Re: Acceptance and weighing

[Guest guest]

Hi Alana,

What you said about weighing makes a lot of sense. It is important to

know our motives, why we are doing things is important.

Since there has been a fair amount of talk lately about acceptance,

I'd like to share this quote I like from a book that has nothing to

do with Intuitive Eating, but I think teh quote applies. I've

modified it a little.

" And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am

disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or

situation--some fact of my life--unnacceptable to me, and I can find

no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as

being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing,

absolutely nothng happens in this world by mistake. Unless I accept

life completely on lifes terms, I cannot be happy. I need to

concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as

on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitutdes. "

Arnie

>

> Tammy,

> You will get there, but you are right, The diet mentality is very

> programmed and ingrained. The first step is to reject the fashion

> magazines and the diet articles - they won't help you at all. I am

> now able to read them and roll my eyes and laugh because they are

> absolute rubbish!

> As far as weighing, you can if you really want to (I keep my scale

> in my bathroom because I like knowing that if I really want to I

can

> step on it), but ask yourself, what does it mean to you? What does

> the number represent? How does it make you feel? I finally

> realized that the number was never what I expected it to be and

then

> I felt absolutely crummy. So I stopped. I can now step on the

> scale at the dr's office and know that the number does not

represent

> anything about me as a person. It is just a number!

> Alana

>

>

[Guest guest]

Arnie,

That is a very true quote, now I just have to get myself to do it.

I think that is the hardest part, reprogramming ourselves. It is

a very tiring experience.

Tammy

-- Re: Acceptance and weighing

Hi Alana,What you said about weighing makes a lot of sense. It is important to know our motives, why we are doing things is important.Since there has been a fair amount of talk lately about acceptance, I'd like to share this quote I like from a book that has nothing to do with Intuitive Eating, but I think teh quote applies. I've modified it a little."And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation--some fact of my life--unnacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothng happens in this world by mistake. Unless I accept life completely on lifes terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitutdes."Arnie>> Tammy,> You will get there, but you are right, The diet mentality is very > programmed and ingrained. The first step is to reject the fashion > magazines and the diet articles - they won't help you at all. I am > now able to read them and roll my eyes and laugh because they are > absolute rubbish!> As far as weighing, you can if you really want to (I keep my scale > in my bathroom because I like knowing that if I really want to I can > step on it), but ask yourself, what does it mean to you? What does > the number represent? How does it make you feel? I finally > realized that the number was never what I expected it to be and then > I felt absolutely crummy. So I stopped. I can now step on the > scale at the dr's office and know that the number does not represent > anything about me as a person. It is just a number!> Alana> >

[Guest guest]

I found it took me some time as well to stop weighing. I tried

hiding the scale but always found it. Each day it got easier as I

got tired of the emotional rollcoaster I found myself on every day I

weighed; today I lost a pound - yay, today I gained a pound - blah.

Even though I have not been feeling too comfortable (working out is

very important to me but I've been feeling lazy lately but not for

much longer) with my weight lately I'm on a very important journey of

rediscovery of a day when I ate normally for hunger and not for

emotions (don't even know when or how that happened). Each step

closer feels like a huge victory and I know one day the weight and

eating will be normal once again.

J.

> >

> > Tammy,

> > You will get there, but you are right, The diet mentality is very

> > programmed and ingrained. The first step is to reject the

fashion

> > magazines and the diet articles - they won't help you at all. I

am

> > now able to read them and roll my eyes and laugh because they are

> > absolute rubbish!

> > As far as weighing, you can if you really want to (I keep my

scale

> > in my bathroom because I like knowing that if I really want to I

> can

> > step on it), but ask yourself, what does it mean to you? What

does

> > the number represent? How does it make you feel? I finally

> > realized that the number was never what I expected it to be and

> then

> > I felt absolutely crummy. So I stopped. I can now step on the

> > scale at the dr's office and know that the number does not

> represent

> > anything about me as a person. It is just a number!

> > Alana

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Alana

Boy, you got me with that scale! I feel so crummy also when I get on it. You know,

there were weeks where I would not go over 1500 calories, and exercise at leat 20 minutes a day,

and then weigh in a week or two later, and nothing. Not an ounce gone. I would be so depressed.

I just have to learn to let go, I am not saying to eat the whole house, but try and relax, and let go

of this obession that is getting me no where. It isn't easy, there are days where I still run to the computer

to log in every little piece of food, I am trying to stop that, is isn't as easy as you would think!

Tammy

-- Welcome to all the newbies!> > > > I wanted to extend a huge, warm welcome to all the new people that > > have joined our group. Katcha and Eva who help monitor the group > > and usually send out the welcomes are both on vacations. So I > > thought I would welcome you and let you know that if you have any > > questions, please ask. You will find tons of support here.> > > > I think often times when one joins this group they join as a last > > effort to hopefully loose weight. I know I did. I just wanted to > > say that the greatest things I have gained from IE is that the > > obsessiveness stopped for me. I feel much saner and healthier in > > mind, body and spirit. I think I'm much happier too. And, I have > > learned to love and accept my body. It doesn't mean that I don't > > want to loose any weight because I do, but the focus has shifted > and > > it is no longer my main goal. If it happens, it happens. I know > > that I am a good Mom and wonderful person even if I'm not thin. If > > people don't like me the way I am, that is their problem not mine. > > I strive to be as healthy as I possibly can. I wish this for all > of > > you new people as well.> > > > Alana> >>