Guest guest Posted May 1, 2001 Report Share Posted May 1, 2001 Believe me , I don't always kick them out. There are nights we just pick em up and toss em in bed with us.. we just dont have any room to sleep comfortably. I'm just afraid to make this a habit. And I normally only get 3-4 hours of sleep a night as it is. Treatments need to begin no later than 4:30 am, and we very rarily get treatments done at night and into bed before 10 pm. I guess I just thought this meant they had some insecurities, cuz the only time I remember trying to climb in bed with my parents was when I was scared, and when they got divorced. I msy try that, though, give them one night a week each when they are allowed to sleep with me. But NOT the same time. We only have a full size. Four people on that bed usually means atleast one will be pushed off (and for some reason that always seems to be me). --- Baxter wrote: > Jen, > > I think they just want to be near you guys. My six > year old who doesnt have > cf has probably spent 10-20 nights in his life in > his own bed where Eilish > who is 3 1/2 wcf doesnt mind it in her own bed, but > if she comes in then so > be it. Our bed is like a commune. I know not > everyone likes their kids in > the bed but were dont mind. They wont do it forever > and boy I'd miss waking > up to the little whispers between themselves and the > little kisses they give > to wake me up. > > Maybe they could have 1 night (a special night) each > week where they could > sleep in with you guys. My friend does this each > Friday night with her son > as a treat. > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2001 Report Share Posted May 1, 2001 Hi Jen, welcome to the list! We also generally don't like the idea of the " family-bed " . But we let Fiona sleep in her own bed in our sleeping-room for almost the first three years of her life. When we moved into our new home then, we were a bit anxious, that she wouldn't sleep in her own room. To our surprise Fiona demanded to sleep in her room from day one on. She has hardly spent a night in our bed for the last 18 months. But whenever she wakes up at night and wants to get into our bed, we let her, since there is not much sense in discussing with a child at night. Although Fiona is a VERY clingy child and hasn't spent more than six hours in a row without her mom, she has never made up stories to get into our bed. Fiona was very verbal from little on and we were often surprised, how a child can become scared of the smallest things. Even the Teletubbies can sometimes be scaring in the eyes of kids. Have you asked Jonathon what is scaring him and why? We always encourage Fiona to talk about her bad dreams and I am often surprised how detailled she can recall her worries from the night before. Hope you'll figure it out. Bye Torsten, dad of Fiona 4wcf e-mail: aberdeen95@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2001 Report Share Posted May 25, 2001 Fay, At one time I was having severe crying spells followed by screaming and screaming. It does not matter what I was saying but I got all work up if I was late for an appt. by a min. I'd cry if someone said Boo!. so I can understand how you feel. I still have them sometimes but they are not as bad or as often. And my therapist taught me some techniques like deep breathing, lying on the bed and closing your eyes and thinking of being somewhere nice and start from toes up to head slowly feeling yourself relaxed. It depends on the state in which I am in whether these things work or not. I do a lot of praying. Don't know where you are with that. If you trust your doc then tell him how bad the anxiety is maybe he can suggest something. I see you are on benadryl, I can not take that stuff it acts the opposite. Everyone has to find there relaxation mode and it is not an easy thing with what else we deal with. Good luck and i hope you have some good support at home. And you know the group is with you. Write me anytime. I am not sure that help but to say I will pray for you and I sure know where you are coming from. God Bless Deana mother of 2 grown up and out of house SO who is no support at all On Thu, 24 May 2001 21:02:39 -0700 (PDT) Fay writes: > Hello > I have been around for a while and have introduced > several times. I wanted to tell you about how I have > been. i have been very nervous laately. the anxiety > has been really bad. I recently lost an Uncle and > maybe that is the after effects. I really do not know. > i have been having some really bad nightmares lately. > I was also wondering if any of you'll live in > Louisiana. If anybody does who is their doctor. I > think that i have really found a good doctor finally. > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do > to get over it . I am on serzone 200mg., trazodone > 150mg., benadryl 50 mg., avandia,buspar 10mg. lasix > 40mg, celebrax 200mg., flexeril10mg., calcium > 1500mg.,multivitamin, zantac 150mg., mother of threee > teenagers help fay > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2001 Report Share Posted May 25, 2001 Fay, At one time I was having severe crying spells followed by screaming and screaming. It does not matter what I was saying but I got all work up if I was late for an appt. by a min. I'd cry if someone said Boo!. so I can understand how you feel. I still have them sometimes but they are not as bad or as often. And my therapist taught me some techniques like deep breathing, lying on the bed and closing your eyes and thinking of being somewhere nice and start from toes up to head slowly feeling yourself relaxed. It depends on the state in which I am in whether these things work or not. I do a lot of praying. Don't know where you are with that. If you trust your doc then tell him how bad the anxiety is maybe he can suggest something. I see you are on benadryl, I can not take that stuff it acts the opposite. Everyone has to find there relaxation mode and it is not an easy thing with what else we deal with. Good luck and i hope you have some good support at home. And you know the group is with you. Write me anytime. I am not sure that help but to say I will pray for you and I sure know where you are coming from. God Bless Deana mother of 2 grown up and out of house SO who is no support at all On Thu, 24 May 2001 21:02:39 -0700 (PDT) Fay writes: > Hello > I have been around for a while and have introduced > several times. I wanted to tell you about how I have > been. i have been very nervous laately. the anxiety > has been really bad. I recently lost an Uncle and > maybe that is the after effects. I really do not know. > i have been having some really bad nightmares lately. > I was also wondering if any of you'll live in > Louisiana. If anybody does who is their doctor. I > think that i have really found a good doctor finally. > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do > to get over it . I am on serzone 200mg., trazodone > 150mg., benadryl 50 mg., avandia,buspar 10mg. lasix > 40mg, celebrax 200mg., flexeril10mg., calcium > 1500mg.,multivitamin, zantac 150mg., mother of threee > teenagers help fay > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2001 Report Share Posted May 25, 2001 Fay, At one time I was having severe crying spells followed by screaming and screaming. It does not matter what I was saying but I got all work up if I was late for an appt. by a min. I'd cry if someone said Boo!. so I can understand how you feel. I still have them sometimes but they are not as bad or as often. And my therapist taught me some techniques like deep breathing, lying on the bed and closing your eyes and thinking of being somewhere nice and start from toes up to head slowly feeling yourself relaxed. It depends on the state in which I am in whether these things work or not. I do a lot of praying. Don't know where you are with that. If you trust your doc then tell him how bad the anxiety is maybe he can suggest something. I see you are on benadryl, I can not take that stuff it acts the opposite. Everyone has to find there relaxation mode and it is not an easy thing with what else we deal with. Good luck and i hope you have some good support at home. And you know the group is with you. Write me anytime. I am not sure that help but to say I will pray for you and I sure know where you are coming from. God Bless Deana mother of 2 grown up and out of house SO who is no support at all On Thu, 24 May 2001 21:02:39 -0700 (PDT) Fay writes: > Hello > I have been around for a while and have introduced > several times. I wanted to tell you about how I have > been. i have been very nervous laately. the anxiety > has been really bad. I recently lost an Uncle and > maybe that is the after effects. I really do not know. > i have been having some really bad nightmares lately. > I was also wondering if any of you'll live in > Louisiana. If anybody does who is their doctor. I > think that i have really found a good doctor finally. > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do > to get over it . I am on serzone 200mg., trazodone > 150mg., benadryl 50 mg., avandia,buspar 10mg. lasix > 40mg, celebrax 200mg., flexeril10mg., calcium > 1500mg.,multivitamin, zantac 150mg., mother of threee > teenagers help fay > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2001 Report Share Posted May 25, 2001 Hi Fay, I have found that when I get anxiety, I try to find something to do even if it is in the middle of the night. I talk to my husband for a while and that helps but if I stay in bed it gets worse and worse. I don't have a medication especially to take there are some out there. I am sure that you will get more information from the nice people on the list. Take care and let me know how your are coping with anxiety. We all care about you and you are in my prayers. Irene > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2001 Report Share Posted May 25, 2001 Hi Fay, I have found that when I get anxiety, I try to find something to do even if it is in the middle of the night. I talk to my husband for a while and that helps but if I stay in bed it gets worse and worse. I don't have a medication especially to take there are some out there. I am sure that you will get more information from the nice people on the list. Take care and let me know how your are coping with anxiety. We all care about you and you are in my prayers. Irene > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2001 Report Share Posted May 25, 2001 Hi Fay, I have found that when I get anxiety, I try to find something to do even if it is in the middle of the night. I talk to my husband for a while and that helps but if I stay in bed it gets worse and worse. I don't have a medication especially to take there are some out there. I am sure that you will get more information from the nice people on the list. Take care and let me know how your are coping with anxiety. We all care about you and you are in my prayers. Irene > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2001 Report Share Posted May 25, 2001 In a message dated 5/25/01 10:08:10 AM Eastern Daylight Time, patidu@... writes: > > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do > Anxiety is usually treated with klonapin or xanax. Just take a little. Breathing exercises are great. Breath in through your nose and let your stomach expand outward. When you breath in through your nose make sure your stomach is expanded. When you let the air out make a like loud noise. The best way is to keep your tongue on the roof of your mouth. If your anxiety/panic attaches are bad you may have to take one of the above medicians for it. They work great, they both are addicting, but when you feel like you can handle it on your own , the medicine will be SLOWLY tapered off. I'm a Psych nurse and I used to teach people how to relax. The knowledge has helped me a lot with fibro. My fibro hit's my legs badly, they spasm so bad and it is very painful. I have to use the technicques I know or I would go mad with pain. Another good one is to gently stretch each part of your body and keep telling yourself it will pass. If you are having them a lot I mean every day, talk to your doctor about the. There is also some med's that are not addictive I can't name them all because there are a lot. Remember, we all all different. What works for one may not work for the other. That's why it's imporant to see your Doctor. It probably will be a trial and error sort of thing. I'm sure you will fing what help's you. Good Luck Kathy D. Diagnosed in 98 Live in Western Massachusetts Married for almost 19yrs, to a sweetheart Mother to 16 and 14 My Rottie dog Shelby Spooky the cat Hobbies: Boating, Learning this computer Arts & Crafts, and a passionate reader Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2001 Report Share Posted May 25, 2001 In a message dated 5/25/01 10:08:10 AM Eastern Daylight Time, patidu@... writes: > > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do > Anxiety is usually treated with klonapin or xanax. Just take a little. Breathing exercises are great. Breath in through your nose and let your stomach expand outward. When you breath in through your nose make sure your stomach is expanded. When you let the air out make a like loud noise. The best way is to keep your tongue on the roof of your mouth. If your anxiety/panic attaches are bad you may have to take one of the above medicians for it. They work great, they both are addicting, but when you feel like you can handle it on your own , the medicine will be SLOWLY tapered off. I'm a Psych nurse and I used to teach people how to relax. The knowledge has helped me a lot with fibro. My fibro hit's my legs badly, they spasm so bad and it is very painful. I have to use the technicques I know or I would go mad with pain. Another good one is to gently stretch each part of your body and keep telling yourself it will pass. If you are having them a lot I mean every day, talk to your doctor about the. There is also some med's that are not addictive I can't name them all because there are a lot. Remember, we all all different. What works for one may not work for the other. That's why it's imporant to see your Doctor. It probably will be a trial and error sort of thing. I'm sure you will fing what help's you. Good Luck Kathy D. Diagnosed in 98 Live in Western Massachusetts Married for almost 19yrs, to a sweetheart Mother to 16 and 14 My Rottie dog Shelby Spooky the cat Hobbies: Boating, Learning this computer Arts & Crafts, and a passionate reader Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2001 Report Share Posted May 25, 2001 In a message dated 5/25/01 10:08:10 AM Eastern Daylight Time, patidu@... writes: > > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do > Anxiety is usually treated with klonapin or xanax. Just take a little. Breathing exercises are great. Breath in through your nose and let your stomach expand outward. When you breath in through your nose make sure your stomach is expanded. When you let the air out make a like loud noise. The best way is to keep your tongue on the roof of your mouth. If your anxiety/panic attaches are bad you may have to take one of the above medicians for it. They work great, they both are addicting, but when you feel like you can handle it on your own , the medicine will be SLOWLY tapered off. I'm a Psych nurse and I used to teach people how to relax. The knowledge has helped me a lot with fibro. My fibro hit's my legs badly, they spasm so bad and it is very painful. I have to use the technicques I know or I would go mad with pain. Another good one is to gently stretch each part of your body and keep telling yourself it will pass. If you are having them a lot I mean every day, talk to your doctor about the. There is also some med's that are not addictive I can't name them all because there are a lot. Remember, we all all different. What works for one may not work for the other. That's why it's imporant to see your Doctor. It probably will be a trial and error sort of thing. I'm sure you will fing what help's you. Good Luck Kathy D. Diagnosed in 98 Live in Western Massachusetts Married for almost 19yrs, to a sweetheart Mother to 16 and 14 My Rottie dog Shelby Spooky the cat Hobbies: Boating, Learning this computer Arts & Crafts, and a passionate reader Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Fay, Glad to meet ya! I agree totally with Irene. Get your mind on something else, or better yet, on nothing! That takes time and practice, but it is possible through meditation, relaxation. When I get anxious, I put on some really soft, soothing music, and I get out my journal and start writing. I ask myself, what's wrong? And when I get to writing, it just comes out on that paper, and I see it differently. It's weird, but it works! Sometimes I just sit and try and focus on something. A lit candle is good. I take long, slow, deep breathes, and I let them out very slowly, and I start with my feet and feel them go limp, and work my way up. In the beginning, I didn't think it worked that great, but I saw results anyway, and as I started to do it every day, I found I got better at it. I don't have as many anxious days as I use to, nor do I have as much pain, as I use to. I really feel this is why. When I let is slide and forget to be good to myself, then I pay for it! Your library should have meditation tapes you can bring home and tape. They're great! Hope this helps! LOL Sue --- patidu@... wrote: > Hi Fay, > > I have found that when I get anxiety, I try to find > something to do even if > it is in the middle of the night. I talk to my > husband for a while and that > helps but if I stay in bed it gets worse and worse. > I don't have a > medication especially to take there are some out > there. I am sure that you > will get more information from the nice people on > the list. > > Take care and let me know how your are coping with > anxiety. We all care about > you and you are in my prayers. > > Irene > > > > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you > do > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Fay, Glad to meet ya! I agree totally with Irene. Get your mind on something else, or better yet, on nothing! That takes time and practice, but it is possible through meditation, relaxation. When I get anxious, I put on some really soft, soothing music, and I get out my journal and start writing. I ask myself, what's wrong? And when I get to writing, it just comes out on that paper, and I see it differently. It's weird, but it works! Sometimes I just sit and try and focus on something. A lit candle is good. I take long, slow, deep breathes, and I let them out very slowly, and I start with my feet and feel them go limp, and work my way up. In the beginning, I didn't think it worked that great, but I saw results anyway, and as I started to do it every day, I found I got better at it. I don't have as many anxious days as I use to, nor do I have as much pain, as I use to. I really feel this is why. When I let is slide and forget to be good to myself, then I pay for it! Your library should have meditation tapes you can bring home and tape. They're great! Hope this helps! LOL Sue --- patidu@... wrote: > Hi Fay, > > I have found that when I get anxiety, I try to find > something to do even if > it is in the middle of the night. I talk to my > husband for a while and that > helps but if I stay in bed it gets worse and worse. > I don't have a > medication especially to take there are some out > there. I am sure that you > will get more information from the nice people on > the list. > > Take care and let me know how your are coping with > anxiety. We all care about > you and you are in my prayers. > > Irene > > > > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you > do > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2001 Report Share Posted May 26, 2001 abraxis3@... Hi Fay, Glad to meet ya! I agree totally with Irene. Get your mind on something else, or better yet, on nothing! That takes time and practice, but it is possible through meditation, relaxation. When I get anxious, I put on some really soft, soothing music, and I get out my journal and start writing. I ask myself, what's wrong? And when I get to writing, it just comes out on that paper, and I see it differently. It's weird, but it works! Sometimes I just sit and try and focus on something. A lit candle is good. I take long, slow, deep breathes, and I let them out very slowly, and I start with my feet and feel them go limp, and work my way up. In the beginning, I didn't think it worked that great, but I saw results anyway, and as I started to do it every day, I found I got better at it. I don't have as many anxious days as I use to, nor do I have as much pain, as I use to. I really feel this is why. When I let is slide and forget to be good to myself, then I pay for it! Your library should have meditation tapes you can bring home and tape. They're great! Hope this helps! LOL Sue --- patidu@... wrote: > Hi Fay, > > I have found that when I get anxiety, I try to find > something to do even if > it is in the middle of the night. I talk to my > husband for a while and that > helps but if I stay in bed it gets worse and worse. > I don't have a > medication especially to take there are some out > there. I am sure that you > will get more information from the nice people on > the list. > > Take care and let me know how your are coping with > anxiety. We all care about > you and you are in my prayers. > > Irene > > > > if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you > do > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2001 Report Share Posted May 27, 2001 the anxiety has been really bad. I recently lost an Uncle and maybe that is the after effects. I really do not know. i have been having some really bad nightmares lately. if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do to get over it . I am on serzone 200mg., trazodone 150mg., benadryl 50 mg., avandia,buspar 10mg. lasix 40mg, celebrax 200mg., flexeril10mg., calcium 1500mg.,multivitamin, zantac 150mg., mother of threee teenagers help fay Hi Fay, I'm sorry to hear about your Uncle. I have anxiety, the thing that has helped the most was going on Remeron for depression. I also will occasionally take either Kava Kave or Calms Forte (very similiar to the kava). I also practiced calming myself when I was pretty calm and associating a single word with it. Then when I started getting anxious, I would repeat that word to calm myself. If I was slightly to moderately upset it would help at least a little, if I was really upset, it didn't help at all. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2001 Report Share Posted May 27, 2001 the anxiety has been really bad. I recently lost an Uncle and maybe that is the after effects. I really do not know. i have been having some really bad nightmares lately. if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do to get over it . I am on serzone 200mg., trazodone 150mg., benadryl 50 mg., avandia,buspar 10mg. lasix 40mg, celebrax 200mg., flexeril10mg., calcium 1500mg.,multivitamin, zantac 150mg., mother of threee teenagers help fay Hi Fay, I'm sorry to hear about your Uncle. I have anxiety, the thing that has helped the most was going on Remeron for depression. I also will occasionally take either Kava Kave or Calms Forte (very similiar to the kava). I also practiced calming myself when I was pretty calm and associating a single word with it. Then when I started getting anxious, I would repeat that word to calm myself. If I was slightly to moderately upset it would help at least a little, if I was really upset, it didn't help at all. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2001 Report Share Posted May 27, 2001 the anxiety has been really bad. I recently lost an Uncle and maybe that is the after effects. I really do not know. i have been having some really bad nightmares lately. if anyone has anxiety please let me know what you do to get over it . I am on serzone 200mg., trazodone 150mg., benadryl 50 mg., avandia,buspar 10mg. lasix 40mg, celebrax 200mg., flexeril10mg., calcium 1500mg.,multivitamin, zantac 150mg., mother of threee teenagers help fay Hi Fay, I'm sorry to hear about your Uncle. I have anxiety, the thing that has helped the most was going on Remeron for depression. I also will occasionally take either Kava Kave or Calms Forte (very similiar to the kava). I also practiced calming myself when I was pretty calm and associating a single word with it. Then when I started getting anxious, I would repeat that word to calm myself. If I was slightly to moderately upset it would help at least a little, if I was really upset, it didn't help at all. Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 Hi Darcy I am so sorry that you recently lost an uncle. I do know what that is like, as my aunt recently passed away and I had a hard time accepting it. I am sorry you are having bad nightmares. They are the pits when that happened. I have been having bad ones for a few nights. I'd do anything to be less anxious! Love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 Hi Darcy I am so sorry that you recently lost an uncle. I do know what that is like, as my aunt recently passed away and I had a hard time accepting it. I am sorry you are having bad nightmares. They are the pits when that happened. I have been having bad ones for a few nights. I'd do anything to be less anxious! Love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 Hi Darcy I am so sorry that you recently lost an uncle. I do know what that is like, as my aunt recently passed away and I had a hard time accepting it. I am sorry you are having bad nightmares. They are the pits when that happened. I have been having bad ones for a few nights. I'd do anything to be less anxious! Love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 Hi Darcy I am so sorry that you recently lost an uncle. I do know what that is like, as my aunt recently passed away and I had a hard time accepting it. I am sorry you are having bad nightmares. They are the pits when that happened. I have been having bad ones for a few nights. I'd do anything to be less anxious! Love I think you have me confused with someone else, . I've never even had an uncle let alone one that died recently. I vaguely remember responding to someone like that, so maybe that's where the confusion came in. Feeling anxious is never very fun. What are you doing to help with your anxiety? Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 Hi Darcy I am so sorry that you recently lost an uncle. I do know what that is like, as my aunt recently passed away and I had a hard time accepting it. I am sorry you are having bad nightmares. They are the pits when that happened. I have been having bad ones for a few nights. I'd do anything to be less anxious! Love I think you have me confused with someone else, . I've never even had an uncle let alone one that died recently. I vaguely remember responding to someone like that, so maybe that's where the confusion came in. Feeling anxious is never very fun. What are you doing to help with your anxiety? Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 Hi Darcy, I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry. I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and see how other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors but I find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an illness! Love I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens all of the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time putting themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my best friend was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought if she just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it was, and not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and then. And I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't involved in personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff you shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get organized? Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world and DH is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email, and her response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the bathroom and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my level of fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way hers probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much easier for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect the counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning after a poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I pointed out to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain on top of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back and told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I told him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the time. So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the world, just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long message! Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 Hi Darcy, I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry. I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and see how other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors but I find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an illness! Love I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens all of the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time putting themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my best friend was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought if she just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it was, and not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and then. And I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't involved in personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff you shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get organized? Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world and DH is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email, and her response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the bathroom and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my level of fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way hers probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much easier for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect the counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning after a poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I pointed out to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain on top of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back and told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I told him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the time. So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the world, just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long message! Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 Hi Darcy, I'm sorry for confusing you with someone else.... I'm truly sorry. I have decided to join a few support groups at yahoogroups.com and see how other people deal with it. i have seen counsellors after counsellors but I find they don't understand. They don't even recognise fibro as an illness! Love I wouldn't waste another second thinking about the mix up. Happens all of the time to different people. I think people often have a hard time putting themselves in other people's shoes. I know when I was a kid, my best friend was overweight. I didn't care, it didn't bother me, but I thought if she just stop eating M & M's that she'd loose weight. Never having been overweight at that point, I really didn't have a clue how hard it was, and not just a matter of passing up eating a candy bar every now and then. And I think that's how most people are about issues that they aren't involved in personally. Loose weight? Stop eating so much. Anxious over stuff you shouldn't be?? Ah just don't worry about things. Need to get organized? Just put stuff away. I'm not the most organized person in the world and DH is even less than I am. With this fatigue, I don't get much house cleaning/organizing done. I was complaining to a friend via email, and her response was " oh, just take a magazine with you on the way to the bathroom and put it away. " Without meaning to, she just totally negated my level of fatigue, the fact my house and it's contents aren't arranged the way hers probably are, it's more than just a magazine, and to do that is much easier for an organized person than someone who isn't. I rather suspect the counselors just don't have a clue. Dane woke up the other morning after a poor night of sleeping with a slight cold. He was miserable. I pointed out to him, that's pretty much how I feel most mornings with muscle pain on top of it. He just nodded, but hadn't really got my point. I went back and told him " Do you feel up to going to work right now? " He said " not really " . I told him to add muscle aching into how he was feeling, I told him I just wanted some credit for going to work like that all of the time. So even Dane who is one of the most loving sympathetic people in the world, just didn't " get it " at that moment in time. Gosh, this is a long message! Darcy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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