Guest guest Posted August 28, 2002 Report Share Posted August 28, 2002 Hi Marina, Your post really rang a bell with me. Whatever our decisions are regarding our children, they are OUR decisions - we know our children best and can best evaluate what they need. I had just finished my undergrad degree in social work when was born and decided to put off getting my masters for awhile. Perhaps if she was " typical " I might not have, but I think I made the right decision. How many times have I heard " friendly " advice - " oh you'll never go back if you don't do it now, " etc. etc. I can always go back to college but I can never recapture my daughter's early life. I feel fortunate that I had the option (altho it has been a big strain financially). Personally, I used to think that parents who sent their kids to a playgroup, school, or whatever, when they were two were crazy. (OK, so I was judgemental too.) But I ended up sending to a 2 1/2 hour early intervention class when she was only 2 and 3 months and it absolutely did wonders for her - more than all the therapy put together! I personally believe that nursery school fosters independence, self worth, and social skills - if it is a good program with qualified teachers (that's the catch - many programs stink). Is it crazy to wait until kindergarten - of course not. But if all the other children have had years of school, perhaps it might put yours at a disadvantage initially, but I'm sure they would adjust and catch up after awhile. I'm sure whatever decision you make will be the right one! Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 I remember fighting with our school district when we lived in Hillsboro, OR and how they were with my daughter. Marcy is now 28. She was reading, writing and doing math at the age of 3. They put her into a special ed program and did nothing with her because they never had a child in special ed that could do the things she could do at the age of 5. We fought to get her mainstreamed but at first they would only mainstream her part of the day. We fought more and by the time she got into 2nd grade she was mainstreamed the entire day. However, because she wasn't challeged enough she was bored with the work and stopped doing a lot of it. This suddenly pegged her as being lazy and in the school's words, stupid. We fought and finally went in with an advocate who helped us fight for what they should be doing for Marcy. It helped that we had page after page of violations of her rights under ADA. She was in junior high at the time and was bullied to the point of becoming suicidal. They ended up putting her in a private school and she really blossomed there. They were challenging her and giving her harder work to do. She tested out in 7th grade last year college level and all Hillsboro school district said was that she had to be cheating or they gave her the answers. When we moved out to Yelm, WA Hillsboro school district told them that she was incapable of doing school work. They said the same thing about my son. Thank God Yelm didn't listen. Both my kids excelled out here because they believed in challenging kids. Both kids graduated with honors. They went onto college where they graduated with honors as well. My son (who they told us would never learn math and all they wanted to do was to put him in a vocational program because he was incapable of learning academics) went onto get his Masters and graduated with honors in that program as well. He got his Bachelors in Game and Simulation programming which is all math and physics based. If you aren't getting anywhere with your school district get an advocate or a parent who has been there and knows how to deal with the school district. What they are doing is against the law. If your child has been diagnosed with being on the spectum and they have an IEP they must follow that. School districts don't like to because it cost them money and if they could bully the parent into thinking they can't do it they will try to get away with it. Don't let them. The law states that they have to provide an education for your child. If your child isn't learning right now because they aren't following the IEP even if it was from another district then they are violating the law. If they don't budge get an advocate. If they still don't budge get a lawyer. We fought to get both kids (both had IEP's) what they needed. All they kept telling us was that if they gave it to my kids then several other kids wouldn't get what they needed. I finally told them to tell the other parents to fight for their kids, to give my kids what they needed. Robin > > Before we decided to move we researched the schools. The school here promised us they would follow the IEP written by our former school district in NY. We made the move and the SD here did not follow through. My son is very high functioning, but still needs support. He also is very bright and the public SD is not challenging him. So anyone with a child on the spectrum understands how too much " down time " can have a negitive affect on children with ASD. > I have had many meetings and still nothing. Can anyone tell me of a private school/charter/public in the miami area that offers support/ challenges my son and meets the IEP goals? > Thank you so much in advance! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2011 Report Share Posted February 22, 2011 But what if your child does not have an IEP? My sons school has been avoiding the IEP subject with me for two years. He does have a 504 but I want an IEP! This is one of the other reasons I am sending my son to live with his father in another state. Perhaps he will have a better shot at an education there?? > > > > Before we decided to move we researched the schools. The school here promised us they would follow the IEP written by our former school district in NY. We made the move and the SD here did not follow through. My son is very high functioning, but still needs support. He also is very bright and the public SD is not challenging him. So anyone with a child on the spectrum understands how too much " down time " can have a negitive affect on children with ASD. > > I have had many meetings and still nothing. Can anyone tell me of a private school/charter/public in the miami area that offers support/ challenges my son and meets the IEP goals? > > Thank you so much in advance! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2011 Report Share Posted February 23, 2011 I do believe that you have recourse if they are not putting into play the plan outlined in the IEP. If you truly do have these concerns, you might want to be sure that your communication with the school is in writing...I really don't think that the school has an option re: following an IEP... > > > > > > > > Before we decided to move we researched the schools. The school here promised > > >us they would follow the IEP written by our former school district in NY. We > > >made the move and the SD here did not follow through. My son is very high > > >functioning, but still needs support. He also is very bright and the public SD > > >is not challenging him. So anyone with a child on the spectrum understands how > > >too much " down time " can have a negitive affect on children with ASD. > > > > > > > I have had many meetings and still nothing. Can anyone tell me of a private > > >school/charter/public in the miami area that offers support/ challenges my son > > >and meets the IEP goals? > > > > > > > Thank you so much in advance! > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2011 Report Share Posted February 23, 2011 Is it even legal for them to not offer an IEP? I wonder if you can contact the Dept. of Education for your state to ask about what your child's rights are to an IEP? > > > > > > Before we decided to move we researched the schools. The school here promised us they would follow the IEP written by our former school district in NY. We made the move and the SD here did not follow through. My son is very high functioning, but still needs support. He also is very bright and the public SD is not challenging him. So anyone with a child on the spectrum understands how too much " down time " can have a negitive affect on children with ASD. > > > I have had many meetings and still nothing. Can anyone tell me of a private school/charter/public in the miami area that offers support/ challenges my son and meets the IEP goals? > > > Thank you so much in advance! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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