Re: While My Mom Has Been visting

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Alana, thank you so much. I am very hopeful now after reading your

post about your visit and not letting comments get to you. My mom is

coming for 12 days in October and I'm finding I've already changed my

thinking that this will be a positive experience. I'm looking

forward to going shopping with her and doing things we used to do

when she lived an hour away but now she is 6.5 hours away. This

visit is truly needed as she is getting older. I've spoken with my

husband and he is on board with me for this visit as sometimes when

he knew she wanted to visit we both kinda went into panic mode. My

mother can be very negative and bitter. She has not let go of her

marriage issues with my father and it's been 28 years. My dad and I

are close and her negative comments about him really bother me. She

does not understand how I could have a relationship with him. Dad

and I have always been buddies and it's always bothered her. He does

not comment to me about her. Before I used to get myself in such a

tizzy before she came as soon as I saw her it seemed to go downhill.

I really, really do not want to let that happen this time.

Thanks again,

J.

>

> Well, my Mom leaves tomorrow. We have had a wonderful time

> together. There is a part of me that will deeply miss her, but

> there is another part of me that can't wait for her to leave.

>

> We have eaten out for the past week twice a day! She did really

> good not commenting on what I was eating. I always ordered what I

> wanted. One day I ate a lot of salads/vegies. One day I ate

almost

> nothing but fruit. One day I ordered a sandwich which had fried

> chicken tenders, tomatoe and Pepper Jack cheese. It was soooo

> good. I remember the day when I would've never ordered such a

thing

> being it was fried and on white bread.

>

> As I've watched my mom (she is diabetic) I observed that I think

she

> eats more than I do! Only because she tries to eat to somewhat of

a

> time table so her blood sugar doesn't get too low. And she would

> always pick around the carbs. And she ordered a lot of fish. But

I

> don't think she ever really ate what she wanted. She would make

> comments like " oh that sound so good " but then she'd order

something

> else, probably because it was what she " should " have. If we did

> split a desert, she would make little comments like " oh tomorrow we

> will have to be good " or " we'll have to walk this off " . I can't

> remember what I had ordered, but she made the comment that I was

> being a good girl. I told her, " I'm always a good girl! What

> difference does it make what I'm eating as to whether I'm a good

> girl or not!? " . Anyway, it has been interesting observing her

> eating habits.

>

> I'm so glad I was able to eat what I wanted and not let the food

> critic in my head kick in and tell me what I " should " be eating.

> And I'm so glad that the few comments my Mom did make didn't get to

> me like they used to.

>

> I will say one thing. We haven't moved a lot this week. Mostly

> spent a lot of time in the car, eating at restaurants and visiting

> with friends and family. I cannot wait till tomorrow when I will

> have the chance to exercise and move my booty!

>

> Isn't IE grand! I just so listening to what the body needs and

> wants rather than following a clock or an external diet or

> the " shoulds " of the dieting world!

>

> Oh, yea! She did end up giving a little box of Enstroms chocolate

> toffee after all! She just said, don't eat it all at once! I told

> her I am 41 and I do think I can limit myself! But ya know what!

> One day this week, I just might eat the entire box if I'm hungry

and

> it's what I want. why? Because I can doing IE!

>

>

> Take CAre Everyone!

> Alana

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