Guest guest Posted October 17, 2008 Report Share Posted October 17, 2008 Dear friends, Yesterday was trash day. For all thoses who know me personally sorry for this repeat story..but I think others may enjoy it. As some of you may know I have had a hard time dealing with my daughters sensory/behavior issues. Usually I can take it..trust me I am a very stubborn lady. However, yesterday I not only did I reach my breaking point..I also reached for a trash bag! Yes, trash bag! It was early am and as usual my lil' girl decided she would not wear her shirt for the gazillionth time (if that is even a word.) Anyway, My husband as usual was in the corner thinking he was trying to help by forcing her to get ready for school. I stooped him and said forget it, leave her alone! He did, got mad and left the house. Today I had a different plan of action. I went upstairs with a trashbag and put all of my daughters clothing into the huge bag. (yes, everything except socks and underware.) I went downstairs and left it at the front door. When it was time to leave for school I again briefly tried to put a shirt on my daughter. Again..no go. So I said to her..well then I gurss you will start a new naked trend at school.lets get in the car. I put my daughter in the car , buckled her in ,(for thoses that don't know, she refused to wear a seatbelt for several months too.) Then I put the shirt on her lap and got in the car myself. She stated crying and said " shirt on " I said...yes, well then put it on, sorry I am not soing that anymore girlfriend! I didn't look back the whole time I was driving.(only a five minute trip) When we got to the school she had her shirt on just over her neck..but it was on. As soon as we got out of the car she tried to take it off. As usual I ignored the behavior,I had on hand on her shirt collar (to take her into the school) and my other hand was holding her backpack and the trash bag of clothes. We went to the recrption area I asked to speak to someone in charge. When the receptionist asked me what was it was regarding I pointed to my now half naked child and put the trashbag on her desk and said .. " Does this answer your question? It is not something that should be discused in front of other children. " (there were a few in the waiting area) I met with the principal, and I carried my trash bag in to her office. She said " How can I help you? " I showed her the huge bag of clothes and said.. " You can tell me how many more of theses bags of clothes I have to bring in before I get some sensory help for my daughter! " With that, we discussed other issues, including the fact that I didn't like being told my daughter could not attend school if she would not wear her clothes etc. etc. Long story short, I think I finally made my point.(or at least started too.) It took a trash bag of clothes, but I am finally getting the ball rolling. If they can't get my daughter the help she needs in school than I will find it for her somehow, in the mean time...that was the first time in a long time I actually liked taking out the trash! Yes, it may seem crazy, but everyone thinks I am crazy anyway..and thoses that know me already know..I don't do labels. Obviously right now my daughter does not either..especially the fashion the fashion lables! thank God..imagaine buying Prada for a six year old with autism? Skys Mom PS, Please don't get me wrong, I think my daughter's school and principal are doin gwhat thay concider to be right, I just think they needed a little wake up call as to the huge impact it has on families like my not jsut in school hours but all hours of the day. I pray they will listen to my concerns, and remember my crazy trashbag " visual cue " and start to listen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 17, 2008 Report Share Posted October 17, 2008 I absolutely love what you did! Go mom! Sometimes you just have to go past all the b.s. red tape and lay it out for them to SEE! You did juss that. Subject: Yesterday was trash day!To: sList Date: Friday, October 17, 2008, 9:49 AM Dear friends,Yesterday was trash day. For all thoses who know me personally sorry for this repeat story..but I think others may enjoy it.As some of you may know I have had a hard time dealing with my daughters sensory/behavior issues. Usually I can take it..trust me I am a very stubborn lady. However, yesterday I not only did I reach my breaking point..I also reached for a trash bag! Yes, trash bag!It was early am and as usual my lil' girl decided she would not wear her shirt for the gazillionth time (if that is even a word.) Anyway, My husband as usual was in the corner thinking he was trying to help by forcing her to get ready for school. I stooped him and said forget it, leave her alone! He did, got mad and left the house.Today I had a different plan of action. I went upstairs with a trashbag and put all of my daughters clothing into the huge bag.(yes, everything except socks and underware.) I went downstairs and left it at the front door. When it was time to leave for school I again briefly tried to put a shirt on my daughter. Again..no go. So I said to her..well then I gurss you will start a new naked trend at school.lets get in the car. I put my daughter in the car , buckled her in ,(for thoses that don't know, she refused to wear a seatbelt for several months too.) Then I put the shirt on her lap and got in the car myself. She stated crying and said "shirt on" I said...yes, well then put it on, sorry I am not soing that anymore girlfriend!I didn't look back the whole time I was driving.(only a five minute trip) When we got to the school she had her shirt on just over her neck..but it was on. As soon as we got out of the car she tried to take it off. As usual I ignored the behavior,I had on hand on her shirt collar (to take her into the school) and my other hand was holding her backpack and the trash bag of clothes.We went to the recrption area I asked to speak to someone in charge. When the receptionist asked me what was it was regarding I pointed to my now half naked child and put the trashbag on her desk and said .."Does this answer your question? It is not something that should be discused in front of other children." (there were a few in the waiting area)I met with the principal, and I carried my trash bag in to her office. She said "How can I help you?" I showed her the huge bag of clothes and said.."You can tell me how many more of theses bags of clothes I have to bring in before I get some sensory help for my daughter!"With that, we discussed other issues, including the fact that I didn't like being told my daughter could not attend school if she would not wear her clothes etc. etc. Long story short, I think I finally made my point.(or at least started too.) It took a trash bag of clothes, but I am finally getting the ball rolling. If they can't get my daughter the help she needs in school than I will find it for her somehow, in the mean time...that was the first time in a long time I actually liked taking out the trash! Yes, it may seem crazy, but everyone thinks I am crazy anyway..and thoses that know me already know..I don't do labels. Obviously right now my daughter does not either..especially the fashion the fashion lables! thank God..imagaine buying Prada for a six year old with autism?Skys MomPS, Please don't get me wrong, I think my daughter's school and principal are doin gwhat thay concider to be right, I just think they needed a little wake up call as to the huge impact it has on families like my not jsut in school hours but all hours of the day. I pray they will listen to my concerns, and remember my crazy trashbag "visual cue" and start to listen.__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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