Re: This crazy computer!

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Dear Jodi,

I hope all is well over there. I'm gald to hear that Max is

properly medicated. I had responded earlier about the in-law thing but the

message didn't post. I guess I'll have to call microsoft & find out how to

fix the problem so I don't have to adjust the e-mail each time. Anyway, I

know how it is with the family. My mother in law can't cope and my mom is

just now starting to warm up to Josh. I think she was afraid we were going

to lose him or something. Josh has his problems but has never been that

sick to fear for his life, maybe his quality of life, but even now as I

continue to educate myself I feel pretty certain that in the end Josh will

be OK. It sometimes feels that the people who you REALLY need support from

are always expecting you to suport them, as if your childs problem is really

their own. When Josh was first born he was misdaignosed with congenital

adrenal hyperplasia based on inaccurate blodwork. The doctors suspected

this because he had high b/p among other things & my mom was always saying

" your brother had this- I wonder if that's what he had " Or " your sister had

this -did you tell the doctors that? " It was endless. I finally had to

distance myself which wasn't easy since she was watching , my older

boy. I am surrounded by dama queens and martyrs. I am certain that we all

will be wonderful grandparents because we know how it feels to be ignored

and or crowded. I have just been informed that 2 of my sister-in-laws are

planning on being at the hospital during Josh's heart surgery. It's a nice

thought but I just hope they keep quiet and don't say anything stupid (Like

always) The surgery is 5 hrs long and I really don't need to be annoyed. I

wish I had a laptop to take with me ao all of you could be there! I also am

with you on the adult list idea. I think for many of us ( I know for me)

this is our main source of support, I would feel horrible if one of my boys

read some of the emotional stuff we write. Many times we are just venting

and in need of adult support. For example- I would never say what I just

wrote in front of my boys I wouldn't want them to misinterpret my feelings

for resentment or any other negativity. Thanks for

- Mom of (13mons) & (3yrs)