Please help. Children and IE :(

[Guest guest]

This may be a little long...can anybody help?

Our middle son (age 5) is autistic with extremely limited

communication. We tried him on a special diet for his behaviors 2

years ago with basically nothing wheat or milk. It didn't work and we

stopped.

Since then he will eat NOTHING but junk. He won't touch fruit. His one

vegetable, corn, he has recently stopped eating. He won't eat most

meats. He won't eat chicken. We are down to next to nothing " whole "

that he will eat. He will only eat popcorn, chips, candy, cereal, etc.

He also snacks constantly. Mind you, this child is not overweight.

He's exactly the same in the height and weight percentile. The little

one is 2. He is just barely higher in weight than height percentiles.

They eat ALL AFTERNOON. They beg for food every 15-30 minutes,

seriously. We got home from school at 2:00. It's now 4:00. Since they

got home I have been up and down to make them:

peanut butter and jelly (the little one)

candy (the bigger one found it) (this happened twice)

Sun Chips (the bigger one)

several rounds of juice to drink

pop corn

I am serving chicken for dinner. The bigger guy will absolutely refuse

to eat it. Then he'll beg for snacks ALL night. He'll beg for at least

as many snacks as shown above.

I'm EXHAUSTED. I literally jump up and down to get them cr*p all day

and all night in addition to taking care of the house completely alone

and freelancing from home.

I don't want to force them to eat " just good food " because I'm afraid

of all the stuff I've read in the IE book about not understanding our

own hunger cues and what we want since our parents tell us what we

want. Now I'm the parent.

Please help me...how can I IE while at the same time, forcing my kids

to eat less amounts of time and eat certain things? It's very

hypocritical. I don't know what to do. I'm almost in tears.

[Guest guest]

I have the EXACT same problem with my children. They, too, eat constantly. They eat lots of carbs and protien (mostly carbs), not too much veggies and fruits. Any sugary snack they can wheedle out of me, they eat. I struggle with feeling hypocritical too. My older son (14) has read alot of my IE book and knows that I'm recovering from an eating disorder. My younger son (10) eat compulsively and tends to binge. It is very scary and frustrating for me. Like your son, my sons have some mental health issues (The older son has bipolar disorder, my younger ADHD).

Unfortunately, I have not figured out how to deal with their constant snacking and food choices. I try not too "make" them eat "good" foods, but it is very hard. I have been near tears over it, too. So I guess I can only offer my understanding - I don't have any solutions yet!! I may never, honestly. I get easily overwhelmed with my kids eating habits and tend to shut down about it. I'm still learning my own body's needs and signals. How can I presume to know what my kids' bodies need?? I share your frustration. My kids are older, so I don't actually have to get/make the food for them.

Hang in there!!

Kim

IE since Aug 08

Subject: Please help. Children and IE :(To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, November 17, 2008, 7:04 PM

This may be a little long...can anybody help?Our middle son (age 5) is autistic with extremely limitedcommunication. We tried him on a special diet for his behaviors 2years ago with basically nothing wheat or milk. It didn't work and westopped.Since then he will eat NOTHING but junk. He won't touch fruit. His onevegetable, corn, he has recently stopped eating. He won't eat mostmeats. He won't eat chicken. We are down to next to nothing "whole"that he will eat. He will only eat popcorn, chips, candy, cereal, etc.He also snacks constantly. Mind you, this child is not overweight.He's exactly the same in the height and weight percentile. The littleone is 2. He is just barely higher in weight than height percentiles.They eat ALL AFTERNOON. They beg for food every 15-30 minutes,seriously. We got home from school at 2:00. It's now 4:00. Since theygot home I have been up and down to

make them:peanut butter and jelly (the little one)candy (the bigger one found it) (this happened twice)Sun Chips (the bigger one)several rounds of juice to drinkpop cornI am serving chicken for dinner. The bigger guy will absolutely refuseto eat it. Then he'll beg for snacks ALL night. He'll beg for at leastas many snacks as shown above.I'm EXHAUSTED. I literally jump up and down to get them cr*p all dayand all night in addition to taking care of the house completely aloneand freelancing from home.I don't want to force them to eat "just good food" because I'm afraidof all the stuff I've read in the IE book about not understanding ourown hunger cues and what we want since our parents tell us what wewant. Now I'm the parent.Please help me...how can I IE while at the same time, forcing my kidsto eat less amounts of time and eat certain things? It's

veryhypocritical. I don't know what to do. I'm almost in tears.

[Guest guest]

I feel for you. I can imagine how overwhelming what your experiencing

can be. Remember to breath and try to relax when you can. I believe

that the effort you're making with IE will be an excellent model for

your children over the long-run.

If I were you, I'd experiment with some fun things that didn't add

more stress to my life.

I don't know...when they want to eat...maybe make eating fruit or

other more wholesome foods some type of game to appeal to them, to

show that you like/eat a variety of foods, and to see how they respond.

If you place some different types of food on a table within reach for

them, would they continue to eat and eat or stop when their tummies

are full? Are they eating for true hunger? As adults, we can go to the

fridge and cabinets to get whatever we want while smaller children

have more limited options. It's mommy or daddy can I have this or

that...

Are they super active kids? Are there games, activities, or other

things to distract them and channel their energy?

It sounds like what you're feeling has built up over time. How can you

relieve the pressure you're feeling regularly in affirming ways?

Sending you calming energy and strength via the internet.

Latoya

>

> This may be a little long...can anybody help?

>

> Our middle son (age 5) is autistic with extremely limited

> communication. We tried him on a special diet for his behaviors 2

> years ago with basically nothing wheat or milk. It didn't work and we

> stopped.

>

> Since then he will eat NOTHING but junk. He won't touch fruit. His one

> vegetable, corn, he has recently stopped eating. He won't eat most

> meats. He won't eat chicken. We are down to next to nothing " whole "

> that he will eat. He will only eat popcorn, chips, candy, cereal, etc.

>

> He also snacks constantly. Mind you, this child is not overweight.

> He's exactly the same in the height and weight percentile. The little

> one is 2. He is just barely higher in weight than height percentiles.

>

> They eat ALL AFTERNOON. They beg for food every 15-30 minutes,

> seriously. We got home from school at 2:00. It's now 4:00. Since they

> got home I have been up and down to make them:

>

> peanut butter and jelly (the little one)

> candy (the bigger one found it) (this happened twice)

> Sun Chips (the bigger one)

> several rounds of juice to drink

> pop corn

>

> I am serving chicken for dinner. The bigger guy will absolutely refuse

> to eat it. Then he'll beg for snacks ALL night. He'll beg for at least

> as many snacks as shown above.

>

> I'm EXHAUSTED. I literally jump up and down to get them cr*p all day

> and all night in addition to taking care of the house completely alone

> and freelancing from home.

>

> I don't want to force them to eat " just good food " because I'm afraid

> of all the stuff I've read in the IE book about not understanding our

> own hunger cues and what we want since our parents tell us what we

> want. Now I'm the parent.

>

> Please help me...how can I IE while at the same time, forcing my kids

> to eat less amounts of time and eat certain things? It's very

> hypocritical. I don't know what to do. I'm almost in tears.

>

[Guest guest]

A great book that a nutritionist recommended to me for one of my kids (3 yrs) is " How to get your kid to eat but not too much " by Ellyn Satter. It has a similar vibe to IE but is geared towards parents for feeding their kids. It is a nutrition classic - published in the 80s. I thought it was very good and certainly helped me a great deal with my child. Nowadays I'm just way more relaxed with him and meal / snack times are a lot more pleasurable.

Good luck!

I feel for you. I can imagine how overwhelming what your experiencingcan be. Remember to breath and try to relax when you can. I believethat the effort you're making with IE will be an excellent model for

your children over the long-run.If I were you, I'd experiment with some fun things that didn't addmore stress to my life.I don't know...when they want to eat...maybe make eating fruit or

other more wholesome foods some type of game to appeal to them, toshow that you like/eat a variety of foods, and to see how they respond.If you place some different types of food on a table within reach for

them, would they continue to eat and eat or stop when their tummiesare full? Are they eating for true hunger? As adults, we can go to thefridge and cabinets to get whatever we want while smaller childrenhave more limited options. It's mommy or daddy can I have this or

that...:)Are they super active kids? Are there games, activities, or otherthings to distract them and channel their energy?It sounds like what you're feeling has built up over time. How can you

relieve the pressure you're feeling regularly in affirming ways?Sending you calming energy and strength via the internet.Latoya>> This may be a little long...can anybody help?> > Our middle son (age 5) is autistic with extremely limited> communication. We tried him on a special diet for his behaviors 2

> years ago with basically nothing wheat or milk. It didn't work and we> stopped.> > Since then he will eat NOTHING but junk. He won't touch fruit. His one> vegetable, corn, he has recently stopped eating. He won't eat most

> meats. He won't eat chicken. We are down to next to nothing " whole " > that he will eat. He will only eat popcorn, chips, candy, cereal, etc.> > He also snacks constantly. Mind you, this child is not overweight.

> He's exactly the same in the height and weight percentile. The little> one is 2. He is just barely higher in weight than height percentiles.> > They eat ALL AFTERNOON. They beg for food every 15-30 minutes,

> seriously. We got home from school at 2:00. It's now 4:00. Since they> got home I have been up and down to make them:> > peanut butter and jelly (the little one)> candy (the bigger one found it) (this happened twice)

> Sun Chips (the bigger one)> several rounds of juice to drink> pop corn> > I am serving chicken for dinner. The bigger guy will absolutely refuse> to eat it. Then he'll beg for snacks ALL night. He'll beg for at least

> as many snacks as shown above.> > I'm EXHAUSTED. I literally jump up and down to get them cr*p all day> and all night in addition to taking care of the house completely alone> and freelancing from home.

> > I don't want to force them to eat " just good food " because I'm afraid> of all the stuff I've read in the IE book about not understanding our> own hunger cues and what we want since our parents tell us what we

> want. Now I'm the parent.> > Please help me...how can I IE while at the same time, forcing my kids> to eat less amounts of time and eat certain things? It's very> hypocritical. I don't know what to do. I'm almost in tears.

>

[Guest guest]

I would agree with Jill - take a look at Ellyn Satter's books and other

materials; she's very well respected in the field of IE and children's

nutrition. If you check our her website, you'll see there's a lot of

reference material on her Resources page - hopefully some of that might

be of use or interest to you.

www.ellynsatter.com

Best of luck

Sig

>

> A great book that a nutritionist recommended to me for one of my kids

(3

> yrs) is " How to get your kid to eat but not too much " by Ellyn

Satter. It

> has a similar vibe to IE but is geared towards parents for feeding

their

> kids. It is a nutrition classic - published in the 80s. I thought

it was

> very good and certainly helped me a great deal with my child.

Nowadays I'm

> just way more relaxed with him and meal / snack times are a lot more

> pleasurable.

>

> Good luck!

[Guest guest]

I'm no expert, but by observing other people's kids who have no

restrictions on eating, usually the kids will eat a lot when they

are playing video games or watching TV or whatever, a lot like us

when we eat more, or eat when not physically hungry, with

distractions. When it is time to sit down for a meal, they don't

want it. I wonder what would happen (unless you already do this) is

to give them whatever they want, but they have to sit down at the

table and eat it without distractions. If they are hungry enough

they will sit down and eat. If they are just eating to accompany

whatever else they are doing, they might not want to eat all the

time, because they have to pause the other activity. I don't know if

this is possible with autistic children, and having a ADD sister, I

know this was a challenge for her, but maybe???

Just thinking...

Meg

IE Since Feb '08

> >

> > A great book that a nutritionist recommended to me for one of my

kids

> (3

> > yrs) is " How to get your kid to eat but not too much " by Ellyn

> Satter. It

> > has a similar vibe to IE but is geared towards parents for

feeding

> their

> > kids. It is a nutrition classic - published in the 80s. I

thought

> it was

> > very good and certainly helped me a great deal with my child.

> Nowadays I'm

> > just way more relaxed with him and meal / snack times are a lot

more

> > pleasurable.

> >

> > Good luck!

>

[Guest guest]

Kim, I can't thank you enough for your words and for understanding. I

think the reason it's so emotional for us is that it brings all those

feelings right up there, in our faces where we can't ignore them (all

the feelings about fears of bingeing, etc.). Because it's our kids and

although we may have " learned " to turn off our own hunger signals,

etc...we can't turn off when it comes to them.

If that makes sense.

Huge hugs to you. I wonder if it's something to do with their

neurological issues?

Hugs, hang in there,

Mel

>

> I have the EXACT same problem with my children. They, too, eat

constantly. They eat lots of carbs and protien (mostly carbs), not too

much veggies and fruits. Any sugary snack they can wheedle out of me,

they eat. I struggle with feeling hypocritical too. My older son (14)

has read alot of my IE book and knows that I'm recovering from an

eating disorder. My younger son (10) eat compulsively and tends to

binge. It is very scary and frustrating for me. Like your son, my sons

have some mental health issues (The older son has bipolar disorder, my

younger ADHD).

>  

> Unfortunately, I have not figured out how to deal with their

constant snacking and food choices. I try not too " make " them eat

" good " foods, but it is very hard. I have been near tears over it,

too. So I guess I can only offer my understanding - I don't have any

solutions yet!! I may never, honestly. I get easily overwhelmed with

my kids eating habits and tend to shut down about it. I'm still

learning my own body's needs and signals. How can I presume to know

what my kids' bodies need?? I share your frustration. My kids are

older, so I don't actually have to get/make the food for them.

>  

> Hang in there!!

> Kim

> IE since Aug 08

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi, Latoya. What a pretty name. Thank you for the virtual vibes.

Okay, let's see...well, I always put out " whole " foods along with

their junk at mealtimes. Like, corn or green beans; apples; etc. I cut

them up and serve them. The little guy is the better eater this way

and he will try different fruits and vegetables, but just like the

bigger one, he will also continuously ask for junky snacks.

They are very active, now that you mention it. They're very physical

and they go-go-go all day.

No, they're not part of the " clean plate club, " as I like to call it,

LOL...we'll sit down to meals and they'll eat what they want of dinner

and then ask to get down. So maybe you're right...maybe they do IE

after all, at least to that extent. I also never say " eat all of this "

or " clean your plate, " etc.

Thanks a bunch for your words, they helped a lot. Hugs to you for

being so understanding.

Mel

>

> I feel for you. I can imagine how overwhelming what your experiencing

> can be. Remember to breath and try to relax when you can. I believe

> that the effort you're making with IE will be an excellent model for

> your children over the long-run.

>

> If I were you, I'd experiment with some fun things that didn't add

> more stress to my life.

>

> I don't know...when they want to eat...maybe make eating fruit or

> other more wholesome foods some type of game to appeal to them, to

> show that you like/eat a variety of foods, and to see how they respond.

>

> If you place some different types of food on a table within reach for

> them, would they continue to eat and eat or stop when their tummies

> are full? Are they eating for true hunger? As adults, we can go to the

> fridge and cabinets to get whatever we want while smaller children

> have more limited options. It's mommy or daddy can I have this or

> that...

>

> Are they super active kids? Are there games, activities, or other

> things to distract them and channel their energy?

>

> It sounds like what you're feeling has built up over time. How can you

> relieve the pressure you're feeling regularly in affirming ways?

> Sending you calming energy and strength via the internet.

>

> Latoya

>

[Guest guest]

Ooh. Awesome. Thank you so very much. I'm looking this book up right now.

Hugs,

Mel

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much, Sig!

Hugs,

Mel

> >

> > A great book that a nutritionist recommended to me for one of my kids

> (3

> > yrs) is " How to get your kid to eat but not too much " by Ellyn

> Satter. It

> > has a similar vibe to IE but is geared towards parents for feeding

> their

> > kids. It is a nutrition classic - published in the 80s. I thought

> it was

> > very good and certainly helped me a great deal with my child.

> Nowadays I'm

> > just way more relaxed with him and meal / snack times are a lot more

> > pleasurable.

> >

> > Good luck!

>

[Guest guest]

I can't believe I never thought of this. You're right. They often

" travel " while eating. I'm going to try this.

Hugs your way,

Mel

> > >

> > > A great book that a nutritionist recommended to me for one of my

> kids

> > (3

> > > yrs) is " How to get your kid to eat but not too much " by Ellyn

> > Satter. It

> > > has a similar vibe to IE but is geared towards parents for

> feeding

> > their

> > > kids. It is a nutrition classic - published in the 80s. I

> thought

> > it was

> > > very good and certainly helped me a great deal with my child.

> > Nowadays I'm

> > > just way more relaxed with him and meal / snack times are a lot

> more

> > > pleasurable.

> > >

> > > Good luck!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Your welcome! Glad I could give you an idea. Thinking further along

those lines, again, I don't know if this applies to your situation

or not... Maybe, say, if they want a sandwich, they can help in

making it, in any small way they can. Even if they just open and

close cabinets or drawers for you while you make it. Sit at the

table to eat, then ask them to help clean up, even if it's just

throwing a paper plate in the trash. I would imagine they would wait

until they are really hungry if getting something to eat takes more

than just placing an order. Plus, they get a sense of accomplishment

and the increased self-confidence that they can do a little

something to take care of themselves.

Again, I'm no expert, just an objective observer of lots of friend's

kids

Meg

IE Since Feb '08

> > > >

> > > > A great book that a nutritionist recommended to me for one

of my

> > kids

> > > (3

> > > > yrs) is " How to get your kid to eat but not too much " by

Ellyn

> > > Satter. It

> > > > has a similar vibe to IE but is geared towards parents for

> > feeding

> > > their

> > > > kids. It is a nutrition classic - published in the 80s. I

> > thought

> > > it was

> > > > very good and certainly helped me a great deal with my

child.

> > > Nowadays I'm

> > > > just way more relaxed with him and meal / snack times are a

lot

> > more

> > > > pleasurable.

> > > >

> > > > Good luck!

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you for the book suggestion. I think I will check it out myself!

I've been watching this topic closely as I have similar problems with my children. I have one child that will eat junk continuously if let on his own. I've been struggling with how to do this IE thing with my kids...how on earth can I manage 5 kids (ages 2-9) eating according to their own desires??? It just doesn't seem realistic. But yet, as some one mentioned, I feel like a hypocrite being able to eat whatever I want, but restricting the children.

Thanks again, I think this suggestion will point me in the right direction.

God Bless,

Dayna:)

To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: hjillmurray@...Date: Mon, 17 Nov 2008 21:15:57 -0800Subject: Re: Re: Please help. Children and IE

A great book that a nutritionist recommended to me for one of my kids (3 yrs) is "How to get your kid to eat but not too much" by Ellyn Satter. It has a similar vibe to IE but is geared towards parents for feeding their kids. It is a nutrition classic - published in the 80s. I thought it was very good and certainly helped me a great deal with my child. Nowadays I'm just way more relaxed with him and meal / snack times are a lot more pleasurable.

Good luck!

On Mon, Nov 17, 2008 at 7:42 PM, latoyajw <latoyajw> wrote:

I feel for you. I can imagine how overwhelming what your experiencingcan be. Remember to breath and try to relax when you can. I believethat the effort you're making with IE will be an excellent model foryour children over the long-run.If I were you, I'd experiment with some fun things that didn't addmore stress to my life.I don't know...when they want to eat...maybe make eating fruit orother more wholesome foods some type of game to appeal to them, toshow that you like/eat a variety of foods, and to see how they respond.If you place some different types of food on a table within reach forthem, would they continue to eat and eat or stop when their tummiesare full? Are they eating for true hunger? As adults, we can go to thefridge and cabinets to get whatever we want while smaller childrenhave more limited options. It's mommy or daddy can I have this orthat...:)Are they super active kids? Are there games, activities, or otherthings to distract them and channel their energy?It sounds like what you're feeling has built up over time. How can yourelieve the pressure you're feeling regularly in affirming ways?Sending you calming energy and strength via the internet.Latoya>> This may be a little long...can anybody help?> > Our middle son (age 5) is autistic with extremely limited> communication. We tried him on a special diet for his behaviors 2> years ago with basically nothing wheat or milk. It didn't work and we> stopped.> > Since then he will eat NOTHING but junk. He won't touch fruit. His one> vegetable, corn, he has recently stopped eating. He won't eat most> meats. He won't eat chicken. We are down to next to nothing "whole"> that he will eat. He will only eat popcorn, chips, candy, cereal, etc.> > He also snacks constantly. Mind you, this child is not overweight.> He's exactly the same in the height and weight percentile. The little> one is 2. He is just barely higher in weight than height percentiles.> > They eat ALL AFTERNOON. They beg for food every 15-30 minutes,> seriously. We got home from school at 2:00. It's now 4:00. Since they> got home I have been up and down to make them:> > peanut butter and jelly (the little one)> candy (the bigger one found it) (this happened twice)> Sun Chips (the bigger one)> several rounds of juice to drink> pop corn> > I am serving chicken for dinner. The bigger guy will absolutely refuse> to eat it. Then he'll beg for snacks ALL night. He'll beg for at least> as many snacks as shown above.> > I'm EXHAUSTED. I literally jump up and down to get them cr*p all day> and all night in addition to taking care of the house completely alone> and freelancing from home.> > I don't want to force them to eat "just good food" because I'm afraid> of all the stuff I've read in the IE book about not understanding our> own hunger cues and what we want since our parents tell us what we> want. Now I'm the parent.> > Please help me...how can I IE while at the same time, forcing my kids> to eat less amounts of time and eat certain things? It's very> hypocritical. I don't know what to do. I'm almost in tears.>

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[Guest guest]

Thank you for this suggestion. I think it really makes sense. I've been trying to get my children to eat more of their food at the dining room table just because of the mess it creates in the house. But I can see that it would be better for their health as well.

God Bless,

Dayna:)

To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: megnjib@...Date: Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:01:06 +0000Subject: Re: Please help. Children and IE

I'm no expert, but by observing other people's kids who have no restrictions on eating, usually the kids will eat a lot when they are playing video games or watching TV or whatever, a lot like us when we eat more, or eat when not physically hungry, with distractions. When it is time to sit down for a meal, they don't want it. I wonder what would happen (unless you already do this) is to give them whatever they want, but they have to sit down at the table and eat it without distractions. If they are hungry enough they will sit down and eat. If they are just eating to accompany whatever else they are doing, they might not want to eat all the time, because they have to pause the other activity. I don't know if this is possible with autistic children, and having a ADD sister, I know this was a challenge for her, but maybe???Just thinking...:)MegIE Since Feb '08> >> > A great book that a nutritionist recommended to me for one of my kids > (3> > yrs) is "How to get your kid to eat but not too much" by Ellyn > Satter. It> > has a similar vibe to IE but is geared towards parents for feeding > their> > kids. It is a nutrition classic - published in the 80s. I thought > it was> > very good and certainly helped me a great deal with my child. > Nowadays I'm> > just way more relaxed with him and meal / snack times are a lot more> > pleasurable.> > > > Good luck!> Color coding for safety: Windows Live Hotmail alerts you to suspicious email. Sign up today.

[Guest guest]

I really didn't know so many of us moms were in the same boat! That

actually makes me feel better. I hope it makes you feel better too.

I think our kids are exposed to so much " eat this junk, eat this junk "

all around them...commercials; other kids; stores...that even their

natural IE abilities are pretty screwed up and almost from the get-go.

Now how about this? Can your eldest two get their own foods? So in

other words...

" Mom. I want popcorn! "

" Sure. Get it out of the cabinet, pop it, make sure it doesn't burn.

Make yourself a place with a napkin and get a bowl and sit down. "

It's a little more complex for her that way...a way for her to " take

five " to think about whether or not she's hungry and it's worth the

effort. Yet, the food is right there if she does want it. It's just

that she's a big girl and must get it for herself and must sit down to

eat it.

That's not my idea, obviously... It was suggested to me here, to

have my kids have to sit at the table to eat...and yesterday was in

fact less " Mom, gimme gimme gimme " already...so it seems like it's a

really good idea.

Hugs and hang in there,

Mel

>> This may be a little long...can anybody

help?> > Our middle son (age 5) is autistic with extremely limited>

communication. We tried him on a special diet for his behaviors 2>

years ago with basically nothing wheat or milk. It didn't work and we>

stopped.> > Since then he will eat NOTHING but junk. He won't touch

fruit. His one> vegetable, corn, he has recently stopped eating. He

won't eat most> meats. He won't eat chicken. We are down to next to

nothing " whole " > that he will eat. He will only eat popcorn, chips,

candy, cereal, etc.> > He also snacks constantly. Mind you, this child

is not overweight.> He's exactly the same in the height and weight

percentile. The little> one is 2. He is just barely higher in weight

than height percentiles.> > They eat ALL AFTERNOON. They beg for food

every 15-30 minutes,> seriously. We got home from school at 2:00. It's

now 4:00. Since they> got home I have been up and down to make them:>

> peanut butter and jelly (the little one)> candy (the bigger one

found it) (this happened twice)> Sun Chips (the bigger one)> several

rounds of juice to drink> pop corn> > I am serving chicken for dinner.

The bigger guy will absolutely refuse> to eat it. Then he'll beg for

snacks ALL night. He'll beg for at least> as many snacks as shown

above.> > I'm EXHAUSTED. I literally jump up and down to get them cr*p

all day> and all night in addition to taking care of the house

completely alone> and freelancing from home.> > I don't want to force

them to eat " just good food " because I'm afraid> of all the stuff I've

read in the IE book about not understanding our> own hunger cues and

what we want since our parents tell us what we> want. Now I'm the

parent.> > Please help me...how can I IE while at the same time,

forcing my kids> to eat less amounts of time and eat certain things?

It's very> hypocritical. I don't know what to do. I'm almost in tears.>

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