Re: I don't think I look too bad

[Guest guest]

J -

I think buying for who we are now is the key thing. All the years

when I almost met society's expectations of thinness, I squeezed in to

juniors medium t-shirts and size 12 jeans. If I had just accepted

that I needed a size large in juniors and size 14 jeans, I would have

saved myself day after day of misery. (I know now that this ritual of

clothing being too tight was part of my self-abuse to motivate the

next diet.) I went clothes shopping every weekend (hey, I was young

and had a lot of disposable income and a brand new body to show off)

but only bought clothing on days when mediums and 12s fit... I now

know that I bought clothing that only fit properly one week per month

and at my very lowest weight. I fluctuated 12-15 pounds because of

all the dieting I was doing to try to weigh less!

Buying clothing based on the label size was part of my diet prison.

My naturally thin friends *never* do that! They look at clothing and

have a good sense of what will fit their body. They only look at the

tag if it doesn't fit the way they want it to so they can try a larger

or smaller size! That number has no power over them, just as their

weight is a meaningless number. In my need to stuff myself into the

smallest possible clothes, I gave up on truly seeing my self and how I

relate to the world. Now that I've started only buying clothing that

fits comfortably right away, I've begun to see ahead of time what

clothing on the rack will or won't fit, regardless of what the tag says.

Molly

[Guest guest]

Yeah!! I too have realized that the size on the jeans/clothes is irrelevant. Esp when I realized that I have a closet w/sizes that vary 2-3 numbers - but they all fit me the same!! It's the clothes, not me. So whether the tag say 8 or 10, the jeans are the same size.

Kim

EI since Aug 08

Subject: I don't think I look too badTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Saturday, October 25, 2008, 3:35 PM

I have a full length mirror and when I truly look at myself in it (yes naked usually while I'm getting dressed) I can honestly say I don't think you're/I'm fat. I have a spare tire but all in all I'm tall and long. My hands are bigger, my feet are bigger, my face is long, my legs are long. As bad as it got with the dieting I could never fit into a size 7-8 the lowest I could fit into was a size 10 and people were commenting that my bones are popping out. I could never be a zero...zero. ..hmmmm. I've always been let's say a big boned girl. When I put my uniform on I feel good as it fits right. I find myself buying and wearing clothes that don't fit so that one day I can fit into them. That's one of the reasons I'm uncomfortable. I need to go shopping and I think I will not worry about the number on the garment just what feels and looks right for me - yes me, me in the here and now and not for the

possibility of losing 10 pounds at a later date.J.