Re: Re::(what should i do>

August 28, 2000

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Both Anne and Sally are also counselors. Barbara and someone else are

family counselors too. It is not possible for a person to counsel their

self. You can however, sit down and set priorities for every thing and when

decide how best to handle each problem as it comes up. Don't let MSA beat you -

it will try (just as a teenager keeps testing you). Work on the biggest problem

first. With Charlotte that is balance, to beat it she only uses the wheelchair.

Take care, Bill and Charlotte

And Steve Cameron wrote:

> Sally

>

> It is funny how everyone here say to seek help with a therapist. Funny

> that's what I do. I am a counselor in a group home. I am great at giving

> advice, lousy at listening to it. I feel like a hypocrite. I'll always

> tell them what they should do. Then go home and fall apart. My favorite

> line is " Life is not that bad, and things are happening for a reason. " I

> later go home and think life sucks and I can't wait for it to be over. I

> wish I listened to myself. If I did I would probably be a better person and

> counselor.

>

> jennifer

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> Sally Lesline wrote:

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> >

> > Welcome to the world of stressed, overworked, sandwich generation!! I'm

> > sure you deal with other families all the time and are a big help due to

> > your training. Unfortunately, when we are responsible for several

> > generations and trying desperately to take care of ourselves too, there

> > just is not enough of us to go around and everyone wants a piece of us.

> >

> > I'm dealing on a daily basis with the same thing. My father-in-law has

> > MSA, my mother-in-law has had both hips replaced since Jan. this year

> > and my Mother is dealing with rapid loss of mental capacity. She is

> > impossible to deal with about 75% of the time.

> >

> > We, as children, take everything very personally when we must deal with

> > our parents. It is next to impossible to take it any other way but

> > personally. My brothers and I try to joke about the struggle but it is

> > no joking matter most of the time. At one time or another she has tried

> > to have each of us thrown in jail for taking her money, land, belongings

> > or anything else she can think of.

> >

> > , find a therapist you can talk with and unload what you are

> > carrying with you. It is a terrible weight and it is rapidly pulling

> > you under. You cannot function in your own work capacity in the mental

> > state you are in, been there, done that. Your health and your family's

> > health will suffer from it.

> >

> > You most likely will have to deal with your Mother as a child as some of

> > the others have told you. Walk away when she throws her temper tantrum.

> > I've had to do it too. You can not stand and listen to it, it only

> > makes things worse for you. Each verbal assault is like a knife cutting

> > deeper and deeper.

> >

> > Any time you need to vent some frustration, we are here. Most of us

> > know very well what you are going through. Hang On, . I think

> > you have hit overwhelm plus and are functioning only on reflexes at this

> > point. I feel your pain loud and clear and it is familiar pain.

> >

> > Write anytime you need to. I'm at slesline@...

> > I'm sending positive brain waves fast and furious

> > Someone who is now walking in those same shoes

> >

> > Sally in KS

> > Where is was still 101 degrees at 8:30 p.m. tonight

> >

August 29, 2000

Wow...lots of therapists in the group! (I am the other one you were

referencing, I believe). It is a whole different ball game when the ball falls

in your own court, so to speak. Much more difficult. Tackling one day at a

time works the best for me!

Suzanne Grimmesey-Kirk, MFT

Quality Care Management

Voice: 884-1647

FAX: 884-1633

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