My Mom

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Pete,

My Mom is very overweight, she has trouble with high blood pressure and

Rhumatiod Arthritis. She has days where she can hardly move and I am not

exaggerating when I say she has been on a lo-fat diet since I can remember!!

I have proof that they don't work!! She went to WW just to gain back what she

lost, She did Nuti-systems, lost 90 pounds, gain it all back and more! And

she is not a person who eats all the time!! Right now as part of her

medication she is on a steroid, it is very low dose. she lost wieght while on

it though so there is hope!!. She also has reflux dease and had cancer at one

point which I hope she is cured from. She has been through the wringer!! She

also has bad a bad knee and will be getting a replacement soon. She is also

going to be getting surgery soon for a blockage she has that is affecting her

bowl. I was hoping to have lost a few more pound before I go to show her how

great this diet is, but I didn't so maybe while I am there she will see it! I

am buying her the Atkins book though. Maybe she will read it!! She is a great

person and has suffered alot. My Dad died a year ago and it has been hard on

her too. She gets very depressed. Here I go rambling!!! Sorry all! I will

talk to you later!!

Penny

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In a message dated 7/18/99 5:22:32 AM Pacific Daylight Time,

Shadcat708@... writes:

<< She is a great

person and has suffered alot. My Dad died a year ago and it has been hard on

her too. She gets very depressed. >>

Hi Penny,

I'm so sorry your mom has had to go through so much. Hopefully seeing and

being with you again will cheer her up. Maybe just seeing you again will

inspire her about the diet. Is it possible you could see her through at least

one week of induction while you are there? Does she have a PC that she could

get on this list so that all of us can help her along the way?

That bowel blockage is pretty serious. I was taken in to emergency and

operated on for that. I had some surgery done in April of 97 the dr. didn't

place the intestines back in right and caused a kink in my bowel which forced

an emergency surgery in August,only 4 months later. I was still in the

hospital when princess Diane was killed. If they had not operated I would

have died. It was such terrible pain. but the wierd thing was my bowels still

worked everyday so we had no idea that that what was wrong.The dr. knew

though, and admitted it. Thats why they don't like to cut anyone open if they

can go another way, like laser or whatever. I wish your mom all the luck and

I'm glad you'll be with her. please keep us informed.

Pete

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Ugh, I just have to vent about my Mom. I am about ten months post-op, and have

lost 110 pounds. I am about 12 pounds from my goal weight, and losing those

pounds slowly but surely. I am looking forward to my one year mark in September

when my husband and I are planning on trying to get pregnant again. I have

known from the start that I wanted at least one more baby, and I never would

have had this surgery first if I didn't find out from several sources beforehand

that it would be ok to have a baby after I lost my weight. But, I never

discussed this with my mother. She over-reacts to everything, so I tend to keep

her out of my private business. But, yesterday, we were talking about my car,

and I said what I really wanted was to trade my car in and get a mini-van,

because if we have another baby, my car won't be big enough for our whole

family. Her jaw dropped, and she exclaimed " you can't have another baby!

You're not getting ANY nutrition! " She told me if I did get pregnant, she would

be SO worried about the baby, because it would probably be all messed up from

not getting the right nutrients, and in addition, I would probably lose all my

teeth! Arghhhhh! There's no way to reason with her, since she has already

made up her mind that I am starving to death right in front of her eyes. I see

her about once a week, and she always asks, very concerned sounding, how I am

feeling. Everyone else in the world tells me how great I am looking, but she

thinks I look " weak " . I'll tell her I haven't lost any weight since she saw me

last week, and she will insist that I must have lost ten more pounds. She just

drives me so nuts, and she doesn't know when to quit. She will keep nagging and

bugging me about this for the rest of her life probably. So, now I know, that

if I do get pregnant, I will have to keep the news from her for as long as I can

manage just to keep the annoyance to a minimum. And, what if, on the off

chance, I do have a baby with some kind of birth-defect or health problem? She

will be sure that she was right all along, and of course will spread this story

to all my relatives. Man, the more I think about it, the more I just want to

move out-of-state and change my name! Is anyone else's family telling them that

having a baby after WLS is a terrible mistake?

Lynn

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i mellowed my mom right out!!! i just took her to the ultrasound and she

hasnt been the same since. max waving at her must have melted her heart.

julie

Re: My Mom

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>I'll take your mom if you take mine. Our own is always the worst. when you

>are up for it calmly tell her you have done alot of research onthis topic

>and there is no reason to belive you will have any unhealthy baby. Tell

>her her support would be much appreciated as you know another grand child

>wold be great for her too. Tell her honestly how you feel about wanting

>to share things with her but feel unable to because of her negatvity. Give

>her a chance to prove you wrong

>Lenore

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>At 08:32 PM 7/14/00 -0500, you wrote:

>>Ugh, I just have to vent about my Mom. I am about ten months post-op, and

>have lost 110 pounds. I am about 12 pounds from my goal weight, and losing

>those pounds slowly but surely. I am looking forward to my one year mark

>in September when my husband and I are planning on trying to get pregnant

>again. I have known from the start that I wanted at least one more baby,

>and I never would have had this surgery first if I didn't find out from

>several sources beforehand that it would be ok to have a baby after I lost

>my weight. But, I never discussed this with my mother. She over-reacts to

>everything, so I tend to keep her out of my private business. But,

>yesterday, we were talking about my car, and I said what I really wanted

>was to trade my car in and get a mini-van, because if we have another baby,

>my car won't be big enough for our whole family. Her jaw dropped, and she

>exclaimed " you can't have another baby! You're not getting ANY nutrition! "

> She told me if I did get pregnant, she would be SO worried about the baby,

>because it would probably be all messed up from not getting the right

>nutrients, and in addition, I would probably lose all my teeth! Arghhhhh!

> There's no way to reason with her, since she has already made up her mind

>that I am starving to death right in front of her eyes. I see her about

>once a week, and she always asks, very concerned sounding, how I am

>feeling. Everyone else in the world tells me how great I am looking, but

>she thinks I look " weak " . I'll tell her I haven't lost any weight since

>she saw me last week, and she will insist that I must have lost ten more

>pounds. She just drives me so nuts, and she doesn't know when to quit.

>She will keep nagging and bugging me about this for the rest of her life

>probably. So, now I know, that if I do get pregnant, I will have to keep

>the news from her for as long as I can manage just to keep the annoyance to

>a minimum. And, what if, on the off chance, I do have a baby with some

>kind of birth-defect or health problem? She will be suLynn

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