Re: Help...regressing...

October 13, 2008

Hi ,

I would say that you have made a step towards what you want (IE) just

by posting. You seem aware of what is going on for you at this moment

as well as desiring a change (IE) that you believe is positive for

yourself too. With IE you don't 'fail' as you just begin doing those

practices that you are comfortable with knowing that you will be doing

the 'next' as you are able to.

Which IE practice are you able to do? How do you feel about diet

mentality? Have you legalized (all) foods for yourself? Have you any

awareness of emotions triggering eating for you?

Again, just tackling one of these is a big step forward for you. Hope

to hear from you soon and BEST wishes to you as well.

PS I seem to be 'stuck' in my own patterns too, but determined to not

give into them either.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Hello Everyone,

>

> I have not emailed in a while and I regrettably admit that I have

> stopped reading the posts as much. I was doing very well at IE and

> making progress with binging and doing well and was moving on to

> working on stopping when I was full. I have been stuck for some time

> now and seem to be regressing on my journey. I just keep having days

> where I want to do nothing but eat and it's getting worse and the

> eating is getting worse and therefore I am feeling worse about myself

> and my body. and of course those feeling just feed the cycle. All I

> see when I look at myself is fat, fat, fat and I can't get past that

> to see the good about some things that I see. And so now lately I have

> had thoughts of wanting to go back to the diet mentality and restrict

> things and start counting calories. And I keep trying to talk myself

> out of it saying that I was in no better of a place then than I am

> right now. I am just sick of it and sick of not losing weight and not

> knowing how to get past it all. And I keep trying to figure out

> what's going on in my head and fix that first before I can work on the

> eating stuff, but I just get so bogged down with it all I don't know

> what to do to change it.

>

October 14, 2008

i really hope this post doesn't come off as preachy.

It seems to me that you're getting a bit stuck in all-or-nothing

thinking: " Either I will binge or I will strictly diet. " I think you

have some sense yourself that this is not necessarily the truth,

though, because you made a post here and talked a little about your

troubles. Intuitive eating isn't always perfect, true, but is binging

perfect? Is dieting even perfect? (Thought: How can something be

perfect, or make you perfect, if it also makes you miserable and

obsessive?)

I think you do know that dieting won't fix all your ills. Binging

won't either, of course. So maybe you could try to find that middle

ground again... the IE, or something approximating IE/normal eating

(whatever works for you)... while at the same time trying to figure

out what's triggered this round of binging. Did something change in

your life recently? Have you been more stressed, more depressed, more

bored, lonelier? If so, why? And is there anything you can do for

yourself to try and ease off those tensions a little?

Just some thoughts I thought I'd throw out there. I hope something

helps.

~Carolyn