Re: My Sister in law...continued

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>Maybe I'm not using the correct words, but I feel in my heart that she lacks

>the desire to nurse & therefore can't/won't. I know that she would ask me

>for help if she wanted it. ...I'd be there in a minute.

>In fact I know/feel that she's feeling guilty about it & will probably have

>a hard time telling me, so I will call her & say something to break the

>ice...I don't want her to feel bad at all.

Thats so sad. And I do understand what you are trying to say. Her

desire to breastfeed does make all the difference.

I just remember when my first child stopped nursing at 2-3 months and how

disappointed I was, but not too concerned with it then. I just wonder if

it would have ended differently if someone had told me that I could

relactate, or put his back to the breast without hurting him or causing any

weight problems.

I still have a lot of guilt from not finding out more information on my own

when he was younger.

A friend of mine breastfed her two children when my oldest was around one

year. When we talked about differences in our children, or in our

parenting, she would credit breastfeeding almost apologetically to me. It

just didnt occur to me until I had nursed my second one much longer then my

first that there were very real differences between the two.

Guilt comes from regret of wishing you could change things that you

should/could have done differently.

If my friend had shared more information with me about how breastfeeding

was different, or how I could get back to breastfeeding, who knows what

would have happened.

But then, when he was one year old, I thought most of the credit given to

breastfeeding was just hype.