My Life Update...

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Hi Everyone:

As most of you know, things have been just awful with my marriage. Two

weeks ago my husband said he was all done with his w----e. He wanted to

talk, could I forgive him, " no " I said. He declared his love for me and

he misses me. He suggested we take 60 days to see where our marriage

stood, etc. Not even 5 days later I had to call him, no ans. at 9 at

night. Needless to say, I did not sleep that night. I talked with him

in the a.m., etc. and lo and behold, he spent the night with his w---e.

I am all done with him. He has broken my heart, and I can't take

anymore. Today I was served divorce papers. Tomorrow I will call my

attny. and go forward with the divorce.

It is a miracle that through all this in the past 7 months that my RA

did not flare with all the stress I am under. I knew I couldn't handle

both at the same time.

I have been in my new house with my son and family for 3 weeks now. I

am loving it so much. I was starting to feel so much better each day

since I moved here. I have done so much thinking, and I will move on

with my life. Between 2 1/2 months in the hosp. with the broken

shoulder and broken foot, then coming home to all this, has been more

than I could bear at times.

You all have been so kind, loving, and supportive during all this mess

going on in my life. My PCP and my Rheumy have been there for me also,

and they were both so worried that all this stress would set off my RA.

I prayed so hard that it didn't. I am still taking things one day at a

time. When all is said and done, I will then begin to heal from all

this. I never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. 29

years of marriage destroyed because he wants that 40+ w---e. He will be

66 this Nov. This w---e loves old men, and I am sure she will pick him

clean financially. She will not go out in public with him as she

doesn't want anyone to know she is dating a married man. She also

doesn't want anyone at the nursing home to know either. Don't they just

deserve each other?

I have such loving friends and a loving family. I have so many of you

here who have written to me, and gave me loving support. That has meant

the world to me. I am looking forward to starting my new life in my new

home, with my son and family.

I have the appt. with my Orthopedic dr. this Thurs., and get a date to

get my new knee replacement. I want to be in good shape physically and

emotionally before surgery. I am concentrating on that.

Wishing you all pain free days, and again, thanks for your loving

support of me during the terrible months of stress and sadness. I love

you all.

Hugs,

Barbara