Guest guest Posted September 16, 2008 Report Share Posted September 16, 2008 Hi everyone, This week I have taken off from work as my Mom is here visiting. So far so good. I think she is mellowing in her old age and I have grown tremendously and I'm much more accepting and tolerant. There has been only one comment that got under my skin so far. She was talking about how she had brought some Enstrom's (chocolate toffee) which is made in her home town for some of her friends. I made the comment " you didn't bring any for your daughter?! " She said " no, I wasn't going to tempt you " . I asked her " what are you saying? " while I knew darn well what she was saying but she still didn't come right out what she wanted to really say but she said " I'm just saying that you should maybe watch what you put in your mouth " . I felt like a little girl again! And it at first made me really mad because if she had never, ever made any comments like that, I wouldn't be the size I am today! But she did. And thanks to The Four Agreements by Don Ruiz - I did not take it personally. One thing my Mom wanted to do while she was here was go for a bra fitting, so yesterday I was sitting in front of the mirror in the dressing room in just my slacks and at first I started noticing my rolls of fat - but then I went into my mantra of " you are beautiful and perfect in every way! " I've been deeply aware of how negative my Mom can be and there have been many times I have turned around what she says into a much more positive comment. And she then said " oh, you're always so positive " . Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just proud of the growth I've made where I don't take things personally like I used to, I don't let my buttons get triggered as much, and I'm sooooo much more postive than I used to be and I truly and honestly can say " I LOVE MYSELF! " and no one, especially my Mom can take that away from me. In the past, her comment, and sitting almost naked in front of a three way mirror, would've thrown me into beating myself up and moving into dieting mentality. But so far I'm holding my own and eating what I want around my Mom. It is hard though - she is diabetic and so watches what she eats - When we were looking at a menu she was talking about what looked and sounded good and I said " you should have what you want " and she stated how she has to balance what she's had over the week and I don't think she got what she really wanted. I'm so grateful I can eat what I want when I want. And I've been pretty good at not eating past fullness. This week is definately a good test for me to see just how far I've come. Alana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 Hi Alana, That is wonderful! You had some really challanging moments with your mom and it seems like you soared right through. Congrats. Last night, I was really craving some ice cream. I could just taste it! So I went across the street to the convenience store at bought some. I'm still working on legalizing all the fun foods, so being able to go buy what I wanted is a pretty big step. I grabbed a spoon, sat on the couch, and started to eat. I knew I wouldn't eat the whole thing - I do my very best to honor my fullness - but I took the whole pint in the spirit of not limiting myself. Well, my husband made a comment like "You aren't going to eat that whole thing, are you?" And he knows I'm trying the IE thing... I was immediately flooded with guilt/shame at the ice cream, but did a little self-talk before I answereed him. I reminded myself that is was perfectly fine for me to have the icecream in any quantity I wanted. Then I told my husband "Probably not, but you never know. I'm just going to eat until I've had enough". Well, he couldn't let it go. "Wouldn't eating all of it go against your programs (OA and IE)?" At that point, my older son (he's14) chimed in and said "Dad! Mom should eat all she wants!" He's been reading some of the IE book - he's interested in what I"m doing. Finally, my hubby stopped his well-meaning comments! I ate until I was done - ironically, not much. I've noticed that ice cream gets too sweet after I've had a small amount. It just tastes cloying in my mouth. Well, now I have more for today in the freezer!! LOL. Anyways, I relate to people making commnets...they can be so hurtful or harmful; and I know half the time they don't mean to be!! Have a great day Kim IE since Aug 08 Subject: Visiting w/ MomTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Wednesday, September 17, 2008, 12:26 AM Hi everyone,This week I have taken off from work as my Mom is here visiting. So far so good. I think she is mellowing in her old age and I have grown tremendously and I'm much more accepting and tolerant.There has been only one comment that got under my skin so far. She was talking about how she had brought some Enstrom's (chocolate toffee) which is made in her home town for some of her friends. I made the comment "you didn't bring any for your daughter?!" She said "no, I wasn't going to tempt you". I asked her "what are you saying?" while I knew darn well what she was saying but she still didn't come right out what she wanted to really say but she said "I'm just saying that you should maybe watch what you put in your mouth".I felt like a little girl again! And it at first made me really mad because if she had never, ever made any comments like that, I wouldn't be the size I am today! But she did. And thanks to The Four Agreements by Don Ruiz - I did not take it personally. One thing my Mom wanted to do while she was here was go for a bra fitting, so yesterday I was sitting in front of the mirror in the dressing room in just my slacks and at first I started noticing my rolls of fat - but then I went into my mantra of "you are beautiful and perfect in every way!"I've been deeply aware of how negative my Mom can be and there have been many times I have turned around what she says into a much more positive comment. And she then said "oh, you're always so positive".Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just proud of the growth I've made where I don't take things personally like I used to, I don't let my buttons get triggered as much, and I'm sooooo much more postive than I used to be and I truly and honestly can say "I LOVE MYSELF!" and no one, especially my Mom can take that away from me.In the past, her comment, and sitting almost naked in front of a three way mirror, would've thrown me into beating myself up and moving into dieting mentality. But so far I'm holding my own and eating what I want around my Mom. It is hard though - she is diabetic and so watches what she eats - When we were looking at a menu she was talking about what looked and sounded good and I said "you should have what you want" and she stated how she has to balance what she's had over the week and I don't think she got what she really wanted. I'm so grateful I can eat what I want when I want. And I've been pretty good at not eating past fullness. This week is definately a good test for me to see just how far I've come.Alana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 Good for you Kim! Im so impressed with how you handled your husbands comments and it's so cool that this is having a positive impact on your son! You are really giving a gift to your whole family by embracing these principles. That is a huge reason why I'm doing this. I've struggled with disordered eating since I was a kid and want so badly for my own children to have a healthy relationship with food and their bodies. Kari From: Alana <ajslintoncomcast (DOT) net>Subject: [intuitiveEating_ Support] Visiting w/ MomTo: IntuitiveEating_ Support@yahoogro ups.comDate: Wednesday, September 17, 2008, 12:26 AM Hi everyone,This week I have taken off from work as my Mom is here visiting. So far so good. I think she is mellowing in her old age and I have grown tremendously and I'm much more accepting and tolerant.There has been only one comment that got under my skin so far. She was talking about how she had brought some Enstrom's (chocolate toffee) which is made in her home town for some of her friends. I made the comment "you didn't bring any for your daughter?!" She said "no, I wasn't going to tempt you". I asked her "what are you saying?" while I knew darn well what she was saying but she still didn't come right out what she wanted to really say but she said "I'm just saying that you should maybe watch what you put in your mouth".I felt like a little girl again! And it at first made me really mad because if she had never, ever made any comments like that, I wouldn't be the size I am today! But she did. And thanks to The Four Agreements by Don Ruiz - I did not take it personally. One thing my Mom wanted to do while she was here was go for a bra fitting, so yesterday I was sitting in front of the mirror in the dressing room in just my slacks and at first I started noticing my rolls of fat - but then I went into my mantra of "you are beautiful and perfect in every way!"I've been deeply aware of how negative my Mom can be and there have been many times I have turned around what she says into a much more positive comment. And she then said "oh, you're always so positive".Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just proud of the growth I've made where I don't take things personally like I used to, I don't let my buttons get triggered as much, and I'm sooooo much more postive than I used to be and I truly and honestly can say "I LOVE MYSELF!" and no one, especially my Mom can take that away from me.In the past, her comment, and sitting almost naked in front of a three way mirror, would've thrown me into beating myself up and moving into dieting mentality. But so far I'm holding my own and eating what I want around my Mom. It is hard though - she is diabetic and so watches what she eats - When we were looking at a menu she was talking about what looked and sounded good and I said "you should have what you want" and she stated how she has to balance what she's had over the week and I don't think she got what she really wanted. I'm so grateful I can eat what I want when I want. And I've been pretty good at not eating past fullness. This week is definately a good test for me to see just how far I've come.Alana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 Wow! Congratulations on your amazing growth Alana! Your story with your mom is so inspirational and gives me hope about the changes that IE can truly bring to your spirit as well as your relationship with food. You're an IE rock star! Kari Subject: Visiting w/ MomTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Wednesday, September 17, 2008, 12:26 AM Hi everyone,This week I have taken off from work as my Mom is here visiting. So far so good. I think she is mellowing in her old age and I have grown tremendously and I'm much more accepting and tolerant.There has been only one comment that got under my skin so far. She was talking about how she had brought some Enstrom's (chocolate toffee) which is made in her home town for some of her friends. I made the comment "you didn't bring any for your daughter?!" She said "no, I wasn't going to tempt you". I asked her "what are you saying?" while I knew darn well what she was saying but she still didn't come right out what she wanted to really say but she said "I'm just saying that you should maybe watch what you put in your mouth".I felt like a little girl again! And it at first made me really mad because if she had never, ever made any comments like that, I wouldn't be the size I am today! But she did. And thanks to The Four Agreements by Don Ruiz - I did not take it personally. One thing my Mom wanted to do while she was here was go for a bra fitting, so yesterday I was sitting in front of the mirror in the dressing room in just my slacks and at first I started noticing my rolls of fat - but then I went into my mantra of "you are beautiful and perfect in every way!"I've been deeply aware of how negative my Mom can be and there have been many times I have turned around what she says into a much more positive comment. And she then said "oh, you're always so positive".Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just proud of the growth I've made where I don't take things personally like I used to, I don't let my buttons get triggered as much, and I'm sooooo much more postive than I used to be and I truly and honestly can say "I LOVE MYSELF!" and no one, especially my Mom can take that away from me.In the past, her comment, and sitting almost naked in front of a three way mirror, would've thrown me into beating myself up and moving into dieting mentality. But so far I'm holding my own and eating what I want around my Mom. It is hard though - she is diabetic and so watches what she eats - When we were looking at a menu she was talking about what looked and sounded good and I said "you should have what you want" and she stated how she has to balance what she's had over the week and I don't think she got what she really wanted. I'm so grateful I can eat what I want when I want. And I've been pretty good at not eating past fullness. This week is definately a good test for me to see just how far I've come.Alana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 Kim, That's so cool that your son is reading IE and you held your own in that situation! Latoya > > > Subject: Visiting w/ Mom > To: IntuitiveEating_Support > Date: Wednesday, September 17, 2008, 12:26 AM > > > > > > > Hi everyone, > This week I have taken off from work as my Mom is here visiting. > So far so good. I think she is mellowing in her old age and I have > grown tremendously and I'm much more accepting and tolerant. > There has been only one comment that got under my skin so far. She > was talking about how she had brought some Enstrom's (chocolate > toffee) which is made in her home town for some of her friends. I > made the comment " you didn't bring any for your daughter?! " She > said " no, I wasn't going to tempt you " . I asked her " what are you > saying? " while I knew darn well what she was saying but she still > didn't come right out what she wanted to really say but she > said " I'm just saying that you should maybe watch what you put in > your mouth " . > I felt like a little girl again! And it at first made me really mad > because if she had never, ever made any comments like that, I > wouldn't be the size I am today! But she did. And thanks to The > Four Agreements by Don Ruiz - I did not take it personally. > > One thing my Mom wanted to do while she was here was go for a bra > fitting, so yesterday I was sitting in front of the mirror in the > dressing room in just my slacks and at first I started noticing my > rolls of fat - but then I went into my mantra of " you are beautiful > and perfect in every way! " > > I've been deeply aware of how negative my Mom can be and there have > been many times I have turned around what she says into a much more > positive comment. And she then said " oh, you're always so positive " . > > Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just proud of the growth I've > made where I don't take things personally like I used to, I don't > let my buttons get triggered as much, and I'm sooooo much more > postive than I used to be and I truly and honestly can say " I LOVE > MYSELF! " and no one, especially my Mom can take that away from me. > > In the past, her comment, and sitting almost naked in front of a > three way mirror, would've thrown me into beating myself up and > moving into dieting mentality. But so far I'm holding my own and > eating what I want around my Mom. It is hard though - she is > diabetic and so watches what she eats - When we were looking at a > menu she was talking about what looked and sounded good and I > said " you should have what you want " and she stated how she has to > balance what she's had over the week and I don't think she got what > she really wanted. I'm so grateful I can eat what I want when I > want. And I've been pretty good at not eating past fullness. This > week is definately a good test for me to see just how far I've come. > Alana > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 Hi Alana, thanks so much for sharing your story and your success that is great news and very inspirational for me. I too have a very negative mom. Although I love her sometimes I don't like her comments and actions. I too have been having much success lately and feeling like a different person. The true test for me will come on Canadian Thanksgiving as my mom is planning a visit at my home. In the past I do alright when I visit her at her place. That's not usually the case when she comes to my house as I can't explain what happens to her. Maybe everything from her past comes barreling forward. Before she got married she had a privileged life, during marriage, not so much. Right now I have a good life - I don't know. Thanks, J. > > Hi everyone, > This week I have taken off from work as my Mom is here visiting. > So far so good. I think she is mellowing in her old age and I have > grown tremendously and I'm much more accepting and tolerant. > There has been only one comment that got under my skin so far. She > was talking about how she had brought some Enstrom's (chocolate > toffee) which is made in her home town for some of her friends. I > made the comment " you didn't bring any for your daughter?! " She > said " no, I wasn't going to tempt you " . I asked her " what are you > saying? " while I knew darn well what she was saying but she still > didn't come right out what she wanted to really say but she > said " I'm just saying that you should maybe watch what you put in > your mouth " . > I felt like a little girl again! And it at first made me really mad > because if she had never, ever made any comments like that, I > wouldn't be the size I am today! But she did. And thanks to The > Four Agreements by Don Ruiz - I did not take it personally. > > One thing my Mom wanted to do while she was here was go for a bra > fitting, so yesterday I was sitting in front of the mirror in the > dressing room in just my slacks and at first I started noticing my > rolls of fat - but then I went into my mantra of " you are beautiful > and perfect in every way! " > > I've been deeply aware of how negative my Mom can be and there have > been many times I have turned around what she says into a much more > positive comment. And she then said " oh, you're always so positive " . > > Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just proud of the growth I've > made where I don't take things personally like I used to, I don't > let my buttons get triggered as much, and I'm sooooo much more > postive than I used to be and I truly and honestly can say " I LOVE > MYSELF! " and no one, especially my Mom can take that away from me. > > In the past, her comment, and sitting almost naked in front of a > three way mirror, would've thrown me into beating myself up and > moving into dieting mentality. But so far I'm holding my own and > eating what I want around my Mom. It is hard though - she is > diabetic and so watches what she eats - When we were looking at a > menu she was talking about what looked and sounded good and I > said " you should have what you want " and she stated how she has to > balance what she's had over the week and I don't think she got what > she really wanted. I'm so grateful I can eat what I want when I > want. And I've been pretty good at not eating past fullness. This > week is definately a good test for me to see just how far I've come. > Alana > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 Good for you Alana - gold stars for you!! Unhooking from relative's 'well meaning' (phooey!) comments is VERY challenging. I am proud that you have come so far and am especially happy to be sharing my IE journey with you too ehugs, Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > Hi everyone, > This week I have taken off from work as my Mom is here visiting. > So far so good. I think she is mellowing in her old age and I have > grown tremendously and I'm much more accepting and tolerant. > There has been only one comment that got under my skin so far. She > was talking about how she had brought some Enstrom's (chocolate > toffee) which is made in her home town for some of her friends. I > made the comment " you didn't bring any for your daughter?! " She > said " no, I wasn't going to tempt you " . I asked her " what are you > saying? " while I knew darn well what she was saying but she still > didn't come right out what she wanted to really say but she > said " I'm just saying that you should maybe watch what you put in > your mouth " . > I felt like a little girl again! And it at first made me really mad > because if she had never, ever made any comments like that, I > wouldn't be the size I am today! But she did. And thanks to The > Four Agreements by Don Ruiz - I did not take it personally. > > One thing my Mom wanted to do while she was here was go for a bra > fitting, so yesterday I was sitting in front of the mirror in the > dressing room in just my slacks and at first I started noticing my > rolls of fat - but then I went into my mantra of " you are beautiful > and perfect in every way! " > > I've been deeply aware of how negative my Mom can be and there have > been many times I have turned around what she says into a much more > positive comment. And she then said " oh, you're always so positive " . > > Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just proud of the growth I've > made where I don't take things personally like I used to, I don't > let my buttons get triggered as much, and I'm sooooo much more > postive than I used to be and I truly and honestly can say " I LOVE > MYSELF! " and no one, especially my Mom can take that away from me. > > In the past, her comment, and sitting almost naked in front of a > three way mirror, would've thrown me into beating myself up and > moving into dieting mentality. But so far I'm holding my own and > eating what I want around my Mom. It is hard though - she is > diabetic and so watches what she eats - When we were looking at a > menu she was talking about what looked and sounded good and I > said " you should have what you want " and she stated how she has to > balance what she's had over the week and I don't think she got what > she really wanted. I'm so grateful I can eat what I want when I > want. And I've been pretty good at not eating past fullness. This > week is definately a good test for me to see just how far I've come. > Alana > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 Wow. My mom sounds exactly like that. Even down to the diabetic part. I am 54 and she can still send me reeling with a comment. Hi everyone, This week I have taken off from work as my Mom is here visiting. So far so good. I think she is mellowing in her old age and I have grown tremendously and I'm much more accepting and tolerant. There has been only one comment that got under my skin so far. She was talking about how she had brought some Enstrom's (chocolate toffee) which is made in her home town for some of her friends. I made the comment " you didn't bring any for your daughter?! " She said " no, I wasn't going to tempt you " . I asked her " what are you saying? " while I knew darn well what she was saying but she still didn't come right out what she wanted to really say but she said " I'm just saying that you should maybe watch what you put in your mouth " . I felt like a little girl again! And it at first made me really mad because if she had never, ever made any comments like that, I wouldn't be the size I am today! But she did. And thanks to The Four Agreements by Don Ruiz - I did not take it personally. One thing my Mom wanted to do while she was here was go for a bra fitting, so yesterday I was sitting in front of the mirror in the dressing room in just my slacks and at first I started noticing my rolls of fat - but then I went into my mantra of " you are beautiful and perfect in every way! " I've been deeply aware of how negative my Mom can be and there have been many times I have turned around what she says into a much more positive comment. And she then said " oh, you're always so positive " . Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just proud of the growth I've made where I don't take things personally like I used to, I don't let my buttons get triggered as much, and I'm sooooo much more postive than I used to be and I truly and honestly can say " I LOVE MYSELF! " and no one, especially my Mom can take that away from me. In the past, her comment, and sitting almost naked in front of a three way mirror, would've thrown me into beating myself up and moving into dieting mentality. But so far I'm holding my own and eating what I want around my Mom. It is hard though - she is diabetic and so watches what she eats - When we were looking at a menu she was talking about what looked and sounded good and I said " you should have what you want " and she stated how she has to balance what she's had over the week and I don't think she got what she really wanted. I'm so grateful I can eat what I want when I want. And I've been pretty good at not eating past fullness. This week is definately a good test for me to see just how far I've come. Alana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2008 Report Share Posted September 18, 2008 That is great Alana! I am so impressed with how you handled your Mom's comments!! I only hope I can do the same next week...I'm the maid of honour at my sister's wedding and I'm wearing a sleeveless dress. I'm sure I'll get the "You arms are too fat for a sleeveless dress" comment. I'm gonna try not to take it personally like you did! I've also been doing a lot of work on loving myself just as I am this year. I'm not gonna let her take that away from me! Kipkabob (Intuitive eating since September 2006) Subject: Visiting w/ MomTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Received: Wednesday, September 17, 2008, 12:26 AM Hi everyone,This week I have taken off from work as my Mom is here visiting. So far so good. I think she is mellowing in her old age and I have grown tremendously and I'm much more accepting and tolerant.There has been only one comment that got under my skin so far. She was talking about how she had brought some Enstrom's (chocolate toffee) which is made in her home town for some of her friends. I made the comment "you didn't bring any for your daughter?!" She said "no, I wasn't going to tempt you". I asked her "what are you saying?" while I knew darn well what she was saying but she still didn't come right out what she wanted to really say but she said "I'm just saying that you should maybe watch what you put in your mouth".I felt like a little girl again! And it at first made me really mad because if she had never, ever made any comments like that, I wouldn't be the size I am today! But she did. And thanks to The Four Agreements by Don Ruiz - I did not take it personally. One thing my Mom wanted to do while she was here was go for a bra fitting, so yesterday I was sitting in front of the mirror in the dressing room in just my slacks and at first I started noticing my rolls of fat - but then I went into my mantra of "you are beautiful and perfect in every way!"I've been deeply aware of how negative my Mom can be and there have been many times I have turned around what she says into a much more positive comment. And she then said "oh, you're always so positive".Sorry for the rambling, I guess I'm just proud of the growth I've made where I don't take things personally like I used to, I don't let my buttons get triggered as much, and I'm sooooo much more postive than I used to be and I truly and honestly can say "I LOVE MYSELF!" and no one, especially my Mom can take that away from me.In the past, her comment, and sitting almost naked in front of a three way mirror, would've thrown me into beating myself up and moving into dieting mentality. But so far I'm holding my own and eating what I want around my Mom. It is hard though - she is diabetic and so watches what she eats - When we were looking at a menu she was talking about what looked and sounded good and I said "you should have what you want" and she stated how she has to balance what she's had over the week and I don't think she got what she really wanted. I'm so grateful I can eat what I want when I want. And I've been pretty good at not eating past fullness. This week is definately a good test for me to see just how far I've come.Alana Now with a new friend-happy design! Try the new Yahoo! Canada Messenger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2008 Report Share Posted September 18, 2008 Kip - about the sleeveless dress - like YOU picked it out?!? Isn't it the bride who decides what she wants her bridesmaids and Maid of Honor to wear?!? Kudos to you for being such a 'trooper' to please your sister. Hold your head up and have a blast! As long as your sister has HER day, you are perfect the way you are too. Lighten up mom ;-) ehugs, Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > That is great Alana! I am so impressed with how you handled your Mom's comments!!  I only hope I can do the same next week...I'm the maid of honour at my sister's wedding and I'm wearing a sleeveless dress. I'm sure I'll get the " You arms are too fat for a sleeveless dress " comment. I'm gonna try not to take it personally like you did! I've also been doing a lot of work on loving myself just as I am this year. I'm not gonna let her take that away from me! > > > Kipkabob > (Intuitive eating since September 2006) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2008 Report Share Posted September 18, 2008 Actually I picked the dress... my sister didn't really care. It was the only one I could find that I thought would look nice on me. It has an empire waist and comes across the front and kinda "hides" my belly somewhat. It had spaghetti straps and was floor length but I had it shortened 8 inches and thicker straps made so I can wear a normal bra with it. I'm picking it up tonight so we'll so how it looks. I have a shawl to wear too to hide my fat arms (as my mother would say...it's not what I think). I think my arms look pretty good! And I'm going to try to continue thinking that despite my mother's comments! Kipkabob (Intuitive eating since September 2006) Subject: Re: Visiting w/ MomTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Received: Thursday, September 18, 2008, 11:31 AM Kip - about the sleeveless dress - like YOU picked it out?!? Isn't itthe bride who decides what she wants her bridesmaids and Maid of Honorto wear?!? Kudos to you for being such a 'trooper' to please yoursister. Hold your head up and have a blast! As long as your sister hasHER day, you are perfect the way you are too. Lighten up mom ;-)ehugs, KatchaIEing since March 2007>> That is great Alana! I am so impressed with how you handled yourMom's comments!! I only hope I can do the same next week...I'mthe maid of honour at my sister's wedding and I'm wearing a sleevelessdress. I'm sure I'll get the "You arms are too fat for a sleevelessdress" comment. I'm gonna try not to take it personally like youdid! I've also been doing a lot of work on loving myself just as I amthis year. I'm not gonna let her take that away from me! > > > Kipkabob> (Intuitive eating since September 2006) Now with a new friend-happy design! Try the new Yahoo! Canada Messenger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2008 Report Share Posted September 18, 2008 Then I am sure that you took care to select the dress that suited you best :) I remember your post with concerns about the spaghetti straps (and bared arms). I'm glad it worked out that you could have wider straps added so that you can wear a regular bra too. I tried on a couple of strapless bras and thought - no way! All these did was push me up and allllll over the top of my body including towards the arms too. Not an attractive look at all. I bet you look very nice in the empire styling too. Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > > > That is great Alana! I am so impressed with how you handled your > Mom's comments!!  I only hope I can do the same next week...I'm > the maid of honour at my sister's wedding and I'm wearing a sleeveless > dress. I'm sure I'll get the " You arms are too fat for a sleeveless > dress " comment. I'm gonna try not to take it personally like you > did! I've also been doing a lot of work on loving myself just as I am > this year. I'm not gonna let her take that away from me! > > > > > > Kipkabob > > (Intuitive eating since September 2006) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________________ > Yahoo! Canada Toolbar: Search from anywhere on the web, and bookmark your favourite sites. Download it now at > http://ca.toolbar.yahoo.com. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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