Interesting weekend.....

[Guest guest]

Hey all, I've been catching up for the past few days... I had a

Flyball tournament this weekend. There was a girl there, whom I

have " known " for a long time, meaning we've gone to the same events

for about 11 years. She has always been a heavy girl, about my size

for all time that I have known her. Well, I saw her at a tournament

in January and she had lost some weight. When I asked her she said

that she had just been exercising more, started running, etc... But

when I saw her this past weekend she was skinny, I mean, I've seen

her around for 11 years and I didn't recognize her, skinny! Well, I

overheard her talking to some of my teammates, and I didn't realize

this but she had had weight loss surgery (I'm not sure what kind),

and runs 4 miles 4 times per DAY, in addition to doing the eliptical

machine for an hour a day. I thought, my god! She went from one

extreme to the other! Seriously! When I first saw her I had that

familiar twinge of jelousy when other people seem to be able to

skinny up and I never could, but after hearing about what she does,

I realized that what I am doing is just right. I am not trying to

lose weight, I am trying to fix my whole self, and that takes a lot

more than extreme exercise and surgery. It was a very foreign

feeling not to beat myself up for not doing " as well as she did " or

just jumping back on the diet bandwagon on Monday after seeing her

extreme body transformation. Funny thing is, of course everyone was

complimenting her, and it just encourages the unhealthy behavior. I

refrained from saying anything to her because I didn't think that

extreme exercise was something that should be positively reinforced.

I wished I could tell her about IE, but I don't really know

her " personally " so to speak, and I didn't want to offend. Besides,

once you have surgery it's done, I felt like it would be closing the

barn door after the horse is loose... I don't know.. I feel like I

should help, but don't really know how, especially since I am not

an " after " by any means, why should she listen to me? Know what I

mean? Is it really my business? I guess this is what it still

bothering me about her.

Meg

IE since Feb 08

[Guest guest]

megnponcho wrote:

> I feel like I

> should help, but don't really know how, especially since I am not

> an " after " by any means, why should she listen to me? Know what I

> mean? Is it really my business? I guess this is what it still

> bothering me about her.

Why does it bother you?

Regards

s.

[Guest guest]

I know you have good intentions, but I don't if it would do you or her

any good to help. She might take it the wrong way. Everyone has to

find their own way using their own thing, and if this is it for her

for the time being, so be it. Just know that you are confident in what

you are doing and forge on ahead with your own journey.

-le

>

> > I feel like I

> > should help, but don't really know how, especially since I am not

> > an " after " by any means, why should she listen to me? Know what I

> > mean? Is it really my business? I guess this is what it still

> > bothering me about her.

>

> Why does it bother you?

>

> Regards

> s.

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks y'all.. (I'm catching up after a long weekend) Yes, I guess

this is what was bothering me. Now that I've found a better way to

live, I want to help others that are struggling, but didn't really

feel like I could in this situation. Well, hopefully she will find

her way as well, and be happy, too.

Meg

IE since Feb '08

> >

> > > I feel like I

> > > should help, but don't really know how, especially since I am

not

> > > an " after " by any means, why should she listen to me? Know

what I

> > > mean? Is it really my business? I guess this is what it still

> > > bothering me about her.

> >

> > Why does it bother you?

> >

> > Regards

> > s.

> >

>