Got my membership .............

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Yippee my membership card and ngew gen came this morning. Don't feel like

such a fraud now LOL

Must congratulate the Newgen on a wonderful article ........ Watch your

language!

I *failed* to breastfeed my dd through embarrassment/ignorance call it what

you want. Was more determined with ds (now 5 months) unfortunately was so

ill after birth that I only managed 2 days worth and then illness took over

and my hefty 10 lber wasn't satisfied! Didn't beat myself up over it but

was regretful. However, other people *well meaning* intentions have often

left me feeling like I was a *bad mother* and not so much scared of

admitting I bottle fed, more shy of saying so.

Whilst not giving *permission* for people to bottle feed the article was so

well written that it almost said * it's still okay* (which it is as the only

alternative). The promotion of breast is best is so important that the

feelings of bottle fed mothers can be inadvertently trampled on (all with

the best intentions of course).

As suggested in the article, I wholeheartedly support the the lines " if you

are bottle feeding .... " I put off joining the NCT as I had the *guilt* of

being a bottle feeding mum and thought I wouldn't be welcome. I am so glad

to be wrong

Well Done for a wonderful article .......

Derby & District

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On Wed, 1 Nov 2000 10:37:41 -0000, " Robe "

wrote:

>Yippee my membership card and ngew gen came this morning. Don't feel like

>such a fraud now

*sulk* I didn't get a New Gen. :-(

Can I read through yours on Friday, please ? I promise to give it

back !

--

Clare Lusher.

SAHM to Ruairí (24.10.99).

NCT Member Derby & District.

www.yum.org/clare

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Will bring it with me Clare .....

Derby & District

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www.robe-family.co.uk

www.derbyrealnappies.co.uk

[Guest guest]

, I agree with you whole heartedly.

I had the most dreadful time trying to breastfeed DS (who is now 12). I

soldiered on for 10 weeks until DH decided enough was enough and sat me down

saying the heartache I was going through was not worth the effort and we

know we want another child so we will have another go then. This ended 10

weeks of cracked and bleeding nipples, test weighing, frowns and advice from

well intended 'experts' (5 midwifes, 4 health visitors, 1 BFC and the 2 old

dears who helped weigh the baby's at the baby clinic.) So DS went on the

bottle.

DD arrived less than 2 years later, and I fed her until she was 15 months

old and I can count the bottles she had in her mouth on the fingers of on

hand. However, when DD was about 4 months old I went to an NCT coffee

morning when one of the other Mums who had just had a new baby was asked

'are you feeding her yourself? And her very 'snotty' remarks was, 'is there

any other way?' I felt so angry at her!

Now as a teacher I make sure my Mums know that I will support them what ever

their decision. Breast feeding might be natural but to some it does not come

naturally. I know it can be the most glorious experience and I still feel

very envious and bereft when a see a Mum breastfeeding her beautiful child.

I miss it very much. However, I also can not forget what I went through

trying to feed my son and the relief I felt when my husband suggested he

when solely on the bottle.

Sorry to rant,

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wrote:-

> I had the most dreadful time trying to breastfeed DS ...............

> DD arrived less than 2 years later, and I fed her until she was 15 months

> old

> Sorry to rant,

, don't apologise for the rant - rant away!

It just makes me feel normal as I have the DS like yours although I only

managed 5 weeks and didn't even get to the bleeding nipples stage as he just

wasn't interested in nipples! He is interested in Boobies now though at

22months!!Hmmmm bit later if you ask me.

I just pray that I may be blessed with another child one day like your DD.