Please help regarding Florida Laws/schools

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Hi,

If anyone can help me I would appreciate it. I have a meeting

with my daughter's school this Friday. We will be discussing some

behavioral issues my daughter has. Nothing major, but it has become a

big problem at home. Some I can not share online. However, one thing

that is bothering me is my daughter's sensativity to clothing. She

does not want to wear certain shirts right now..make that ANY shirts

right now! I used to fight with her everyday about it..sometimes two

hours at a time before school. (you know keeping a non emotiional

face on..letting her choose her clothes, not showing any fustration

etc.) Now I just wait until we leave for school to start the battle.

I have tried everything to get her to wear her shirts. SOme days she

does not have a problem and goes to her room and gets herself

dressed. However, most days that does not happen. I have given her

choices, hired behaviorists, and basicaly been fighting this everyday

for the last six months. She is in OT as well, and noone can figure

out why she won't wear her shirt. I joke around sometimes and say..at

least it is not her pants! ( I hope that is not next!)

Anyway, I managed to get an exemption from the school

regarding wearing a school uniform, however she still does not want

to wear a shirt to school. She is in first grade, and only 35

pounds..so I don't have to worry about obvious other problems.

However, the teachers and the aids force her to put her shiirt on

before she gets into the school, and the whole screeching and crying

batttle starts up again. When I asked for the exemption for the

uniform, the person in charge told me that she does not have to wear

the uniform, however if she does not wear any type shirt she can't

come to school. Duh..like I really want my child to go to school

naked!

I understand what they are saying to a point, but it is not

her fault or my fault that this is all happening...I don't want it to

get worse.It is so fusturating every morning, and so fusturating

everytime a different aide tells me .why don't you just let her wear

what she want to wear! Again, I try to explain to them she does not

want to wear any shirt! What she may like to wear on Monday, she may

not want to wear on Tuesday..I just don't know how to get this point

across to them.

Her teacher tells me to just let her wear what she

wants to wear (and so did the behavirist we just let go) and I should

pick my battles. I understand that..but what they don't seem to get

it that she now refuses to wear anything..unless she feels like it.

It has nothing to do with textures, tags, or, wanting to escape,

colors etc. I think I am now the official expert on all shirts!

What bothers me is that the teacher is telling me to

pick my battles, and then the people in charge are telling me if I

don't win the " so called non battle " then she can't go to school. AM

I wrong?? It is not like I am trying to match her clothes or trying

to get her to wear a frilly dress..I just want her to GET dressed!

Once she is in class she will usually settle down and join the class,

so the teacher does not seem to think it is such a big deal. She

refers to it as not always causing a problem. After a long six hours

of my child wearing clothes she hates she come home, takes off her

shirt and then puts on a bathing suit..go figure! I have no idea what

that is all about. The only pattern I see is that she wants to wear

small fitting clothing, usually tank tops/tank dresses, and bathing

suits.I sent her to school today in a tank top she loved to wear last

week, today she hated it, and again I was asked..why didn't you just

let her pick out her own clothes..uhh..I must have stupid ingraved on

my forehead or something..

If you can help please contact me. This is the least

of my problems right now,(My daughter ran down the road after school

yesterday and it took my over a half hour to catch her..thankfully

she was dressed..thankfully I got to her before a car did!

I have a meeting with the school this Friday to discuss

this and some other behaviors. I would like to go in there at

least " knowing " some of the laws.

Thank you so much for letting me vent. I hope you

all can give me some ideas by Friday,

Thank you