Re: Re: I presume this is normal?

[Guest guest]

Alana,

Thank you for sharing. I am new to IE and was reading the book (I am on chapter

5) and found myself wanting to eat! I also had a headache, so I decided to put

the book down until I felt better. It is a relief to hear positive experiences.

I will remenber to " be gentle with myself "

Sophia

>

> Subject: Re: I presume this is normal?

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Date: Tuesday, July 15, 2008, 11:21 AM

> Amy,

> I so relate to what you are saying here. I have a similar

> memory

> with ice cream. I relate it to the love I felt when I

> would go to

> my Dad's house on the weekend and we would make ice

> cream sundaes.

> At my Mom's house I was never allowed to have ice cream

> - if we did

> it was " ice Milk " because my Mom was on WW. But

> it is a very loving

> memory of spending time with my dad and making ice cream

> sundeas and

> then watching TV or a movie together. Just after a year am

> I

> finally making peace with ice cream and finally don't

> have to have

> it every single day. I've had more success with this

> lately because

> instead of " saving " it up till the end of the day

> to have my ice

> cream and have about 5 big scoops - this was because of my

> dieting

> days when I would be " good " through out the day,

> so that I could

> have or would binge from deprivation at the end ofthe day.

> I have

> been experimenting with having a small serving after lunch

> and after

> dinner to signify the end of my meal. It seems to be

> working

> because just last night, I truly did not want any ice cream

> and the

> night before I had fruit and yogurt instead.

>

> I also went through a phase where when I went to the

> grocery store I

> bought anything I wanted, especially foods I had forbidden

> myself

> for years. Things like Cookies, Hamburger Helper, A lot of

> pre-

> packaged foods - chips & dip, crackers, cheese and

> chocolate. Once

> I got the idea that I could eat whatever I wanted whenever

> I wanted

> did I start to relax around all these foods and they

> weren't such a

> big deal for me. Many foods I realized I really don't

> care for or

> don't make me feel very good.

> Yes, I think it is perfectly normal to eat a lot of foods

> that you

> have forbidden when first starting IE. It is part of the

> process.

> And I think the more you have been deprived, the more

> important it

> is to allow yourself to go through it. Be gentle with

> yourself and

> do not judge yourself for indulging in foods you have been

> deprived.

> Remember to continue to love yourself no matter what. At

> some

> point, food will loose it's hold on you and other

> things in your

> life will become more important.

>

>

>

>

> >

> > I can honestly say when I was starting IE I ate

> anything and

> everything.  I made a list of all the things I had denied

> myself and

> started at the top.  (Did I mention the list was a page

> long...

> front and back...)  I remember the first day eating a

> cake... yes

> the entire cake in a day.  And I realized two things. 

> One, that I

> was going to do the same thing the next day.... and two,

> that I

> didn't die from eating an entire cake.  And sure

> enough... the next

> day, I ate cake again.  Day three I ate cake, and by day

> four, I

> never wanted to see that cake again.  I can remember when

> I used to

> grocery shop that I would look at that cake in the freezer

> section

> (it's one of the Pepridge Farms frozen ones) and lust

> after it.  Now

> I can breeze by the frozen section.  I still look at the

> cake, but

> it's no big deal.  I know if I want it I can have it

> anytime.  But

> maybe what's more important is that I realized I had

> placed so much

> value in that cake... and

> > honestly when I was eating it... it wasn't that

> amazing.  For me

> it was more about the memories I used to have of eating

> it.  It was

> a cake that my grandmother would buy for just me and I

> would eat it

> at her house.  When I thought about it more... it

> wasn't the cake

> that I needed or really wanted.  It's the fact that I

> miss my

> grandmother who has been dead for 12 years.  She was my

> best friend

> and I realize now that certain foods I crave are because I

> crave

> having her... 

> > So experiment with your foods... see what you are

> eating... and

> maybe ask yourself why...

> > Just my two cents...

> > Amy

> >

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> running the

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> >

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> >

> >  

> >

> >

> >

> > I presume this is

> normal?

> >

> >

> > This weekend is the first weekend I've been

> " not dieting " in quite

> some

> > time. I think I maybe ate one thing all weekend that

> had any

> > nutritional value.

> >

> > I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that

> eating a TON of stuff

> that

> > had previously been considered off limits is normal?

> Would anyone

> care

> > to share how long they spent in this phase? I packed a

> healthy

> lunch,

> > but have chosen to eat a snack size bag of chips I

> found left from

> > lunch a few weeks ago.

> >

> > Thanks!

> >