Guest guest Posted September 14, 2000 Report Share Posted September 14, 2000 Hello Everyone..... I am new to this group. My name is Brigitte Van Nice and I am newly married, only two weeks. However my new husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for about 6 months now, but no luck. I was pregnant back in february and I miscarried at about 4-5 weeks. My question. How long have you had to try to get pregnant after surgery. I am two year and 3 months out and have had the ok from my doctor before we started trying. I have lost about 225 lbs and am now at about 155-160 depending on the day. Is it normal to have to try a little longer after the surgery. We desperately want children, but we won't go to the doctor for fertility problems until we are at least trying for a year and half or two years we have decided. Just curious how long it took for some of you to get pregnant and how do you relax after the disappointment of getting your period every month??? Thanks in advance for your advice. Brigitte Van Nice __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2000 Report Share Posted September 14, 2000 Brigitte, I can only speak for myself but I got pregnant the first month I tried. HOWEVER -- and this is a big however -- I had been in infertility treatment for quite a long while before surgery and I had come to know the signs of when I was fertile so we jumped on the right day and it happened. Here is what to look for -- and this is rather graphic but it can help: Your vaginal mucous should be of egg white consistency. The easiest way to tell this -- and again this is graphic -- is to get up close and personal with your vagina. If you masturbate, you will notice a discharge on your hands when you are fertile. It will be literally of egg white consistency and noticeable as it stretches between your fingers. On those days have sex! (No flames please about the masturbation comment -- I know some people don't for religious or other reasons but the mucous is more noticeable between your fingers than it is on toilet paper or anywhere else.) If you are not comfortable doing that, invest in a ovulation predictor that will help chart your cycle. Plus there is a great book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility. This will give you a lot more signs (such as charting your basal temperature) that may be just as practical if not more comfortable for you. I went by the discharge because my temperature was always fluctuating and I could never follow it properly. The other thing to realize is that most normal couples can take up to a year to conceive due to the fact that most women are only fertile for a 24-48 hour period every month and they have to time intercourse so that the sperm encounters the egg at just the right moment so that it will attach itself to the uterus walls. But start charting yourself, invest in an ovulation predictor kit (some are urine tests like pregnancy tests but there is a new electronic type reader that I have seen advertised -- it is probably a bit more expensive but from what I understand it is reuseable), get the book, and have at it. Oh a few things to consider -- get on prenatal vitamins now before you conceive. Cut back on caffeine if not eliminate it entirely -- caffeine can make it more difficult for the sperm to fertilize the egg. Start eating as though you are pregnant. Make sure you get a balanced diet and cut back on sugar, cut out alcohol and cigarettes entirely. Avoid hot tubs and whirlpools and have hubby do the same (if the scrotum gets too hot sperm production can be reduced!). Good luck and I hope to hear good news from you. How did I handle the disappointment btw? Cried cried and more cried. As a matter of fact, I almost walked out on the last pregnancy test I took because I figured I was just being an idiot -- there was no way it would actually be positive after five years (only 13 months after surgery but five years of wanting a baby) even though everything pointed that way. It was when I was about ready to walk out that the nurse walked back in and asked me why I lost all this weight just to gain some back with the baby. I screamed -- literally screamed -- and one of the doctors in the practice came in to see if I needed a tranquilizer to calm me down because I was almost hysterical -- laughing, crying, and so forth. When he found out I was pregnant after five years, he smiled, congratulated me and left. I needed the nurse to repeat the results again before I believed it. Brigitte, it will happen. But do try what I suggest above. It can help! Rasley mailto:drasley@... BTC, Columbus, 10/7/98 Start: 348 pounds and infertile Gained:a 6pound 3 ounce daughter born 8/9/00 > Re: I'm New > > > > Hello Everyone..... > > I am new to this group. My name is Brigitte Van Nice > and I am newly married, only two weeks. However my > new husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for > about 6 months now, but no luck. I was pregnant back > in february and I miscarried at about 4-5 weeks. > > My question. How long have you had to try to get > pregnant after surgery. I am two year and 3 months > out and have had the ok from my doctor before we > started trying. I have lost about 225 lbs and am now > at about 155-160 depending on the day. > > Is it normal to have to try a little longer after the > surgery. We desperately want children, but we won't > go to the doctor for fertility problems until we are > at least trying for a year and half or two years we > have decided. > > Just curious how long it took for some of you to get > pregnant and how do you relax after the disappointment > of getting your period every month??? > > Thanks in advance for your advice. > > Brigitte Van Nice > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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