Re: thank you soooo much

[Guest guest]

: Thank you so much for the books and card. The kids loved the books,

They brought them to the hospital with them tonight. Tam started to cry

(happy tears) she thought that was so thoughtfull. Tam and the kids said

thank you and Im sending you a great big hug from all of us. We had a hard

night last night Burke my youngest started to cry when we were leaving. He

screamed all the way home " turn around I want my mommy " --------Its breaking

my heart. Tam had to close her door because she was crying so hard also. I

dont know what to do anymore. I cant believe they will pay for her to sit in

the hospital but wont pay for her meds to send her home to be with her

family. Totally stupid. Sorry for being so down but nobody else will listen

to me. I dont want to be negetive in front if Tam or the kids. Well thanks

again for the books and card. You made Bregan and Burkes day.

Your friends Tam, Steve, Bregan, and Burke

[Guest guest]

Steve,

I am glad the kids enjoyed the things I sent. I can't imagine how hard this is

on you. sometimes it is harder to be the one that is well than the one that is

sick. I speak from experience. As much as I hate going through what I am, I

would hate it worse if it were my loved one.

Can I offer you some advice on your little one? You can take it with a grain of

salt as I am sure you have been given much unsolicited advice already. I was

the assistant director of a preschool in my younger years. I had a class of 8

kids age 18 months - 3 years. This is advice I gave to all my moms with upset

little ones but applies in situations other than school, also.

Be very matter of fact when it is time to leave the hospital. Do your best to

keep your little one from seeing that his tears upset you. You cannot change

this situation and your little one may accept it better when he sees that this

is " simply the way it must be " . Warn him five minutes before it is time to go

that the time is coming. When that five minutes is up, ask him to kiss and hug

mommy bye (briefly). Take him by the hand or pick him up and walk out the door

saying " bye, mommy, have a good night, we will see you tomorrow " or something

like that. No matter if he is screaming at the top of his lungs try to keep

things upbeat (tough with a screaming little one). do not spend a lot of time

trying to talk to him at this point (it most likely won't do much good and may

let him see how upset you are). If possible, try talking to your daughter about

something fun. Follow the exact same routine every single time you must leave

mom at the hospital. Things should be bett!

er within a week. If not, try plan b. (at this point, i'm not sure what plan b

should be!) Anyway, give this a try, it may help. Children are typically very

adaptable to most any situation if we can keep our emotions under control. (not

always possible!)

Hope this helps a little.