Guest guest Posted August 27, 2012 Report Share Posted August 27, 2012 Hi Joanne and group. I've no where to go and feel extremely tired and sick as my sleep is cut 3 hours daily due to loud noise and drama. I have no where to go not even a vehicle,just this house. It's not safe to go for walksalone,I always wait until husband off at 6pm to go out. I'll be cutting walls very short because of being tired. I just feel can't eat and force myself to get up to get liquids. Should I even attempt the bee program at this point? I do have supplements and right food. I just sit outside and cry a lot. I've gotten very quiet. Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2012 Report Share Posted August 27, 2012 Hi Joanne Husband and I have to walk everywhere and do not have the energy or time to get much done. I only talk to my husband anymore besides posting on this and Bees forum. I even stopped talking to my dad(I like him) because he gets upset with my mom and screams so I hide and eat outside back of the house with husband. We often cross street walk 5-10 minutes from house just so I can get away where I don't hear them, we sit on grass.I can't afford spending what little time I have doing other things I spend it all with husband as we don't have much time together. I wonder if its just the second trimester I'm so emotional and upset. I've gotten quite tired my body screams for sleep and then doors slam and people scream then I bawl my eyes out and sometimes feel dehydrated. Its rare for me to go to kitchen without seeing someone there so I often hide in my room and don't get up enough to get liquids...I see the person who is causing me to not sleep and treat me very bad while pretending to care and be nice(just uses a nice tone) and feel very stressed and upset then I start to cry again. She recently cut her arm on purpose for attention causing police to arrive and there is no mental help facility here. Well I " ve always been really sensitive to loud noise/drama. My heart will pound my stomache will hurt and I feel faint. Sometimes its just crying for long periods. I'm now almost having accidents often without access to a bathroom so I find something to go in. I may be able to purchase porta potty in 2 weeks... I do feel there is no option for me Besides Bee I'm so sick what else can I do? However I started eating terrible again to hurry to kitchen and hide again because being out of my room stresses me more because of the people and such. I worry I will end up dying or so sick to even get out of bed Thanks > > >  > Bee will be able to tell you best if you should start the diet now or later. She has been using ketogenic diets now for over 20 years. i have only been doing this a few years and only know the basics. Bee will know what to ask you and will know a lot about how best to do the diet when pregnant, i have no experience regarding this, but bee has a lot of experience in regards to many situations. >  > She is also somewhat older than me and Bee can remember a time when the diet in the west was not so bad as it is now, and she also knows about a lot of old fashioned remedies. i know some things, mainly what I have learned from Bee, and the other people i have mentioned on the main email i sent to the board recently, but still my knowlege is limited, and i am still learning. if it was my daughter that was pregnant and in similar circumstances to yourself i would give her a gentle nudge to email Bee via her Candida site, mainly because bee knows more than me and her info is free. I do like Natasha on the GAPS site and Dr Mercola on the Mercola site, and many of the other folk I have mentioned, but consultations with these folk are very expensive, Bee charges $50 for phone consulations, but me and many of the other folk i know that are doing Bees diet do not pay for consultations we just ask for help via her candida board and this is enough >  > Now regarding how i cope with my difficult life >  > My life is hard because i am caring for so many people that are ill and because i have so little money, and other stuff, like dealing with all the addiction on my family, and just every day stuff too. I have my own illness too to contend with, and in my everyday life there is not one person that can help me at all with that, but luckily there are folk here on this board that can help me with that >  > Anyway, in the past, when i was younger, i was so very sad because nothing in my life was going right, and even when I tried really hard to get myself on my feet and do well, my family would always create dramas and sabotage everything I tried to do. I got so very ill, it is hard to even explain how bad things got for me because frankly I did not know things could get that bad for anybody >  > But when I joined the 12 step groups I learned that there are indeed many people in this world that get in similar messes to what I got into >  > I had to attend the 12 step groups for a while to understand what these folk were saying to me, and frankly I could not understand a lot of it. My head was so fogged up with Candida and what ever else was in my head, it all just sounded like waffle to me. But as the weeks went by I began to realise that this deep sad state I was in was far more serious than I thought it was. >  > I was dying , and I am not exagerating when I say that. My illness had progressed to a terribly bad place and nobody was helping me, no doctors were helping, my family were not helping, and even these folk at Alanon, although really lovely folk, really lovely folk, there was only so much they could do to help me. But the one good thing was these folk at Alanon did know the reality of all this. They too had suffered a lot, a very lot in the past, just like I had and they had managed to get themselves out of the mess they had been in. Some of them had had to move out, and I realised I had to move away too, but many did not have to, in fact most managed to stay living in their homes and really this is what Alanon is about, it is about helping people to stay living with their families even though all this silly business is going on >  > Now I can here, on this site share some of how I cope, but my way is just my way and only really right for me, to find your own way you would be doing yourself a favour if you speak to many people that belong to these kinds of groups, there should be at least a few in your area >  > Anyway, what I do if go to the library a lot. Here there are not many roudy people, it is usually peaceful and I can use the computer and chat to folk here at this site etc. I also go for walks in the park. I used to struggle to walk and could only get from bench to bench, and at the time it seemed like a waste of time, but it was not a waste of time because this was giving me some exercise. I also go and sit in churches. I am a Catholic and mainly I visit Catholic churches but I also go to many other kinds of churches and I find this so heart warming. When I visit the churches I often do not speak much with anybody, I just listen to the sermon and read their literature and admire their art work and so on. this passes the day for me and it helps me not feel so sad and lonely, it helps me realise that God is close to me >  > I also go to many second hand markets. I do not think you have many of these in the USA, but I think maybe you have what are called garage sales, which are roughtly the same thing. At these markets I have a really good time and I really enjoy it. Sometimes I have only a tiny amount of money on me but I do find some really good bargains an this can make my day. I have been to one this weekend and whilst there I found some CDs and DVDs that were only 50p and they were all things I really enjoy, like O'Donnel in concert, and a Bible video about Magdelene >  > As I walk around there markets I talk to myself like I am my very best friend, like I am a kind teacher, or my own mom. I am really consoling and kind to myself, I look for everything that is good in me and think about what a gift it is to be alive and how wonderful it is to be a child of God. >  > When I look after myself in this gentle way it is much easier for me to cope with all the craziness in my family, and i do not get down so much >  > I am being shouted now, again, but when I get chance I will be online again. >  > It is easier to cope with all this if we try to live in the present moment and find what is good in that moment >  > Love Joanne > > > To: fibromyalgiacured > Sent: Monday, 27 August 2012, 14:11 > Subject: Extremely tired and stresses > > >  > Hi Joanne and group. > > I've no where to go and feel extremely tired and sick as my sleep is cut 3 hours daily due to loud noise and drama. > > I have no where to go not even a vehicle,just this house. It's not safe to go for walksalone,I always wait until husband off at 6pm to go out. > I'll be cutting walls very short because of being tired. > > I just feel can't eat and force myself to get up to get liquids. > > Should I even attempt the bee program at this point? > > I do have supplements and right food. > > I just sit outside and cry a lot. I've gotten very quiet. > Thanks > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2012 Report Share Posted August 27, 2012 Hi , Noise and drama are so hurtful to us. Stress can hurt your appetite. Try to get some eggs into you and some butter, and if you are new to low carb, you may have to have some safe higher carbs such as buckwheat or sweet potatoes. Is there someone besides your husband who can come over, or talk on the phone with someone, who is not into dramatic episodes. Can you do crafts or go on line to keep your mind occupied, or do some light exercises, or do some deep breathing. I have been by myself so much during my life, and it is not fun. Best wishes c > > Hi Joanne and group. > > I've no where to go and feel extremely tired and sick as my sleep is cut 3 hours daily due to loud noise and drama. > > I have no where to go not even a vehicle,just this house. It's not safe to go for walksalone,I always wait until husband off at 6pm to go out. > I'll be cutting walls very short because of being tired. > > I just feel can't eat and force myself to get up to get liquids. > > Should I even attempt the bee program at this point? > > I do have supplements and right food. > > I just sit outside and cry a lot. I've gotten very quiet. > Thanks > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2012 Report Share Posted August 27, 2012 , others: I am new to the group, but here are a few quick tips - free and easy " mind " things I have been using to deal with hopelessness, extreme anxiety. Note that I am not a " happy camper " but I have learned to just try to shift my mood at least a little. And the best part is that it seems to be cumulative. I will offer one cavaet: I've had severe clinical depression and know what its like not to care about ANYTHING. The " leave me alone, I don't care if I die " depression. If that is the case, I would recommend seeing a doctor. Though I believe in natural mind-body healing, medication has been critical for stabilization at times. I've got more detail below you can read when you feel up to it, but here is the quick list. 1. Stop watching mainstream TV and reading mainstream magazines/newspapers. It's full of stress triggers, and you don't need it. 2. Replace mainstream media with inspirational stuff. There is a TON of FREE stuff on YouTube. There are even beach scenes to enjoy. 3. Try the gratitude list thing. I know it's annoying, but try it. 4. Try EFT/Tapping. Weird as heck, but I swear it works. 5. Explore your connection to the divine. (I was an atheist, believe it or not.) 1. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT but many people resist it: STOP WATCHING REGULAR TELEVISION and STOP READING THE NEWS. You can check the headlines briefly, but you'll quickly find that they are completely irrelevant to your life. What can you actually do about any of it at that particular moment? Be aware, not inundated. I cut $80 out of my monthly budget by cancelling satellite/cable service. That's almost $1000 a year! 2. Instead, spend time watching or reading inspiring material or stuff that is actually relevant to your healing. Find things that just make you feel good, even if for a little while. Watch a nature video, go to the beach via You Tube. We pretended when we were kids and it was great! Why not? Do enjoy some Hollywood escapism (I love SciFi) but not too much. Avoid stressful or violent dramas. You have enough stress in your own life without living it vicariously!! 2. On YouTube, I am watching free videos by " Abraham-Hicks " of the " Law of Attraction " fame. Now some might have trouble with this because it involves " channeling " , but I myself don't care so much about the source of information. I don't need to believe it all or become a " follower " . I don't need to buy a thing. I have just learned a lot of great tools from these free videos for moving myself into a better mood. I started out by simply making myself watch one or two of the short 5-10 minute videos. I often found at least one " mind-trick " to pull myself out of despair a little. A good one to start with is: Abraham: The Vortex ure=plpp_video If the Abraham-Hicks stuff doesn't resonate, find something else that does. There is a ton of great inspirational content on YouTube. Explore. All FREE. 3. Do the gratitude list thing. Now I was VERY resistant to this for a LONG time. I was like, " Sure. It's easy to say that when you are not miserable. " But I eventually tried it, writing just 3 quick things a few times a week. And there were simple: I'm thankful for my cats that are so cute, for the pretty song or video I saw today, for having information to help me heal. And as I kept trying it, it got easier and did make me feel fortunate and glad, as opposed to unlucky and miserable. And it's free and quick and you can even do it in your head! 4. I've starting using " EFT " or " Tapping " . Discovered it via free You Tube Videos by - search " Faster EFT " on YouTube. It is by far the absolutely weirdest thing but, by golly, I swear it works. A good basic, guided session is by Eva Marklund entitled " Anxiety, Fear and Stress Relief " . re=plpp_video 5. Though I have never been very religious, actually atheist, I have recently accepted that I have a soul that is part of a larger, divine creation. And while I do not attend traditional church, I do listen to audio shows that convey the love the higher beings have for us here on earth. It feels pretty awesome. Part of my old atheist self wants to tell me I'm being delusional, but I'll take whatever good feelings I can get that don't involve substances or surrendering my power or free will (or money, for that matter). And when I am feeling hopeless and sorry for myself, I have found myself thinking: Is this anyway to treat a higher being? For what it's worth, I hope some of these help you as they have begun to help me. Lots of love to you, > > > > Hi Joanne and group. > > > > I've no where to go and feel extremely tired and sick as my sleep is cut 3 hours daily due to loud noise and drama. > > > > I have no where to go not even a vehicle,just this house. It's not safe to go for walksalone,I always wait until husband off at 6pm to go out. > > I'll be cutting walls very short because of being tired. > > > > I just feel can't eat and force myself to get up to get liquids. > > > > Should I even attempt the bee program at this point? > > > > I do have supplements and right food. > > > > I just sit outside and cry a lot. I've gotten very quiet. > > Thanks > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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