Guest guest Posted May 31, 2011 Report Share Posted May 31, 2011 Dear Lynn, My husband had an agressive form of cancer and has had treatment. But after learning what I have learned through research is that your husband should seek out treatment. I agree with everyone here. Pass on your research to your husband. I hope you find your answers. My question to you is what is your husband's oncologist saying about all this? Has he gone to see an oncologist yet? I'm not a medical professional...I am a housewife who's has been were you are. If you would like to chat just let me know. I try to keep up with what's happening here. These people really got me through some pretty hard times. I hope you find the answers you are looking for. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers. Best of Luck, Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2011 Report Share Posted May 31, 2011 I have been watching this thread for a little while. I have remained quiet since I am not a doctor, just another joe fighting this disease. I have been active here for the past 3 years while I get diagnosed and treated. There are a few people here who will give you all kinds of medical advise and back it up with data. Some will show that you should do something, others will show that you shouldn’t. Both are valid options but remember they are not familiar specifically with your husband’s case. Take that information under advisement, find a doctor that you feel comfortable with and discuss it with him. Get 2nd, 3rd, 4th or more opinions until you find a doctor you are comfortable working with and you feel you can trust. Why? Because you are going to be working with him for a long time. This is not a disease that you visit the doctor a few times and you are done. This will be a relationship that you are going to actively have over several years. There are several different treatments that can be used. From what I have seen here they all have good and bad outcomes. Pick one that is comfortable for you and your husband and your doctor. Make sure you educate yourselves with the positives and negatives of each one. Only then can you be comfortable with your final decision. My concern with your question of doubling indicates your husband is wanting to put off the decision as long as possible. I don’t blaim him, none of the treatment options are very encouraging and open up the possibilities of some negative side effects. I know, I have seen quite a few of them. They are not pleasant and I would not want to wish them onto anyone. What I have learned on this board is the earlier you are diagnosed and treated the better the outcomes and less adverse the side effects may be. You also only chance at an effective treatment. The worse off you are when you begin treatment the worse the treatment and side effects are going to be. I know, mine was discovered almost too late. I understand that your husband may want to procrastinate on treatments that may “take away his manhood” but he needs to man-up before the disease takes away his manhood and more. Remember men die from this cancer. The sooner he admits this and gets one with his treatments the better off he will be. If he doesn’t he is going to regret it. I know, I see the posts here of people that have detected their cancer early and the options they have and I look at all of the treatments I have had to go through and wish I had caught mine earlier. Mine was discovered when it was, but I would hate to see my options go out the window just because I was unwilling to make a tough decision. From: ProstateCancerSupport [mailto:ProstateCancerSupport ] On Behalf Of shedorman@... Sent: Tuesday, May 31, 2011 7:29 PM To: ProstateCancerSupport Subject: Doubling timing Dear Lynn, My husband had an agressive form of cancer and has had treatment. But after learning what I have learned through research is that your husband should seek out treatment. I agree with everyone here. Pass on your research to your husband. I hope you find your answers. My question to you is what is your husband's oncologist saying about all this? Has he gone to see an oncologist yet? I'm not a medical professional...I am a housewife who's has been were you are. If you would like to chat just let me know. I try to keep up with what's happening here. These people really got me through some pretty hard times. I hope you find the answers you are looking for. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers. Best of Luck, Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2011 Report Share Posted May 31, 2011 I have been watching this thread for a little while. I have remained quiet since I am not a doctor, just another joe fighting this disease. I have been active here for the past 3 years while I get diagnosed and treated. There are a few people here who will give you all kinds of medical advise and back it up with data. Some will show that you should do something, others will show that you shouldn’t. Both are valid options but remember they are not familiar specifically with your husband’s case. Take that information under advisement, find a doctor that you feel comfortable with and discuss it with him. Get 2nd, 3rd, 4th or more opinions until you find a doctor you are comfortable working with and you feel you can trust. Why? Because you are going to be working with him for a long time. This is not a disease that you visit the doctor a few times and you are done. This will be a relationship that you are going to actively have over several years. There are several different treatments that can be used. From what I have seen here they all have good and bad outcomes. Pick one that is comfortable for you and your husband and your doctor. Make sure you educate yourselves with the positives and negatives of each one. Only then can you be comfortable with your final decision. My concern with your question of doubling indicates your husband is wanting to put off the decision as long as possible. I don’t blaim him, none of the treatment options are very encouraging and open up the possibilities of some negative side effects. I know, I have seen quite a few of them. They are not pleasant and I would not want to wish them onto anyone. What I have learned on this board is the earlier you are diagnosed and treated the better the outcomes and less adverse the side effects may be. You also only chance at an effective treatment. The worse off you are when you begin treatment the worse the treatment and side effects are going to be. I know, mine was discovered almost too late. I understand that your husband may want to procrastinate on treatments that may “take away his manhood” but he needs to man-up before the disease takes away his manhood and more. Remember men die from this cancer. The sooner he admits this and gets one with his treatments the better off he will be. If he doesn’t he is going to regret it. I know, I see the posts here of people that have detected their cancer early and the options they have and I look at all of the treatments I have had to go through and wish I had caught mine earlier. Mine was discovered when it was, but I would hate to see my options go out the window just because I was unwilling to make a tough decision. From: ProstateCancerSupport [mailto:ProstateCancerSupport ] On Behalf Of shedorman@... Sent: Tuesday, May 31, 2011 7:29 PM To: ProstateCancerSupport Subject: Doubling timing Dear Lynn, My husband had an agressive form of cancer and has had treatment. But after learning what I have learned through research is that your husband should seek out treatment. I agree with everyone here. Pass on your research to your husband. I hope you find your answers. My question to you is what is your husband's oncologist saying about all this? Has he gone to see an oncologist yet? I'm not a medical professional...I am a housewife who's has been were you are. If you would like to chat just let me know. I try to keep up with what's happening here. These people really got me through some pretty hard times. I hope you find the answers you are looking for. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers. Best of Luck, Sheila Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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