Re: Re: (what should i do) from someone who has cared for their mother and mother-in-law

[Guest guest]

thank you for your words. nice to know i am not alone.

and Marilyn wrote:

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> I sympathize with you.

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> We had my mother with us several years ago. She did not have MSA/SDS, but a

> disabilitating disease. Her reaction to me could change by the day, maybe

> even by the hour. She was with us for most of five years and we had the

> responsibility for her needs for 3-4 years prior to that. My brothers and

> sister were always perfect, but never here to help. I was most always the

> bad guy, but always here when she needed me.

>

> It will not make your life any easier, but know that there are others out

> here who are doing or have done what you are doing. My mother-in-law, who

> we also cared for, was much easier to work with. I have wondered if the

> problem with my mother and I could have been conflict between mother and

> child. I do not know what is the best thing to do. I worry about how my

> own children will care for me. I am concerned that I may act the same way

> my mother did.

>

> Best wishes. Marilyn in TN

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> >To: Pam Bower <shydrageregroups>

> >Subject: msa re:(what should i do)

> >Date: Sun, Aug 27, 2000, 7:02 PM

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