Guest guest Posted April 3, 2000 Report Share Posted April 3, 2000 Hi All- I've posted this before on another board but never here. I was just thinking how lucky I am and how much I love my husband. And sometimes I forget how hard this has been on him too. We started seeing each other in '85. I had a tumultuous past but he loved me anyways. We were both full of life, vivacity and each other. In early 1987, I started passing out when I was running. He was worried and thought I should see a doctor. I did and all tests were normal. Good! Nothing was wrong. We soon got married. We moved to another city and he had to work very very hard. There was no family other than us. I got hot, shaky and weak and looked kind of wild. My heart wasn't right. He thought I had a serious heart problem and thought I should go back to the doctor. I did and was diagnosed with Graves'. Six months later I underwent RAI. OK, we thought everything will be better. " " he asked, " How come you don't ever want to go anywhere anymore " ? So he stayed at home too when he had free time. A couple of years went by. I became convinced he was my problem since I was " fine " and I left him and went back " home " . I quickly realized that I was my problem and he took me back with few questions asked. As the years have come and gone, we've had a son. I've forced myself to be active for my little one. I have had little left for my husband. Yet he's still here. I know that this has been as hard on him as it has been on me and still he stays. It would have been so easy for him to leave in the many years before our son was born. But he didn't. And for some, they still would leave but he's still here. He's an enigma and stoically endures what this disease does to his family. I cry for him and love him fiercely with every breath that I take. He's done way more than that for me. Utecht Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2000 Report Share Posted April 3, 2000 Tears here too ....it was my mom and my sister that got me going, since my hubby was at work, he didn't see as much as they did. It was/is hard....we WILL all make it though! HUGS Jewls In a message dated 4/3/00 8:18:00 PM Eastern Daylight Time, a.williams@... writes: << Oh , you have moved me to tears with your story. I had to write to tell you how much this has touched me. I am sure we all have some kind of story to tell about how this disease has affected our relationships. What a wonderful man you have, and he is lucky to have such a loving, caring, thoughtful, kind, and intelligent wife!! Your family is truly blessed! >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2000 Report Share Posted April 3, 2000 Oh , you have moved me to tears with your story. I had to write to tell you how much this has touched me. I am sure we all have some kind of story to tell about how this disease has affected our relationships. What a wonderful man you have, and he is lucky to have such a loving, caring, thoughtful, kind, and intelligent wife!! Your family is truly blessed! With great empathy, Randi Utecht wrote: > Hi All- > > I've posted this before on another board but never here. I was just thinking how lucky I am and how much I love my > husband. And sometimes I forget how hard this has been on him too. > > We started seeing each other in '85. I had a tumultuous past but he loved me anyways. We were both full of life, > vivacity and each other. > > In early 1987, I started passing out when I was running. He was worried and thought I should see a doctor. I did and > all tests were normal. Good! Nothing was wrong. > > We soon got married. We moved to another city and he had to work very very hard. There was no family other than us. > > I got hot, shaky and weak and looked kind of wild. My heart wasn't right. He thought I had a serious heart problem and > thought I should go back to the doctor. I did and was diagnosed with Graves'. > > Six months later I underwent RAI. OK, we thought everything will be better. " " he asked, " How come you don't ever > want to go anywhere anymore " ? So he stayed at home too when he had free time. > > A couple of years went by. I became convinced he was my problem since I was " fine " and I left him and went back > " home " . I quickly realized that I was my problem and he took me back with few questions asked. > > As the years have come and gone, we've had a son. I've forced myself to be active for my little one. I have had little > left for my husband. Yet he's still here. > > I know that this has been as hard on him as it has been on me and still he stays. It would have been so easy for him to > leave in the many years before our son was born. But he didn't. And for some, they still would leave but he's still > here. > > He's an enigma and stoically endures what this disease does to his family. > > I cry for him and love him fiercely with every breath that I take. He's done way more than that for me. > > Utecht > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > LOW RATE, NO WAIT! > Get a NextCard Visa, in 30 seconds! Get rates > as low as 2.9% Intro or 9.9% Fixed APR and no hidden fees. > Learn more at: > http://click./1/937/3/_/585824/_/954801744/ > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > ------------------------------------- > The Graves' list is intended for informational purposes only and is not intended to replace expert medical care. > Please consult your doctor before changing or trying new treatments. > ---------------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2000 Report Share Posted April 4, 2000 , thank you very much for sharing your beautiful and great love story with us. Care yourself very much. You deserve all the love Tom is giving you. And care Tom too, as he belongs to that 'special' kind of caring men we -women- long for... Wouldn't he have a twin single brother... > >Reply-To: graves_supportegroups >To: graves_supportonelist >Subject: Re: This man I married >Date: Mon, 03 Apr 2000 15:46:36 -0700 > >Hi All- > >I've posted this before on another board but never here. I was just >thinking how lucky I am and how much I love my >husband. And sometimes I forget how hard this has been on him too. > >We started seeing each other in '85. I had a tumultuous past but he loved >me anyways. We were both full of life, >vivacity and each other. > >In early 1987, I started passing out when I was running. He was worried >and thought I should see a doctor. I did and >all tests were normal. Good! Nothing was wrong. > >We soon got married. We moved to another city and he had to work very very >hard. There was no family other than us. > >I got hot, shaky and weak and looked kind of wild. My heart wasn't right. >He thought I had a serious heart problem and >thought I should go back to the doctor. I did and was diagnosed with >Graves'. > >Six months later I underwent RAI. OK, we thought everything will be >better. " " he asked, " How come you don't ever >want to go anywhere anymore " ? So he stayed at home too when he had free >time. > >A couple of years went by. I became convinced he was my problem since I >was " fine " and I left him and went back > " home " . I quickly realized that I was my problem and he took me back with >few questions asked. > >As the years have come and gone, we've had a son. I've forced myself to be >active for my little one. I have had little >left for my husband. Yet he's still here. > >I know that this has been as hard on him as it has been on me and still he >stays. It would have been so easy for him to >leave in the many years before our son was born. But he didn't. And for >some, they still would leave but he's still >here. > >He's an enigma and stoically endures what this disease does to his family. > >I cry for him and love him fiercely with every breath that I take. He's >done way more than that for me. > > Utecht > > ______________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free Email at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2000 Report Share Posted April 4, 2000 , Thanks so much for posting that! It is so good to be reminded of the wonderful things in our lives, too. I'll chip in about my great spouse with a totally off-topic story about intuition, so delete away for those only interested in thyroid stuff. First, I swore I'd never get married unless it was to a woman: meaning, I had no intention of cleaning and cooking and picking up laundry for someone . But then while in a cofree shop (oh, I know, cliche'of all. . . ) I sat next to this man and couldn't shake the weird feeling I had. I actually dreamt that night that we went grocery shopping together and then had two other dreams where we were taking dogs to the vet and one with a canary?!!! Anyway, while preparing for a date with my then boyfriend, I was dressing and combing my hair in the mirror and thought: who am I going to spend my life with? Like a flash, this exact phrase popped into my head: " I'm going to marry that guy from the coffee shop so I better find out his name. " I went back to the coffee shop a couple of weeks later and within 15 minutes husband to be, showed up. He actually sat down next to me (coincidence?) and after talking for an hour, we went out three days later on a date that lasted two days. Within two weeks we declared our undying love and as soon as we found an apartment, were living together (apologies to anyone offended). My friends in particular were horrified when I told them I was moving in with someone I met a few weeks ago!!! This is now ten years, marriage, two kids, two dogs, lots of tragedies and joys later and I am only looking forward to getting very, very old with this man. Anyway, just a little bit on intuition. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2000 Report Share Posted April 6, 2000 What an excellent story!!! No canary yet, though? ;P Kari >First, I swore I'd never get married unless it was to a woman: meaning, I had no intention of cleaning and cooking and picking up laundry for someone . But then while in a cofree shop (oh, I know, cliche'of all. . . ) I sat next to this man and couldn't shake the weird feeling I had. I actually dreamt that night that we went grocery shopping together and then had two other dreams where we were taking dogs to the vet and one with a canary?!!! Anyway, while preparing for a date with my then boyfriend, I was dressing and combing my hair in the mirror and thought: who am I going to spend my life with? Like a flash, this exact phrase popped into my head: " I'm going to marry that guy from the coffee shop so I better find out his name. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2000 Report Share Posted April 8, 2000 , That's a wonderful story! I truly believe in intuition, and of course it was meant to be for you to marry your husband. Nothing happens by accident! For that I am sure! I too have a wonderful husband, and we are very lucky to have them in our lives!! Thanks again for the help. *Hugs* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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