Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi Barbara, So sorry to hear what you have been going through and continue to go through. Your ex is the loser, he has lost a very special person. I am so glad you are happy with your son and family and I bet they just love having you there. What a lovely family you must have. You probably haven't had a flare because it's such a relief to be away from him. Very best wishes for your new life x From: Barbara <bcreedon@...> Subject: [ ] My Life Update... Date: Wednesday, 1 April, 2009, 8:47 AM Hi Everyone: As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my attny. and go forward with the divorce. It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle both at the same time. I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more than I could bear at times. You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just deserve each other? I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new home, with my son and family. I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love you all. Hugs, Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi Barbara, I'm happy for you that you are in your new home with people who love you. For every door that closes another one opens. It will take a while to heal from what your husband has put you through, but you will do it. Every day you'll get a step closer to putting him in the past. I'm glad you'll be taking care of your knee. You come first. Many monster hugs! Heidi in Mass. In a message dated 4/1/2009 3:49:26 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, bcreedon@... writes: Hi Everyone: As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my attny. and go forward with the divorce. It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle both at the same time. I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more than I could bear at times. You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. _She also doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just deserve each other? I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new home, with my son and family. I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love you all. Hugs, Barbara **************Worried about job security? Check out the 5 safest jobs in a recession. (http://jobs.aol.com/gallery/growing-job-industries?ncid=emlcntuscare00000003) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Barbara, Sorry to hear you are going through this is it heart-breaking and sad. Glad you never got a major flare from all the stress though. You are a strong woman and I am very glad that you are able to stay with your son and family. I hope and pray that everything from the divorce goes smoothly so you can move on. It is hard, yes, but I know you are a strong woman from what I read on here. Good luck to you and all the best. Texas > > > Hi Everyone: > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > both at the same time. > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > than I could bear at times. > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > deserve each other? > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > home, with my son and family. > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > you all. > > Hugs, > > Barbara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 >Greetings to you, from " Squarehead " (I am a TRUE Norwegian...haha..it seems to be " The Thing " nowadays..but I AM 100% squarehead!) Anyway, even if you don't know me, it matters little..I just wanted to say how sad I feel for you.I have been thru much of the same thing..and I have a " Gift " for you! I was " Published " in a book entitled " Envoking the Muse " , and they gave ME the honor of Page One! Woof! And, so, I give THIS to you!.... ***The Love you have inside you was not love put there to stay, for, love isn't even friendship until you give it away! 'Tis better to give your love away, just to watch it fall, Than to know you had the chance to give..... and didn't try at all.*** k.a.s. Wanna new friend? Be good to yourself! You have every " right " to be here,as much as the stars, and every flower that grows....because God brought you here! with love..(there ARE many kinds of love)....ken > > Hi Everyone: > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > both at the same time. > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > than I could bear at times. > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > deserve each other? > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > home, with my son and family. > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > you all. > > Hugs, > > Barbara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 You will heal, Barbara. Give it some time. I hope your lawyer is an excellent one. Not an MD On Wed, Apr 1, 2009 at 2:47 AM, Barbara <bcreedon@...> wrote: > > Hi Everyone: > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > both at the same time. > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > than I could bear at times. > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > deserve each other? > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > home, with my son and family. > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > you all. > > Hugs, > > Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 OOOO I will keep your positive thoughts that my SSD comes through! Heidi in Mass. _ In a message dated 4/1/2009 12:31:58 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, bcreedon@... writes: Hi Heidi: Many monster hugs to you also!!! You always give me wonderful hugs. I sure do need them!!! Yes, that is so true about doors closing and another one opening. My door opening put me into my new home with my loving family. We are all living the Florida Dream here finally. We are just so happy here. I never dreamed I would be living with my son 7 months ago. Got that great job offer out of the blue last Fall, moved in with me, sold the house in N.H., and here we all are. Amazing when you think of it. I hope you are doing better. I know things were very hard for you, and so glad you got your S.S. disability. I know you are enjoying your new puppy. She is a beauty!!!! Talk soon, and wishing you pain free days ahead. You're the best. Monster hugs to you, Barbara --- In _ (http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/b/barackobam409128.html) _ @groRA-SUPP_ (mailto: ) , sposy@... wrote: > > Hi Barbara, > > I'm happy for you that you are in your new home with people who love you. > For every door that closes another one opens. It will take a while to heal > from what your husband has put you through, but you will do it. Every day > you'll get a step closer to putting him in the past. I'm glad you'll be taking > care of your knee. You come first. Many monster hugs! > > Heidi in Mass. > > > > In a message dated 4/1/2009 3:49:26 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > bcreedon@... writes: > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > both at the same time. > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > than I could bear at times. > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. _She also > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > deserve each other? > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > home, with my son and family. > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > emotionally befo_re surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > you all. > > Hugs, > > Barbara > > > > ************ ************<WBR>**Worried about job security? 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Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 oh Barbara his coming back is part of the process. when mine did it , it reminded me of someone buying a new pair of shoes. They love their new flashy pair but hanker for the comfy old pair. He can't have his cake and eat it also... Your instincts and " guts " know how much happier and at peace you are. Trust yourself. You and your health are priority number 1 God bless....We all care about you. Raniolo From: Barbara <bcreedon@...> Subject: [ ] My Life Update... Date: Wednesday, April 1, 2009, 3:47 AM Hi Everyone: As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my attny. and go forward with the divorce. It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle both at the same time. I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more than I could bear at times. You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just deserve each other? I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new home, with my son and family. I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love you all. Hugs, Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi Barbara - as hard as it is to know that he couldn't keep away from that woman, I'm glad to hear you gave it almost 5 more days and then he showed his true colors and served you with divorce papers. IMHO, this is just another feather in your cap - another game piece on your board - for alimony, medical and whatever else you can get from him. You are entitled to half of the value of the home he is living in, too. Go get him, Barbara. You've done more than your share to try and make this marriage work. His little friend won't have anything left to bleed dry once you're done. I bet she drops him like a hot pancake after that! Serves him right!! Just in case anyone is wondering, I'm not a man-hater. I believe in marriage and the commitment that is made to each other - especially the " in sickness and in health part " which so many seem to fail at. I'm so happy to hear your RA is calm through all of this, Barbara. Best wishes with your Ortho appointment tomorrow. I pray you leg has healed enough for them to fix your knee. You are a blessed woman and your son and is family are blessings as well. May you have a happy and healthy life from here on out......Doreen > > > Hi Everyone: > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. > Two weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He > wanted to talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his + > love for me and he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see > where our marriage stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call > him, no ans. at 9 at night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that > night. I talked with him in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he > spent the night with his w---e. I am all done with him. He has > broken my heart, and I can't take anymore. Today I was served > divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my attny. and go forward with > the divorce. > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my > RA did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't > handle both at the same time. > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks > now. I am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much > better each day since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, > and I will move on with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. > with the broken shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all > this, has been more than I could bear at times. > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this > mess going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there > for me also, and they were both so worried that all this stress > would set off my RA. I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still > taking things one day at a time. When all is said and done, I will > then begin to heal from all this. I never thought anything like > this would ever happen to me. 29 years of marriage destroyed > because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be 66 this Nov. This > w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him clean > financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they > just deserve each other? > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of > you here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That > has meant the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new > life in my new home, with my son and family. > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date > to get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape > physically and emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on > that. > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I > love you all. > > Hugs, > > Barbara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi : Thanks so much. Yes, I know I will heal in due time. My attorney is a woman, and a real tiger. She is very smart, and has great sympathy for me and this situation. She told me the Judge will be very angry when he sees such a long term marriage being terminated. I am also a tiger!!!! I am just waiting today for her to return my call, and get my appt. with her again. God Bless you , and wishing you pain free days. Hugs, Barbara > > > > Hi Everyone: > > > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > > both at the same time. > > > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > > than I could bear at times. > > > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > > deserve each other? > > > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > > home, with my son and family. > > > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > > you all. > > > > Hugs, > > > > Barbara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi : Thanks for your kind words and support. You are so great, taking the time to post to me when you are feeling so bad. Again, wishing you pain free days. You so need it. Love and hugs, Barbara > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > > both at the same time. > > > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > > than I could bear at times. > > > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > > deserve each other? > > > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > > home, with my son and family. > > > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > > you all. > > > > Hugs, > > > > Barbara > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi : I agree with you, he is a loser, and he has lost me for good. It has been a very hard 7 months, and I thank God for all the love and support from my family, friends, and members here. It means a great deal to me. Yes, I sure do have a loving, caring family. I am so loving being here in the new house with my son and family. Last night when I got served with the divorce papers, I went to pieces. Such a sad end to my marriage. But now I can start to really heal. Michele's parents are here from N.H. for a week. They came in shortly after I was served, they put their arms around, and just loved and held me. They are just so nice and wonderful. I felt better after I cried, and I vowed this was my last time to cry. I will now concentrate on my upcoming surgery, and be well both physically and mentally with no more stress, etc. Have a great day, and again thanks for your kind words. Hugs, Barbara > > From: Barbara bcreedon@... > Subject: [ ] My Life Update... > > Date: Wednesday, 1 April, 2009, 8:47 AM > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > both at the same time. > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > than I could bear at times. > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > deserve each other? > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > home, with my son and family. > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > you all. > > Hugs, > > Barbara > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi Doreen: Yes, you are so right. I did try my best, and I can live with that. I will be glad to get this all over with, and get on with my new life. I know you believe in marriage as I do too. He has turned into someone I don't know. He is not the man I fell in love with and was married to for all these years. Yes, she will dump him when she is finsihed with him, and has all his money, etc. As my Dr. said, he will see the light then, and realize what he has lost, all too late. Another beautiful day here too. Great breezes in our home, no need for A.C. since we moved in. I have finished decorating my bedroom, and I am so happy the way it came out. Michele painted it for me, as my leg is so bad I can't stand on it. I can't wait to get my new knee. I bought a elec. chair from the Habitat, and didn't realize it smelled of cig. smoke, so I had it professionally cleaned yesterday. It came out great, no smell anymore, etc. It has made my life so much easier getting in and out of that chair. I couldn't believe what a big diff. it makes. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It will really be great when I come home from my surgery. Thanks again for writing to me with your love and support. God Bless you Doreen, and have a wonderful day. Hugs, Barbara > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. > > Two weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He > > wanted to talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his + > > love for me and he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see > > where our marriage stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call > > him, no ans. at 9 at night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that > > night. I talked with him in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he > > spent the night with his w---e. I am all done with him. He has > > broken my heart, and I can't take anymore. Today I was served > > divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my attny. and go forward with > > the divorce. > > > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my > > RA did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't > > handle both at the same time. > > > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks > > now. I am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much > > better each day since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, > > and I will move on with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. > > with the broken shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all > > this, has been more than I could bear at times. > > > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this > > mess going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there > > for me also, and they were both so worried that all this stress > > would set off my RA. I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still > > taking things one day at a time. When all is said and done, I will > > then begin to heal from all this. I never thought anything like > > this would ever happen to me. 29 years of marriage destroyed > > because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be 66 this Nov. This > > w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him clean > > financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they > > just deserve each other? > > > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of > > you here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That > > has meant the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new > > life in my new home, with my son and family. > > > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date > > to get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape > > physically and emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on > > that. > > > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I > > love you all. > > > > Hugs, > > > > Barbara > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi : I was so glad to get your loving letter. I feel awful that you had to endure all this pain and suffering too. I know you know what all this entails. I will be so glad when all is said and done. Can't wait to go to court before the Judge. I am sure he is a very smart man, and will see what I have had to endure for 7 months. He has never given me one dime until last week. I will be glad when I have a set amount of money each month. I only want what I am entitled to. My leg wound is doing so much better, and I hope my dr. thinks so too, so I can set a date for my knee replacement. I hope you are feeling better each day. You have been through so much lately. Wishing you pain free days ahead. Hugs, Barbara > > From: Barbara bcreedon@... > Subject: [ ] My Life Update... > > Date: Wednesday, April 1, 2009, 3:47 AM > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > both at the same time. > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > than I could bear at times. > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > deserve each other? > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > home, with my son and family. > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > you all. > > Hugs, > > Barbara > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi Ken: Thank you so much for your beautiful " gift " to me. Your letter made me cry. I was so sorry to read that you too have gone through all this. It is just awful, and so sad and heartbreaking. I am sure you never thought you would go through anything like this. I hope your life is much better now, and that you are finally happy again. Thanks for caring, and sending me your supportive letter. Wishing you pain free days ahead. hugs, Barbara > >Greetings to you, from " Squarehead " (I am a TRUE Norwegian...haha..it seems to be " The Thing " nowadays..but I AM 100% squarehead!) Anyway, even if you don't know me, it matters little..I just wanted to say how sad I feel for you.I have been thru much of the same thing..and I have a " Gift " for you! > I was " Published " in a book entitled " Envoking the Muse " , and they gave ME the honor of Page One! Woof! > And, so, I give THIS to you!.... > ***The Love you have inside you > was not love put there to stay, > for, love isn't even friendship > until you give it away! > 'Tis better to give your love away, > just to watch it fall, > Than to know you had the chance to give..... > and didn't try at all.*** > k.a.s. > Wanna new friend? Be good to yourself! > You have every " right " to be here,as much as the stars, and every flower that grows....because God brought you here! > with love..(there ARE many kinds of love)....ken > > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > > both at the same time. > > > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > > than I could bear at times. > > > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > > deserve each other? > > > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > > home, with my son and family. > > > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > > you all. > > > > Hugs, > > > > Barbara > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi Heidi: Many monster hugs to you also!!! You always give me wonderful hugs. I sure do need them!!! Yes, that is so true about doors closing and another one opening. My door opening put me into my new home with my loving family. We are all living the Florida Dream here finally. We are just so happy here. I never dreamed I would be living with my son 7 months ago. Got that great job offer out of the blue last Fall, moved in with me, sold the house in N.H., and here we all are. Amazing when you think of it. I hope you are doing better. I know things were very hard for you, and so glad you got your S.S. disability. I know you are enjoying your new puppy. She is a beauty!!!! Talk soon, and wishing you pain free days ahead. You're the best. Monster hugs to you, Barbara > > Hi Barbara, > > I'm happy for you that you are in your new home with people who love you. > For every door that closes another one opens. It will take a while to heal > from what your husband has put you through, but you will do it. Every day > you'll get a step closer to putting him in the past. I'm glad you'll be taking > care of your knee. You come first. Many monster hugs! > > Heidi in Mass. > > > > In a message dated 4/1/2009 3:49:26 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > bcreedon@... writes: > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > both at the same time. > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > than I could bear at times. > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. _She also > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > deserve each other? > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > home, with my son and family. > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > you all. > > Hugs, > > Barbara > > > > **************Worried about job security? Check out the 5 safest jobs in a > recession. > (http://jobs.aol.com/gallery/growing-job-industries?ncid=emlcntuscare000\ 00003) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 -Go get him !!! Life has many turns and somethimes its how you take those turns can be a blessing. Hugs to you Marie -- In , " Barbara " <bcreedon@...> wrote: > > > Hi Heidi: > > Many monster hugs to you also!!! You always give me wonderful hugs. I > sure do need them!!! > > Yes, that is so true about doors closing and another one opening. My > door opening put me into my new home with my loving family. We are all > living the Florida Dream here finally. We are just so happy here. I > never dreamed I would be living with my son 7 months ago. Got that > great job offer out of the blue last Fall, moved in with me, sold the > house in N.H., and here we all are. Amazing when you think of it. > > I hope you are doing better. I know things were very hard for you, and > so glad you got your S.S. disability. I know you are enjoying your new > puppy. She is a beauty!!!! > > Talk soon, and wishing you pain free days ahead. You're the best. > > Monster hugs to you, > > Barbara > > > > > Hi Barbara, > > > > I'm happy for you that you are in your new home with people who love > you. > > For every door that closes another one opens. It will take a while to > heal > > from what your husband has put you through, but you will do it. Every > day > > you'll get a step closer to putting him in the past. I'm glad you'll > be taking > > care of your knee. You come first. Many monster hugs! > > > > Heidi in Mass. > > > > > > > > In a message dated 4/1/2009 3:49:26 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > > bcreedon@ writes: > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted > to > > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me > and > > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his > w---e. > > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > > both at the same time. > > > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > > than I could bear at times. > > > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my > RA. > > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will > be > > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. _She also > > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they > just > > deserve each other? > > > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has > meant > > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my > new > > home, with my son and family. > > > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > > you all. > > > > Hugs, > > > > Barbara > > > > > > > > **************Worried about job security? Check out the 5 safest jobs > in a > > recession. > > > (http://jobs.aol.com/gallery/growing-job-industries?ncid=emlcntuscare000\ > 00003) > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Oops, I made a mistake. I thought you got it, and now I sure hope you do. Maybe my wish will come through that you indeed get it. You so deserve it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Monster hugs to you, Barbara > > > > Hi Barbara, > > > > I'm happy for you that you are in your new home with people who love > you. > > For every door that closes another one opens. It will take a while to > heal > > from what your husband has put you through, but you will do it. Every > day > > you'll get a step closer to putting him in the past. I'm glad you'll > be taking > > care of your knee. You come first. Many monster hugs! > > > > Heidi in Mass. > > > > > > > > In a message dated 4/1/2009 3:49:26 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > > bcreedon@ writes: > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted > to > > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me > and > > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his > w---e. > > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > > both at the same time. > > > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > > than I could bear at times. > > > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my > RA. > > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will > be > > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. _She also > > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they > just > > deserve each other? > > > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has > meant > > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my > new > > home, with my son and family. > > > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > > emotionally befo_re surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > > you all. > > > > Hugs, > > > > Barbara > > > > > > > > ************ ************<WBR>**Worried about job security? Check out > in a > > recession. > > > (_ (http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/b/barackobam409128.html) > _http://jobs.http://jobs.<WBRhttp://jobs.http://jobshttp://jobs.<WBRhttp\ : > 00003_ > (http://jobs.aol.com/gallery/growing-job-industries?ncid=emlcntuscare000\ 00003) _) > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Thanks Marie, I will do my damnest!!!!!! Can't wait to get things right in my new life. Hugs, Barbara > > > > > > Hi Barbara, > > > > > > I'm happy for you that you are in your new home with people who love > > you. > > > For every door that closes another one opens. It will take a while to > > heal > > > from what your husband has put you through, but you will do it. Every > > day > > > you'll get a step closer to putting him in the past. I'm glad you'll > > be taking > > > care of your knee. You come first. Many monster hugs! > > > > > > Heidi in Mass. > > > > > > > > > > > > In a message dated 4/1/2009 3:49:26 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > > > bcreedon@ writes: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Everyone: > > > > > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > > > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted > > to > > > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me > > and > > > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > > > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > > > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > > > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his > > w---e. > > > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > > > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > > > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > > > > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > > > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > > > both at the same time. > > > > > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > > > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > > > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > > > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > > > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > > > than I could bear at times. > > > > > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > > > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > > > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my > > RA. > > > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > > > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > > > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > > > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will > > be > > > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > > > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > > > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. _She also > > > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they > > just > > > deserve each other? > > > > > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > > > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has > > meant > > > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my > > new > > > home, with my son and family. > > > > > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > > > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > > > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > > > > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > > > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > > > you all. > > > > > > Hugs, > > > > > > Barbara > > > > > > > > > > > > **************Worried about job security? Check out the 5 safest jobs > > in a > > > recession. > > > > > (http://jobs.aol.com/gallery/growing-job-industries?ncid=emlcntuscare000\ \ > > 00003) > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 hi barbara so sorry to hear u r going thru all of this. your hubby is a sad man. i just don't understand ppl sometimes?! i am so glad you have gotten away from such a destructive situation and are in a good loving environment. that will only help your health i am sure. monique Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi : Thank you, and I am in a happy place. Nothing like loving family to be with. When my husband wakes up, it will be too late for us, and he will be in a mess when his w---e takes him for everything he has, and he is all alone. I am so happy to be out of all that pain and suffering each day......... Hugs, Barbara --- In , Sauve <moniquesauve@...> wrote: > > hi barbara > > so sorry to hear u r going thru all of this. your hubby is a sad man. i > just don't understand ppl sometimes?! i am so glad you have gotten away > from such a destructive situation and are in a good loving environment. > that will only help your health i am sure. > > monique > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 hi barbara... You are truely a inspiration!!!!!!You sound positive with a great attitude...I just hope what you write is truly the way you feel..because its remarkable!!!!your my hero.... diane in ohio Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi Diane: Yes, this is how I am. I have always been a positve person, thank God for that. It has carried me through my entire life. Thanks for telling me that I am an inspiration to you. I hope I don't let you down. I feel I am just an ordinary person. I do write the way I feel. This group of all you wonderful people, have been so good for me. You have always given me such great help, advise, and most of all, really caring about how I am doing and how I am feeling. I have made so many friends here. I am so glad I found this group. Take care of yourself, and wishing you pain free days ahead. You are so kind to me. Thanks. Hugs, Barbara --- In , " diane crawford " <nuttynurse25@...> wrote: > > hi barbara... > > You are truely a inspiration!!!!!!You sound positive with a great attitude...I just hope what you write is truly the way you feel..because its remarkable!!!!your my hero.... > > > diane in ohio > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2009 Report Share Posted April 1, 2009 Hi Barbara, I am so sorry for what your husband has done to you. But without all the stress of him seeing someone else and you moving on, your life will be so much better. I know that it has to hurt because you have a history with him and I know it will take awhile to get over him totally but you are lucky you have such a loving family to stand by you. In the end, he will get his. I firmly believe what goes around, comes around. Concentrate on you. We're all here for you. *Big Hugs To You* Shay in Michigan -- [ ] My Life Update... Hi Everyone: As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my attny. and go forward with the divorce. It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle both at the same time. I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more than I could bear at times. You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just deserve each other? I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new home, with my son and family. I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love you all. Hugs, Barbara ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2009 Report Share Posted April 2, 2009 Hi Shay: Thanks for your very nice supportive letter to me. Yes, I know in time I will feel so much better. It is hard right now because I still love him so. I too know that will end later up the road. Yes, everyone here has always been so supportive to me. That's why the people here are so great. They are here for all of us, and truly understand what these auto-immune diseases do to us, and what we go through on a daily basis. They help so much when we are troubled, and help us when our pain is outrageous, and we get depressed. Wishing you pain free days ahead. Hugs, Barbara > > Hi Barbara, > I am so sorry for what your husband has done to you. But without all the > stress of him seeing someone else and you moving on, your life will be so > much better. I know that it has to hurt because you have a history with him > and I know it will take awhile to get over him totally but you are lucky you > have such a loving family to stand by you. In the end, he will get his. I > firmly believe what goes around, comes around. Concentrate on you. We're all > here for you. > *Big Hugs To You* > Shay in Michigan > > -- [ ] My Life Update... > > Hi Everyone: > > As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two > weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to > talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and > he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage > stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at > night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him > in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e. > I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take > anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my > attny. and go forward with the divorce. > > It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA > did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle > both at the same time. > > I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I > am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day > since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on > with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken > shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more > than I could bear at times. > > You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess > going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also, > and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA. > I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a > time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all > this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29 > years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be > 66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him > clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she > doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also > doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just > deserve each other? > > I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you > here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant > the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new > home, with my son and family. > > I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to > get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and > emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that. > > Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving > support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love > you all. > > Hugs, > > Barbara > > > > > > > ------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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