Advice for dealing with family...

[Guest guest]

Can you all share your advice for dealing with family meals and

expectations? I often tend to start to want to eat just because

others are eating, not because I am hungry....it takes me back to the

" I should eat " process or " it's time for a meal " versus listening to

my physiological hunger. Of course this is amplified now with all the

holiday activities and visitors!

Thanks for your support!

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

You hit a 'flat' spot in posting here - holiday distractions and all

that. But I didn't want your first post to go unanswered, and I'm sure

you will get other replies than mine too. Here's my thoughts regarding

your question -

1) Family meals are as much about getting together as it is about

eating. If you aren't really hungry - you can sit at the table and

catch up with chatting about the day.

2) 'Timing' is something you can play with too. Are the times SET for

meals and does this suit everyone/most of your family members?

Likewise you can play around with YOUR 'timing' of hunger by observing

and choosing to eat different foods before 'meal time' so that you ARE

hungry when that time comes around.

3) If there is any 'should' for you to follow, let it be the ones YOU

want and make sense for your life. IE is all about INternal

directions, not dancing to the tune of all the EXternal noise that

bombards us.

BEST to you - Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Can you all share your advice for dealing with family meals and

> expectations? I often tend to start to want to eat just because

> others are eating, not because I am hungry....it takes me back to the

> " I should eat " process or " it's time for a meal " versus listening to

> my physiological hunger. Of course this is amplified now with all the

> holiday activities and visitors!

>

> Thanks for your support!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your support and sharing your thoughts about these

processes and what might help. I think the key is that I do need to

allow MY internal direction, so to speak, and filter out other

internal and external influences. I feel this is something I have

struggled with ever since I got married years ago and the " shoulds " of

being a wife (which I wasn't nearly as conscious of before actually

being married, but once I was married it was amazing how my early

" conditioning " re-emerged in my thought processes!). I know I need to

" put myself first " in general as often my emotional eating comes from

not taking the time to adequately care for myself. " Evening

mealtimes " are the perfect example, where often I will end up

overeating at a " meal " instead of just eating something I really want

or don't want (dessert dare I say or something small).

Thanks again,

- In IntuitiveEating_Support , " Katcha "

wrote:

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> Hi ,

>

> You hit a 'flat' spot in posting here - holiday distractions and all

> that. But I didn't want your first post to go unanswered, and I'm sure

> you will get other replies than mine too. Here's my thoughts regarding

> your question -

>

> 1) Family meals are as much about getting together as it is about

> eating. If you aren't really hungry - you can sit at the table and

> catch up with chatting about the day.

>

> 2) 'Timing' is something you can play with too. Are the times SET for

> meals and does this suit everyone/most of your family members?

> Likewise you can play around with YOUR 'timing' of hunger by observing

> and choosing to eat different foods before 'meal time' so that you ARE

> hungry when that time comes around.

>

> 3) If there is any 'should' for you to follow, let it be the ones YOU

> want and make sense for your life. IE is all about INternal

> directions, not dancing to the tune of all the EXternal noise that

> bombards us.

>

> BEST to you - Katcha

> IEing since March 2007

>

>

> >

> > Can you all share your advice for dealing with family meals and

> > expectations? I often tend to start to want to eat just because

> > others are eating, not because I am hungry....it takes me back to the

> > " I should eat " process or " it's time for a meal " versus listening to

> > my physiological hunger. Of course this is amplified now with all the

> > holiday activities and visitors!

> >

> > Thanks for your support!

> >

> >

> >

>