OT / Barbara

[Guest guest]

Hi Barbara - I am so sorry to hear that things are still not well

with your husband. Please remember that this is NOT your fault. HE is

the one who is breaking his marriage vows to you - whatever his reason

may be - it is NOT YOU. I am glad to hear you are not going

through this alone. Having your son around sounds like such a

blessing. My prayers are with you for a very Merry Christmas and a

Happy New Year. We have so many things to be grateful for - even when

it seems our worlds are crumbling around us. Take care. God Bless.

Doreen

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> .....

> Things are still very difficult here. I do believe my hubby will

> leave me, and our 27 years of marriage. I also believe it is due

> to my RA, and he can't ( won't) deal with it. I took my marriage

> vows very seriously, and I guess he doesn't. My heart is truly

> broken, and I am having a very hard time dealing with all this

> hurt. I do know you can't make someone stay against their will.

> I still find it hard that all this is happening to me.

>

> I am soooooo looking forward to Christmas!!! It is my favorite

> time of the year. I put my tree up, and all my country Christmas

> decorations around the house. I have my tree lit all day long!!!!

>

> My son has been here, staying with me for a month now. He and the

> family are moving here to North Port. They just sold the house in

> N.H., so they will all be here by the end of January. He came

> early because he got a great job offer here, and he is thrilled

> with the job and the people he works with. I am so thankful

> everyday that he is here with me. I don't know how I would be

> getting through each day without him here. He is a rock for me.

> .....

[Guest guest]

Hi Doreen:

Thank you for your loving and supportive letter to me today. It means a

lot to me that so many people here care about me. That alone gets me

through each day.

Yes, I really do know I haven't done anything to cause this awful

situation. It is definately very hard to deal with, but I am doing the

best I can each day. I will be glad when all is said and done, and my

future looks brighter. I am going to live with my son and his family,

and quite frankly, I will be happy to do this. I have had enough stress

and heartbreak to last me a lifetime.

I didn't tell you that he is staying out all night several times a week.

He has some " new friends " , and aren't they just so special????? Talk

about a major heartbreak. I never thought in a million years he would

treat me so disrespectfully and so dishonorabily. The pain is never

ending.

My son has just bought a new home with an inground pool, so I will be

enjoying swimming each day, and helping my RA. Life does go on, no

matter what.

I too, have many things to be grateful for. I have a loving family, and

many loving friends who have been so good to me through all this. I

have had a good life, except for this cog in the wheel of life right

now.

I know all this will pass, and I will move on. There are better days

ahead for me, of that I am sure. I just want to stay as healthy as I

can, enjoy each day as best as I can. No one said life was easy all the

time. At times like this, you can appreciate all the good things we

have, even when it is darkest.

I hope you and your family have a wonderful, happy, and Merry Christmas.

I know I will too.

God Bless you always Doreen, and once again, thanks for your loving and

caring letter. I appreciate it so much. You made me feel so

worthwhile, and I certainly care about you too.

Love and Hugs,

Barbara

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> > .....

> > Things are still very difficult here. I do believe my hubby will

> > leave me, and our 27 years of marriage. I also believe it is due

> > to my RA, and he can't ( won't) deal with it. I took my marriage

> > vows very seriously, and I guess he doesn't. My heart is truly

> > broken, and I am having a very hard time dealing with all this

> > hurt. I do know you can't make someone stay against their will.

> > I still find it hard that all this is happening to me.

> >

> > I am soooooo looking forward to Christmas!!! It is my favorite

> > time of the year. I put my tree up, and all my country Christmas

> > decorations around the house. I have my tree lit all day long!!!!

> >

> > My son has been here, staying with me for a month now. He and the

> > family are moving here to North Port. They just sold the house in

> > N.H., so they will all be here by the end of January. He came

> > early because he got a great job offer here, and he is thrilled

> > with the job and the people he works with. I am so thankful

> > everyday that he is here with me. I don't know how I would be

> > getting through each day without him here. He is a rock for me.

> > .....

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