relationships

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> Aline wrote: " I wonder how many relationships have suffered (or ended)

> due to differences in electrical sensitivity. "

My relationship with my wife seemed to suffer primarily from a financial

standpoint -- a combination of not being able to work fulltime for a

few years, while at the same time spending tons of money on anything

I could think of that might help me get back to normal. That " era "

is long over, yet anytime I now get sick or spend extra money on

something health-related, there can be unpleasant flashbacks...

Fortunately, since she teaches yoga, she sees other people who

have MCS, so she doesn't think I'm completely nuts... :-)

Marc

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In a message dated 3/29/2007 12:43:34 PM GMT Standard Time,

marc@... writes:

Aline wrote: " I wonder how many relationships have suffered (or ended)

> due to differences in electrical sensitivity.

My relationship with my wife seemed to suffer primarily from a financial

standpoint -- a combination of not being able to work fulltime for a

few years, while at the same time spending tons of money on anything

I could think of that might help me get back to normal. That " era "

is long over, yet anytime I now get sick or spend extra money on

something health-related, there can be unpleasant flashbacks..s

Fortunately, since she teaches yoga, she sees other people who

have MCS, so she doesn't think I'm completely nuts... :-)

Marc

I find that the financial side of things is a definate worry, but we married

for richer and for poorer etc..and hardship has taught me that its the

simple things in lfe that sustain us it can often be down to how the ES person

handles themeselves, to much selfpity and your introuble. Seeing so many

opportunities go down the pan workwise, suffering rejection for nothing more

than

the environmental constraints ES puts on you can lead you into depression,

stress related illness, so a shift in values is very helpful, its adapt or

survive I guess. I may evean be helping my family by making them aware of the

problems/risks associated with the RF/ and general in your facev technologies,

they might thanks me in the long run.. I really appreciate my wifes support

she is so understanding and easy going.

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Hi everyone,

Just wondering how you all succeed at not driving away

your sig/other??

My depression from this crap is really effecting my

relationship w/my live/with boyfriend....he does not

feel a thing.

I try to be happy and enjoy things.....but i am so

preoccupied by this disease(?)

love your advice- LL

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A lot of people have talked about their mates or marriage falling apart over this. I had a hard time with my husband for the first 3 months that I had this. He showed no bites ...no itching. I thought and so did he that stress was doing this to me. Then one morning in May...3 months after I came down with the first of the rashes he was sitting at the kitchen table a 3 in the morning with a terrible look on his face. Then he said "I'm itching" and for the rest of these last 2 years we have been dealing with this mess together. I know how you feel ....those first 3 months almost made me loose control. Hang on and use that salt......the doctors are even discovering that the salt on the skin can kill that horrible MRSA skin infection that so many are getting in the hospitals. Hang on.........the end is in site. Rita

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Hi everyone,Just wondering how you all succeed at not driving awayyour sig/other??My depression from this crap is really effecting myrelationship w/my live/with boyfriend....he does notfeel a thing.I try to be happy and enjoy things.....but i am sopreoccupied by this disease(?)love your advice- LL__________________________________________________________Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile./;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ

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I LOVE YOU RITA!

Your advice and kind words are always a positive

influence on me...

THANKYOU! LL

--- Rita and Mike Carlson <m.r.carlson@...>

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> A lot of people have talked about their mates or

> marriage falling apart over this. I had a hard time

> with my husband for the first 3 months that I had

> this. He showed no bites ...no itching. I thought

> and so did he that stress was doing this to me. Then

> one morning in May...3 months after I came down with

> the first of the rashes he was sitting at the

> kitchen table a 3 in the morning with a terrible

> look on his face. Then he said " I'm itching " and for

> the rest of these last 2 years we have been dealing

> with this mess together. I know how you feel

> ....those first 3 months almost made me loose

> control. Hang on and use that salt......the doctors

> are even discovering that the salt on the skin can

> kill that horrible MRSA skin infection that so many

> are getting in the hospitals. Hang on.........the

> end is in site. Rita

> http://www.mrsanotes.com/category/mrsa-drugs/

>

> Re: Relationships

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>

> Hi everyone,

>

> Just wondering how you all succeed at not driving

> away

> your sig/other??

>

> My depression from this crap is really effecting

> my

> relationship w/my live/with boyfriend....he does

> not

> feel a thing.

>

> I try to be happy and enjoy things.....but i am so

> preoccupied by this disease(?)

>

> love your advice- LL

>

>

>

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Honey..we got to be there for each other because unless someone has this mess on their skin they will never.....never understand. We are all in the twilight zone but there seems to be more hope on the horizon than ever before. So hang in there....don't spit into the wind.....speak your mind but ride a fast horse!!!!!!!! Rita

Re: Relationships> > > > Hi everyone,> > Just wondering how you all succeed at not driving> away> your sig/other??> > My depression from this crap is really effecting> my> relationship w/my live/with boyfriend....he does> not> feel a thing.> > I try to be happy and enjoy things.....but i am so> preoccupied by this disease(?)> > love your advice- LL> > >__________________________________________________________> Be a better friend, newshound, and > know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now.>http://mobile./;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ> > > > > > >----------------------------------------------------------> > > No virus found in this incoming message.> Checked by AVG. > Version: 7.5.524 / Virus Database: 269.23.2/1389 -> Release Date: 4/21/2008 8:34 AM> __________________________________________________________Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile./;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ

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Although it may be hard, maybe if you don't talk about it. This can

be hard since I'm sure you think about it a lot.

I have friends who know I have the mites and are not afraid of them,

so I feel happy that I can talk with them about it and still hang out

with them. Other friends said they wanted nothing to do with me

until it is done, and yet others I have never told and I see them

pretty much every day and they haven't gotten them, so with them I

talk about anything but the mites--which I think helps me since it

get my mind off of them and I feel less stressed, although sometimes

I feel a bit jealous since they have normal lives and sometimes I

wonder what would happen if they knew.

Since some people have gotten these mites from me before, I'm

avoiding relationships entirely, which is sad, but I don't see any

choice if I don't want someone I care for to get mites. Two

households are now infested from mites I carried there. Both had pre-

existing rodent problems, the house I got the mites from had rats,

but I don't understand why I still have them and why so many people I

spend time with don't get them. Along with my great battle, I still

put out rodent bait, repellant noise makers, and traps, but I don't

see any signs of rodent activity. I guess I'm their rat now and I

wonder if I'll ever be a human again.

>

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> Just wondering how you all succeed at not driving away

> your sig/other??

>

> My depression from this crap is really effecting my

> relationship w/my live/with boyfriend....he does not

> feel a thing.

>

> I try to be happy and enjoy things.....but i am so

> preoccupied by this disease(?)

>

> love your advice- LL

>

>

>

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> know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now.

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>

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I wanted to thank everyone that provides comfort and advice to this

situation we are facing. I have had a hard time following Rita's

advice. We are a family of four and not everyone is cooperative with

doing the epsom salt regime. The dust or residue left from the epsom

salt gives me asthma. It's hard with kids cause they slip and fall on

the residue the salt leaves. My home constantly looked dirty dfrom the

salt and my husband hated what it did to our furniture and he did not

feel it was working for him. I feel so alone in this battle. I feel

constantly sad and depressed. Although I am better with my own

concotion of vinegar, alcohol, camphor tables, gold bond, dawn, etc.

I don't want to feel better I want to feel FREE of these mites. I

don't want to compuslively clean and wash my bed sheets daily - I just

don't have it in me after almost three years of this battle. I feel

sick and tired and no energy to keep up with the enormous task of home

and body regime. I just need to know if anyone has completely

eradicated them. I mean no longer following any type of specail

cleaning. Is anyone back to normal? No salt, no vinegar, no ozone

pills, etc.... Please is there anyone - out there? I need to know!

[Guest guest]

Ivanbla, I feel so sad for you. It's bad enough to have these things

and it must be much worse with no support. I never had a problem with

the mites myself, but my husband had about six months of the plague. As

far as I can tell they never migrated to internal on him but he did

about 6 weeks on Stromectol(ivermectin) and then we used CedarCide

throughout the house and re-sprayed his bed for a few days (sheets,

blankets, pillows also). He quit having crawlies around the first part

of Feb. and has had no activity since. Hope you can eradicate these

devils soon. We never used the salt, but probably would have if they

had not stopped when they did. We sprayed a lot with windex, also witch

hazel mixed with a few drops of tea tree oil and washed all clothes with

20 mule team borax, detergent and clorox. Joan

>

> I wanted to thank everyone that provides comfort and advice to this

> situation we are facing. I have had a hard time following Rita's

> advice. We are a family of four and not everyone is cooperative with

> doing the epsom salt regime. The dust or residue left from the epsom

> salt gives me asthma. It's hard with kids cause they slip and fall on

> the residue the salt leaves. My home constantly looked dirty dfrom the

> salt and my husband hated what it did to our furniture and he did not

> feel it was working for him. I feel so alone in this battle. I feel

> constantly sad and depressed. Although I am better with my own

> concotion of vinegar, alcohol, camphor tables, gold bond, dawn, etc.

> I don't want to feel better I want to feel FREE of these mites. I

> don't want to compuslively clean and wash my bed sheets daily - I just

> don't have it in me after almost three years of this battle. I feel

> sick and tired and no energy to keep up with the enormous task of home

> and body regime. I just need to know if anyone has completely

> eradicated them. I mean no longer following any type of specail

> cleaning. Is anyone back to normal? No salt, no vinegar, no ozone

> pills, etc.... Please is there anyone - out there? I need to know!

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Loviatar - I know I am not alone with this mite situation and

I do get comfort coming to this site and seeing how others are

struggling as well. Thank you - Blanca

[Guest guest]

Here is my 2 cents worth on relationships and my illnessess. A healthy relationship, one that is supportive and with a man who is evolved enough to take on self work is very helpful. A relationship no matter what it is, is work. It takes energy and time. You have to feel safe to do that work and to trust. Otherwise it is just a drain and a stressor. It takes a good and wise partner and a willingness on our parts to also do work within ourselves. That is when the gold is found and we can heal with another.

hugs,

Sue

From: Carlene <carlene.grimshaw>Subject: Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/26/2009, 8:00 amDate: Sunday, December 27, 2009, 11:25 PM

Of course, , you are right. Until the real estate market recoversyou may have to wait awhile to change to a lowset house. In the meantimeI dearly hope that your new doc does help you a whole lot more than yourother doctors have. You deserve a break from all that pain and sickness.Have you tried massage and/or other therapies to try to relieve thepain. As it surely would alleviate your pain levels. Hope the new bedgives you some relief as well. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Takegood care and Happy New Year to you.Love & hugsCarlene>> Yes, Carlene, I too wish I didn't have stairs, but with the market theway it is I can't sell it at the

moment. I desparately need asingle level; again today my husband had to pick me off the bed, been intears so bad today, my body has just been throbbing so badly from thethe pain. I've taken what I can for it, on two heating pads at atime, not much else I can do. Told my husband the worst part isbeing in so much pain and not having anyone home to help me get to thebathroom and even get up out of bed. I've got alot riding on thisnew doc. Not sure yet if this new bed is going to work or not sinceI've been so bad, not sure if it's me or the new bed even though I'musually pretty bad anyway. Have to give the bed a good amount oftime before I can make a judgement on that.> Â> Be well, Happy New Year ------------ --------- --------- ------

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I can relate.  I hate to make a promise to do something or go somewhere because

I don't know if it will be a good day or bad day.  My family is understanding

but I can tell that they are disappointed. My grandsons are to little to

understand.  My boyfriend of seven years is great about things (if a little

overprotective).  He wants to get married but I won't do it because I don't want

to saddle him with my medical bills and care that marriage would make him be

legally responsible for them.  I have always been the one that took care of

everyone in my job, the family, and friends.  Over the last few years I have

shut myself off from the world.

Jean

[Guest guest]

Dear Jean- Let me give you a bonk upside the head here. If your boyfriend has

been in this with you ( whether sick or well ) for SEVEN years and hasn't

crapped himself and run like a scalded dog and wants ( knowing all it means ) to

marry you--Marry the boy! If you love him of course that is. He sure has been in

training over the 'sickness and in health thing '!  He obviously already feels

responsible for you and you for him already-- the piece of paper is an important

thing only if one or both think it is.

 

My partner and I- after 20 years, raising 12 boys, 2 mortgages and mega health

issues - cannot marry in the state in which we reside. Yeah, we are 2 women.

Ooops. Might you rethink your privilege and look at it from his perspective.

 

Food for thought.

 

                                 in SC

 

 .  My boyfriend of seven years is great about things (if a little

overprotective).  He wants to get married but I won't do it because I don't want

to saddle him with my medical bills and care that marriage would make him be

legally responsible for them.  I have always been the one that took care of

everyone in my job, the family, and friends.  Over the last few years I have

shut myself off from the world.

Jean

[Guest guest]

Hi Jean.  I can so understand what you are saying.  But, if you really love

your boyfriend, and he obvious loves you, then go and get married and enjoy your

life together.  I am sure he knows how sick you are, but is willing to be there

for you, through the good times, and the hard times.  How wonderful for the

both of you to love each other.   Humans are not meant to be alone.  You have

been given a wonderful gilft, the gift of love.  You need to have a life, even

if it is with a life of living with RA.  You should treasure your time with

him.  He needs you and your love, and I am sure you need him and his love for

you.  He sounds like a wonderful, strong and caring man.

 

We all need some sunshine in the dark days of dealing with RA and its awful

pain.  I hope you really give some thought to all of this.  You have a golden

chance to be happy with the man you love beside you for life.

 

Hugs,

 

Barbara

[Guest guest]

You and I think alike. I had a boyfriend when all this started and I broke up

with him for his own good. I could tell my constant flaking out on plans and

watching me suffer wasn't making him happy.

It's bad enough my son has to deal with my issues... Why drag someone else into

this!!!!

Candace

No shadows to depress you

Only joys to surround you

Many friends to love you

God himself to bless you

These are my wishes for you,

For today, tomorrow & everyday.

Sent from my iPhone

On Aug 9, 2010, at 4:05 PM, Thorp <dolphinrider0304@...> wrote:

> I can relate. I hate to make a promise to do something or go somewhere

because

> I don't know if it will be a good day or bad day. My family is understanding

> but I can tell that they are disappointed. My grandsons are to little to

> understand. My boyfriend of seven years is great about things (if a little

> overprotective). He wants to get married but I won't do it because I don't

want

> to saddle him with my medical bills and care that marriage would make him be

> legally responsible for them. I have always been the one that took care of

> everyone in my job, the family, and friends. Over the last few years I have

> shut myself off from the world.

>

> Jean

>

>