Welcome, Sally (was Re: Family)

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Hi Sally -- Welcome to the group! Hope you find what you're looking

for, and if you don't, just ask out loud. Someone here usually knows

the answer, or has been there, done that. It's really good that you're

learning all you can so that you can make an educated decision about

what's best for your life and health here.

I really understand your viewpoint about your husband and mother. My

relationships with mine are precious to me. I'm precious to them, too.

When I was younger (your age!) and " only " MO, WLS seemed a risky

thing. I put off considering it for a long time. Time passed, and I

watched my mother's health decline, all strictly due to her MO.

Fortunately, she is still with me, but hasn't had a day when she's

really felt good in many years. During that time also, I saw

undeniable signs in my own body that the same thing was going to

happen to me without WLS intervention.

I could no longer deny the fact that without WLS, my quality of life

would become unacceptable to me, I would be unable to be the wife or

mother I wanted to be, and then what would be left that I would

consider worth living for? This is life or death stuff here.

It came down to my survival and quality of life. I'm grateful that

there was no opposition from my family, but if there was, I'm sorry,

but my survival and health comes first. If I could not persuade them

to support me in this life or death matter, then I would have to go it

alone and work on the relationships afterwards.

But each has to do what is right for them. Best wishes on your quest,

wherever it takes you.

Regards -- Margie in Austin, TX

5'4 " , pre-revision 275#, 10/27/00 down 48#

RNY GB in 1987, revision to DGB/DS 02/01/00

Dr. Crookes, USC University Hospital, LA, CA

> ...

> So my opinion is that we ought to honor our marraige vows and not go

> agaist our husbands and moms. And if that makes people mad at me I'm

> sorry but that is what I think. Maybe I might change my mind. I

> don't know.