Didnt aknowlege my existence, and tried to ditch me after. I

> pulled the car up to where she couldnt get past me, so she had to get

> in, but didnt speak all the way home.

> Wed she ran away. She was up the street at friends house, and she

> lied to us, and said she wasnt there. Then her dad called said she

> was. DH went up there, she had gone, went across the street, those

> girls said they hadnt seen her, then her father said she just went

> out the back. Her dad couldnt catch her. He finally called the

> police. I was out looking till 1, and I never saw a police car. She

> went to school Thursday, I went before school got out, and asked them

> to call her to the office, so I could pick her up. She ditched me.

> Friday she went to school, I had the police pick her up, and met them

> at the station. I had her in the car, and almost made it a few feet,

> before she got out & took off.

> I handled it so badly. I yelled at her. I told her if she didnt want

> me to be her mother, that social services would, that she could

> either come with me, or I would put her in the youth shelter. She

> said that was better than going home. Her friends are her family now,

> and she can take care of herself- better than I have for the last

> 13yrs.

> I wanted to take her for a hamburger, and talk, and tell her I love

> her, and I understand, and we will work it out. But nooooo, I was

> hurt, and mad as hell, and havent slept, and all I could do was yell,

> and drove her away. I feel like a complete failure, I am a horrible

> mother- and thats the only thing I ever thought that really meant

> anything, for the last 30 yrs, thats what I have lived for. I cant

> handle losing another kid, much less my baby.

> I dont know what to do. I wish someone could help me.

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

First of all, I want to wholeheartedly agree that you are NOT a bad parent.

It sounds like you have your hands full, and then some. Reading your post

makes me realize that the anger problems I've had from my now 17 1/2 yr.

old, , were nothing in comparison. He didn't start to act out until

his multiple chronic illnesses caused him/me to have to have him homebound

schooled last year (2000-2001). He deeply resented being isolated from his

peers and felt left out and left behind. It caused multiple layers of

grieving, and brought out ALL the anger and grief he had internalized when

my sons' father and my husband of nearly 15 yrs. abandoned us suddenly in

1998 (when was only 12 and Isaac 11). , I have felt embarrassed

and mortified that the police have had to come to my home numerous times

because was throwing things/getting physical and/or verbally abusive

with me or his brother/etc. And all of this ON TOP of all the illness the 3

of us have had to cope with continuously. The stress was off the scale at

times, and I know yours is, too. Being a retired teacher and a mother, I

know that kids really do want limits. Without consistent limits and rules,

they feel no one really cares. It's hard, though, when you're right in the

middle of it. Sometimes love has to be tough, and that is very hard. I had

to put into a partial hospitalization program for a couple of weeks

(days only, didn't stay overnights) for intense individual and group

therapy. We've been in follow-up therapy with a psychiatrist ever since.

We'd also been going to family counseling before that, but his behaviors

just kept worsening despite all my efforts. The psychiatrist is very good,

and realizes perfectly that is having a VERY hard time dealing with

being a chronically ill (and now legally disabled according to SS)

teenager--as well as having a chronically ill mother and a father who

abruptly abandoned the family and is absent from our lives completely (given

the circumstances, that's truly for the best). Were there ever times I lost

my temper and yelled? YES! Did that make me a bad mother? NO! It made me

human--a stressed out, physically ill human who was struggling to survive

and cope to the best of my ability. Which is exactly what you are doing.

Honestly, there were MANY times when I truly felt that my son would have

benefited from some type of boot camp " reality check " , but couldn't

seriously consider it because of his health issues. Someplace like Boys And

Girls Town in Omaha or something. They have a good reputation, and have

really turned a lot of kids around when they were headed down the wrong

path. I felt guilty for even entertaining the thought about my son, ,

but it honestly got that bad for awhile.he'd have been there for sure if not

for his chronic illnesses. I knew he wouldn't get the specialized medical

care he needed in order to live, and I didn't want him to think I didn't

love or want him.

It sounds like you are trying very hard to parent your daughter, .

Keep doing it. Also, the psychiatrist put on a low dosage mood

stabilizer, which has completely turned his behaviors and horrendous

anger/ " mouth of the South " around. It might be worth looking into. At the

least, I would recommend professional counseling for your daughter. She is

crying out for help and guidance, though she makes every appearance of the

total opposite. As hard as it is, you'll have to be tough no matter how

hard or how ill you are yourself. I admire you greatly for trusting us

enough to vent. We're glad to listen and support you anytime. You are also

very welcome to email me privately anytime.

(((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Love,

~LoneStarRose~ (~~)

[Guest guest]

Is he wearing a diaper or pull up at night? It seems to me that he may not

be ready for night time dryness. And if it's stressing YOU out, it for sure

must be stresssing HIM. Mav wasn't night time trained at that age. In

fact, my 3 yr old is such a heavy sleeper there is NO WAY I would even

consider taking a diaper off im at night, yet during the day he is totally

trained.

Maybe you need to step back a phase and slow it down?

Has he ever been night trained?

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 5/20/2003 6:12:55 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

lisa@... writes:

> I am so sick of washing sheets and blankets etc.-

> and waiting for his stupid mattress to dry- we have a rainy patch at the

> moment- so cant stick it outside- no sun means no sun into his room,

> which means no drying .

Leis,

Can you get a waterproof mattress cover? I keep one on his bed & put a

quilted mattress cover over it so you can't feel it. I know what you mean about

washing. When he gets sick, it's always on fresh sheets.

You're ahead of us in training. He'll use the potty sometimes. He 'gets'

it, but he's very stubborn so it has to be his idea. We're a long way from

trying it at night. I'd put a diaper or pullup on him at night so you can get

your rest now.

Kathy, Liam's mom( 5)

[Guest guest]

HI

My son did not day train until he was 6. He was night trained right away. We

had to stop using the pull-ups because they whisked the wetness away and he

was never uncomfortable in his wet pants. When we went to undies he hated

being wet and stopped.

Have you tried not giving him any liquids after say 6pm? and no last meal

drinks that are diuretics?

Jean

[Guest guest]

He wears a nappy called dry night- they are supposed to be more

absorbent than pull ups- I try not to let it stress me- maybe he is

picking up on it........I have also been told kids wet bed when they are

cold- so I am off to buy winter sheets for him today.........he always

seems to get coldest room in the house.......I will keep on keeping

on...just had to yell and scream abit

Thanks

Michdock@... wrote:

> Is he wearing a diaper or pull up at night? It seems to me that he

> may not

> be ready for night time dryness. And if it's stressing YOU out, it

> for sure

> must be stresssing HIM. Mav wasn't night time trained at that age. In

> fact, my 3 yr old is such a heavy sleeper there is NO WAY I would even

> consider taking a diaper off im at night, yet during the day he is

> totally

> trained.

> Maybe you need to step back a phase and slow it down?

> Has he ever been night trained?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Leis,

I agree with Jean. My son was not day trained until he was 6-1/2 years old. He

was night trained much earlier. I started by not giving him anything to drink

after dinner. I would make sure he went on the potty before bed. I also used a

waterproof mattress cover on his bed. When I finally took the plunge to get him

day trained, I put him in underwear ....... didn't use pull-ups. I learned from

my other son that pull-ups didn't work ... they retained too much of the

wetness. It took about a month to have him day trained ..... but, it worked. All

kids are different and I think they will accomplish this when they are ready.

Good luck ..... he'll get there!

Jeanne, Mom to (9) and (8, DS)

[Guest guest]

Well we are reversed- BJ has been day trained for about 15 months now (

1 week before Natasha was born). We dont let him drink an hour to an

hour and a half before he goes to bed- and we have just started making

him go to the toilet before bed time. He wears a nite pull up to bed. I

couldn't find a plastic mattress cover- only quilted ones- so I have a

garbage bag on most of his mattress ( yes we have big bins here- 240

litres) and I have put a quilt over the plastic bag.

We are in autumn now- and have been told it is quite cold compared to

normal ( we only moved to this state 10m nths ago). I have been told by

many a people that children wet bed more when they are cold. So we are

trialling BJ in our bedroom as his bedroom gets quite cold during the

early morning. So he is in our bed for a few days -and dh and I on a

mattress on floor in his bedroom to see if he changes his wee

" frequency " if he does- we will swap bedrooms with him.

Thanks to all for your advice. I am thinking that maybe we should have

tried night training when we took him out of pull up- but it took us

ages to toilet train him......so will have to wait abit longer My

brother also wet the bed till he was nearly 10- so I shouldn't worry so

much about it.It will happen when it happens. I should enjoy his cuddles

while I still can

Thanks for letting me vent .......

Jeanne wrote:

> Leis,

>

> I agree with Jean. My son was not day trained until he was 6-1/2 years

> old. He was night trained much earlier. I started by not giving him

> anything to drink after dinner. I would make sure he went on the potty

> before bed. I also used a waterproof mattress cover on his bed. When I

> finally took the plunge to get him day trained, I put him in underwear

> ....... didn't use pull-ups. I learned from my other son that pull-ups

> didn't work ... they retained too much of the wetness. It took about a

> month to have him day trained ..... but, it worked. All kids are

> different and I think they will accomplish this when they are ready.

>

> Good luck ..... he'll get there!

>

> Jeanne, Mom to (9) and (8, DS)

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Lee, I needed that!

Steve had a great nurse today. Said they had a good chuckle over

taking his quality control to the extreme- he got some of his

companys parts yesterday, a new left hip socket. And he is assured

that it is a good product.lol He will be there for at least 5 days,

and then will be in rehab for 2-6 weeks, so I guess I should stop

panicking about getting there asap, but I still feel guilty.

I know I cant take care of him myself, he needs all the help he can

get, so will just let them set it all up without me.

It has been raining, just pouring buckets, for about 24hrs now. Flood

warnings all over the 4 corners. Its unbelievable. And I'm freezing.

Cant get over this ?cold, now I'm coughing my head off- and had to be

on the phone all day. So I guess I'm not going anywhere soon.

The title company wont close (was supposed to be the 15th)unless we

probate my dads estate- the contract was written when he was alive,

with his power of attorney, which ceased to be legal upon his

death....yada yada. Doesnt matter that we were joint owners with

rights of survivorship... they think my $ is in limbo. Its such a

mess. I'm going to have to get Velda to do a new contract with me

(alone) and go to a different title company I guess. Poor thing, she

is almost all moved out, and going back & forth, trying to take care

of both places.... and will be 82 this month.

Got a very short email from my missing son today, said he was

alright, and he would call later this week. I dont know where he is,

or what he is doing- other than being AWOL. I dont know what they

will do to him...

Thanks for caring!

How are you??

Love,

> Many hugs to you dear . Sometimes it is just too, too much.

Hope you get some help.

> Love, Lee

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hope you feel better soon!

[Guest guest]

Hope you feel better sonn, sweetie.

Love,

De

Faith is the ability to not panic.

-----Original Message-----From: Liz [mailto:elwilkinson@...] Sent: Wednesday, August 18, 2004 9:25 PMHepatitis CSupportGroupForDummies Subject: Vent

I have had a tension headache for almost 2 weeks, drugs don't work, my knee is acting up again, and I start with the oral surgeon tomorrow. No stress there. Working on the computer is not pretty, so I've been laying low.

Just wanted to let you know, I'm reading mail but not typing much. POOP!

See ya later.

Take care of yourself,

Liz

[Guest guest]

Hey everyone hope you are all feeling as well as possible and thanks again for the BDay wishes!

I have to vent about a friend........I know my live friends and family are so sick of listening to it Im not gonna talk about her any more to them.

The situation is that I had to come back to Kansas from arizona with my sjogrens being so so bad It was a move I never wanted to make and still cry on occasion and its been 4 years now. Im just not thrilled to be here the weather sucks a lot there is very little entertainment---but I have great docs got my SSDI here when Az was going to turn me down, get all my meds through Kansas for a very cheap price through a program most states dont have....Im in a tough spot

One of my old friends that I knew when I lived in KS before and is single divorced with no kids has been someone I talk to and do things with becasue she is available---she is a total man hater so she is never busy with a date(although she is very attractive and spends a fortune on makeup hair nails and victorias secret) anyway her negativity is too much for me right now. She is healthy and has a good retirement income that she started getting at 47 after working for the phone company. She is jsut so bored I guess all she knows how to do is bitch. She actually gets bitchy towards me and others. Griping is one thing, but BEING a bitch is another. She is so tight with her money, I have to make sure to say 'seperate checks' anytime we are out., otherwise if she can pinch a quarter off her part of paying she will. I think Im just very tired, have been extra sick with this job, am glad but very anxious about making ends meet when I quit in december

I guess all I can do for now is not call her and not do things with her, I cant take the whole package of her right now. She does have a lot of good qualities BUT these other issues are driving me nutz right now. The other day we were going to go shopping and I had a light headache and my codeine was not ready at the pharm, something was screwed up and I realized its pretty damned bad when I feel I have to take my codeine to be around her!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean I got really uptight that it wasnt ready

Its just been really hard for me with friends my age 35 people are mostly married with small kids and we dont have much in common now, I am totally sick of the bar scene and I dumped my cheating boyfriend months ago and all the guys who have asked me out have not been a match for even a friend....

thanks for listening its means a lot to me just to have some people to tlak to

HUGS Colleen

[Guest guest]

you do not say how overweight your friend is? BUT sounds like the green eyed monster. Send her a card with your before 90 lb weigh loss and now. Let her choke on it.

NHMom to Abby Liz 10/25/94 Anne 7/1/99

[Guest guest]

Well you have us and this group is great. To heck with what other people say, sometimes our friends hurt us the most. They just have never walked in our shoes.

Hugs sherre

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 2/8/2005 11:53:06 AM Eastern Standard Time, trucker1@... writes:

"So laughed and says well it doesn't look like you

have lost anything; I will guess 30lbs at most." I so wanted to tell her

what a b*%# she is. I lost 90 lbs and 6 sizes and she goes ahead and tells

me I don't look like I lost anything. I just want to scream!!! Why are

people so darn mean. I think I am better off with no friends than friends

***HUGS*** I am really sorry that happened. =*( She is definately NOT good for you. =*( Love, Amy xoxo

[Guest guest]

-Hi : I send you a giant hug!!!((())))

> I just need to vent. The one friend I have out here in the boonies

that I

> live in totally insulted me.

<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<,

: I trust you know how much you are in the boonies, but I bet,

there is some way, no matter where you are, to develop some new

friendships. In the meantime, you have this group!!!! We care about

you.

I would say that this woman is not much of a friend : (

a sad but, I think, true reality.

She has hurt you and has been mean spirited with you. Unless she is

someone who you can talk things over with, and really share your

feelings, I guess you'll just have to deal with the loss.

Congratulations on your amazing weight loss!!!!

Faye

[Guest guest]

AMEN TO THAT

Sherre

[Guest guest]

----- Original Message -----

From: " Ang " <trucker1@...>

>

" So laughed and says well it doesn't look like you

> have lost anything; I will guess 30lbs at most. " I so wanted to tell her

> what a b*%# she is.

Ugh. With friends like that who needs enemies! The best revenge will be

getting fit and trim (not the dog food! and leaving her in your dust.

Ann

[Guest guest]

I had a friend like that...she would always comment on my weight..telling me

ill never find another husband..this was after my 1st divorce..and she would

just go on and on and on and on...btw, she was a size 0...i didnt even know

they made that size! lol

Re: Vent

>

> ----- Original Message -----

> From: " Ang " <trucker1@...>

>>

> " So laughed and says well it doesn't look like you

>> have lost anything; I will guess 30lbs at most. " I so wanted to tell her

>> what a b*%# she is.

>

> Ugh. With friends like that who needs enemies! The best revenge will be

> getting fit and trim (not the dog food! and leaving her in your dust.

>

> Ann

>

>

>

>

> Excellent health is built not bought, but you have to be patient you can't

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Don’t let her get to you – she

could be jealous or just so angry at herself that she can’t see what a

great job you’ve been doing!

From: Ang

[mailto:trucker1@...]

Sent: Tuesday, February 08, 2005

10:49 AM

100-plus

Subject: Vent

I just need to vent. The one friend I have out

here in the boonies that I

live in totally insulted me. We were

talking about dieting and she was

complaining that she has been trying to lose

weight but it is not happening

for her. Then she goes on to say she knows

she eats too much junk food at

work and she refuses to cut down her portions

because one burger etc just

does not make her feel full. I responded

by telling her that when she is

ready it will click and she will get in control

of her eating like I had

too. She then asks me " well how much

have you lost in the last year. " I

told her that is not something I really want to

share with others because it

makes me uncomfortable. " So laughed

and says well it doesn't look like you

have lost anything; I will guess 30lbs at

most. " I so wanted to tell her

what a b*%# she is. I lost 90 lbs and 6

sizes and she goes ahead and tells

me I don't look like I lost anything. I

just want to scream!!! Why are

people so darn mean. I think I am better off

with no friends than friends

like that.

[Guest guest]

,

Oh how I hate when this happens!

You are going to have to play crime scene detective now...think about

everything you did from the moment you answered that phone call, and

every moment after.

My friend recently " lost " her keys. She thought for sure she had lost

them in another state, LOL because she was basing her suspicions on

the last time she drove. She remembered that she was driving, then

they stopped, she turned the engine off and put her keys away. (or did

she?) Her husband then used his keys and drove. That was the last time

she remembered driving. But as it turned out, that isn't where she

" lost " her keys. She actually used them a couple of days later to open

the fire safe lock box in the closet. She got the necessary document

she needed, left the keys in the box and closed the closet door. Then

that evening when she needed to drive somewhere.... to her horror,

could not find her keys so she figured she lost them the last day she

drove when her husband took over. Frustrated, she sat and thought

about it long and hard, and it came to her....she had used the keys

since driving, so where could they be? Lucky for her she

remembered....the lock box! Upon opening the closet door, there they

were, still in the keyhole of that box. A happy ending. LOL. Hope you

find your hearing aid soon! I hope the dog didn't take it for a new

chewy toy either!! Good luck

Freedom 9/21/05 HOOKED!!

>

> I can't believe it. After 20 years of wearing hearing aids, it finally

> happened -- I misplaced/lost my HA. <sigh> The last I remember, I was

> talking on the phone yesterday evening to a friend. I remember

removing my

> HA, but have no idea where I put it. (I always placed it in the Dry and

> Store in the past, but I was distracted by our telephone

conversation and

> must have put it down somewhere else.) I've been searching the house

from

> top to bottom, but can't find it. For all I know, I could have

placed my HA

> on a table or shelf and accidentally knocked it off so it landed on the

> floor. Just perfect...considering today is cleaning day. Fortunately

I have

> a spare analog HA I can use in the meantime. Thank goodness for that

because

> my digital HAs no longer provide enough amplification for binaural

> hearing -- although they would be better than nothing. I now know

that when

> I'm distracted (or have alot on my mind), I can't do more than one

thing at

> a time. Even though blindness doesn't bother me, this is one of

those times

> I wish I could see. <sigh> Something similar like this happened with

my CI

> processor. I *thought* I fell asleep with it on. When I woke up the next

> morning a moment of panic came over me because I couldn't remember if I

> removed my CI or not. I began stripping the bedsheets and searching the

> entire bedroom until I remembered that my CI was safely tucked

inside the

> Dry and Store. Believe me, you've never seen anyone in a panic like

I was

> *that* morning. LOL! Now...let's hope I can remember where I put my

HA.

>

>

> Implanted: 12/22/04 Activated: 1/18/05

> Deafblind/Postlingual

> BTE hearing aid user 20 years

> Severe-profound hearing loss 10 years

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> Implanted: 12/22/04 Activated: 1/18/05

> Deafblind/Postlingual

> BTE hearing aid user 20 years

> Severe-profound hearing loss 10 years

>

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I hope you find it !

Pam (in Anchorage)