Re: Newbie, First Post

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Hi JJ! You and I are in verrry similar boats (except I'm in my early

20's, no hubbie, no kids ... yet (? ). I very much relate to your

lifestyle and your fears in the sense that I've been struggling to

overcome restrictive eatring and overexercising under the guise of

health " . For me, it's been scary to accept my " woman's body " - I

think that boobs are great, as is a cute toosh but along with with

that comes more body fat, some stretch marks, a tummy (NORMAL THINGS,

I know, but still scary for me as I fear I will continue to grow and

grow and never stop!). Well, I think I hit rock bottom in late

October of 2006 (this is when I relaized, " ok, this is too much.

It's taken over too mcuh of my life. I need my health, my life, my

sanity, MYSELF back. " These support groups have been great, as was

the book Intuitive Eating , and Koenig's Food & Feelings

Workbook.

So far, my fear of my body's " set-point " being much heavier has not

happened, though I have probably put on a about 15 pounds (this has

been SCARY for me, but this time I'm not running from it - I'm

learning to accept it and squash my fears!)

I am learning to trust other people when they say, " I understand your

fears, but I can honesty tell you that from my viewpoint they are

irrational. Everything will be okay; your 'worst fears' will not

come true if you let go of controlling your body/food

intake/exercise. "

So, I can tell you that it does get better. It takes an ample amount

of time, though. I'm not fully fully through it YET, but, hey, at

least I'm not hungry most of the time or making myself commit to

running 50-70 minute every day! <-- To me, that's progress.

Hang in there, and welcome

>

> Hello!

> I am JJ, a 44 year old female, mother of 2, wife of 1, and all that

> jazz.

>

> IN a nutshell, I am not overweight, nor have I ever been

overweight,

> except in my own mind. I have managed this through excessive

> exercise and dieting under the guise of living the fit and healthly

> lifestyle. But the bottom line is that I am obsessed with food and

> staying lean. I am not skinny, just very lean and I carry a fair

> amount of muscle.

>

> I would LOVE to let it all go and not be so restrictive and

> obsessed. This eating style affects my family life, my social

life,

> etc...

>

> My fear is that if I did let this all go and embrace the IE

> lifestyle, my body's natural set point would be much heavier and

> fatter than it is now. Wondering if anyone else is in the same

boat.

>

> I look forward to reading the posts here and getting to know some

> people and their stories.

>

> jj

>