Guest guest Posted November 8, 2000 Report Share Posted November 8, 2000 > > I do think it's a bit sad when people carry on to have a girl, I'm very very happy with my boys> > Which I don't, I just want a healthy baby. I know with Jonty I got all sorts of silly comments like.... > Oh was it a mistake? > Oh is it a 2nd Marriage? > Oh I expects you want a girl this time don't you? > You must be mad or stupid. > Was it planned? > Oh your a bit old aren't you what if it's got downs? > Gosh your house is a bit small, are you going to move then. > So you will be giving up childminding then I take it!!!! > Still trying for a girl then! > I could go on. > I've been there and had all that too. There is 21 months between DS1 and DS2 then almost 4 years between DS2 & DS3. That was very intentional at first, and then it became a now or never situation and we decided now. To add to it my children look nothing alike, as in:- DS1 brown hair brown eyes, tall and very very thin DS2 Strawberry blond blue eyes, small for his age and freckles DS3 Ginger almost green eyes, well built (!) but not fat and fairly tall You can see people thinking and often asking " do they all have the same father? " Trisha SAHM to 3 boys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 8, 2000 Report Share Posted November 8, 2000 Trisha said: You can see people thinking and often asking " do they all have the same father? " Ooh yes, mine are like this too: DS1 Ginger hair, pale skin, bluey green eyes, quite big DS2 Mousey hair with a blond streak (mark of the Devil maybe) and brown eyes, tall and thin DS3 Brown hair, big brown eyes, bloody massive for his age (definite future rugby player) DS4 Blond hair, green eyes, small for his age (but very noisy with it) I had fun with the ingratiating estate agent last year who commented on their differences - she didn't know what to say when I claimed they did have different fathers! Carr SAHM to four boys Sunbury & Shepperton Branch Trainee ANT & Mem Sec (till the AGM next week - at my house I was reminded this morning) PS Hello Jo and . Shouldn't you both be writing essays?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 8, 2000 Report Share Posted November 8, 2000 I have had all the comments about having more than 2 children, especially as we have chosen to have them close together. I seem to find myself explaining to all and sundry about why we have done it this way. When I was pregnant with DS3, i got so many negative comments and when he was born people said I must be disappointed as he wasn't a girl. Why can't people see that we wanted 4 children, not a particular mix, just 4 children. I get through the day, I don't have family to help out, nor child care. Mine is certainly not the tidy house it should be, but I say if we are all fed, clean and tidy then I can't be doing such a bad job. We get compliments on the behaviour of our children so that is how I judge my success, though sometimes I wonder if it is my children they are talking about!! Mc SAHM 6, Olivia 3, 1, 15/3/00 Nearly Ex-Editor Wallingford and District Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 8, 2000 Report Share Posted November 8, 2000 >I have had all the comments about having more than 2 children, It's taken almost 4 years but I am finally starting to get the comments about only having one child. Ah well. If I had another and it was female I'd have to put up with being asked if I was disappointed I didn't get a boy etc. Stuff 'em, that's what I say. No-one's business but mine. -- Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 8, 2000 Report Share Posted November 8, 2000 McCarthy wrote: > We get compliments on the behaviour of our children so that is how I judge my success, though sometimes I wonder if it is my children they are talking about!! > Me too! In fact, 's nursery teacher commented today that didn't say please when he asked her for some glue today - said she was gobsmacked as he is normally so polite. She said she must have looked shocked because apologised and said 'Sorry for not saying please'! Why are they such beasts at home? -- See pictures of us all at: http://albums.photopoint.com/j/AlbumList?u=848605 Password: Wisley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2000 Report Share Posted November 9, 2000 > Carr > SAHM to four boys > Sunbury & Shepperton Branch > Trainee ANT & Mem Sec (till the AGM next week - at my house I was reminded > this morning) > > PS Hello Jo and . Shouldn't you both be writing essays?? > Very droll! You're quite right, I better stop reading these emails. See you on the 18th. Jo Trainee ANT (my house has just been volunteered for an EGM!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2000 Report Share Posted November 9, 2000 ----- Original Message ----- We get compliments on the behaviour of our children so that is how I judge my success, though sometimes I wonder if it is my children they are talking about!! > > Mc > SAHM 6, Olivia 3, 1, 15/3/00 > Nearly Ex-Editor Wallingford and District I'm afraid we're the other type of parents .... people look at us askance whenever we go anywhere because they're such tearaways. It's impossible to go shopping with them. We went to a lighting warehouse on Saturday. It was huge with loads of floor space and just a few small displays of lamps. Of course the space was like a red rag to a bull and they all started running about. Despite our protestations and frequent tellings off, the shop assistant still asked us to stop them. I was so hassled I told him I was trying, but as he knew children didn't always do as they were told. We left shortly afterwards without buying anything and then took it in turns to visit some other shops. Most of the time I'm quite relaxed about them being high spirited as long as they're not endangering lives/property, but people seem to think small children should stand quietly and meekly next to my side. Jo SAHM to 6, 4, Dominic 2 Trainee ANT, Southend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 9, 2000 Report Share Posted November 9, 2000 Oh great! Another mum with 3 hotheaded tearaways. Are your boys clones of mine, or vice versa, Jo?! Same ages too. I spend my life being frazzled and barely in control of my temper (I originally typed " bearly " - Freudian slip do you think?!) as my 3 terrorise everything in sight - normally adults - with their full-on, energetic and high-spirited behaviour. Mind you, I must give a totally different impression, because other parents are always coming up to me and telling me how much they admire my calm reaction to whatever the little b****rs are up to. There is always this little temptation to go for another baby just in case it might be a girl, but, knowing my luck I'd have twin boys..... Alison I'm afraid we're the other type of parents .... people look at us askance whenever we go anywhere because they're such tearaways. It's impossible to go shopping with them. We went to a lighting warehouse on Saturday. It was huge with loads of floor space and just a few small displays of lamps. Of course the space was like a red rag to a bull and they all started running about. Despite our protestations and frequent tellings off, the shop assistant still asked us to stop them. I was so hassled I told him I was trying, but as he knew children didn't always do as they were told. We left shortly afterwards without buying anything and then took it in turns to visit some other shops. Most of the time I'm quite relaxed about them being high spirited as long as they're not endangering lives/property, but people seem to think small children should stand quietly and meekly next to my side. Jo SAHM to 6, 4, Dominic 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2000 Report Share Posted November 10, 2000 now of course it's are you happy with another boy?, had you been hoping for a girl? etc, one day when I'm in a bad mood I will be seriously rude to someone. Curran Co-chair, MVA, Valley cushion agent, bookings clerk and homebirth rep, Selby Rural NCT SAHM to Tim (7), Matt (5), (2) and Philip (2 weeks today) -------------------- I like you choice of names by the way. So how is Philip behaving himself then, and you have time to surf as well I'm impressed. Friends are starting to ask now, " oh are you going to have another one? " I immediately say oh yes I should think so, but not until Jonty's at nursery. This will mean a four year gap between them instead of a 3 year and 10 days between Matt & Chris. Which I personally believe is the ideal age gap. But if we have two under four, this will considerably reduce our earning ability (we're both Registered Childminders) so I will just have to wait another year. Although if DH is anything to go by it might be sooner, if he gets his wicked way that is. Did you know you were having another boy this time? I went for a scan at 16 weeks 1. to see if it was a multiple birth because midwife thought I was a little large for my dates and because she was convinced she'd heard two heart beats. 2. Because we had a NNS the following week, and as I'd sold " ALL " of my baby stuff I needed to know what I was having. One of my Aunts came with me for the scan apparently when they told me it was only one I went very white, I think it was a relief, I know we would of coped with twins but it would of been very hard work. Then she said oh yes it defiantly a boy. Basically because he was peeing everywhere. I was just so chuffed. I really honestly didn't want a girl, I childmind lots of lovely little girls, but just couldn't see a girl fitting into the Tupman family unit. When we left the hospital I telephoned DH to let him know the news, the relief in his voice when I said it's only one was amazing and then the joy when I said it's another boy was fantastic. We sat the boys down that evening after tea and told them our news. Matt just laughed, he thought we were having him on. thought it was brilliant. Matt came back about an hour later and asked " Mum where is this baby goanna sleep " . I was waiting for this question you see the boys had always shared a bedroom, until about six months before when we had a loft conversion and Matt was upgraded into the loft. He was worried he was going to loose his cool pad. Once we'd assured him this would not be the case as he'd be staying with mum and dad until he a year old at least he was cool about having another brother. (he's still in our room now, although we are in the poses of converting my office into a bedroom for him, but that's been ongoing since August) was just chuffed that he was going to have a baby brother. We told them they were goanna have a brother and named him , in fact when anybody asked how the baby/bump was I'd always say " Oh 's fine, thanks " . I think a few people found it a little bazaar that we not only knew what we were having but that we'd named him as well. But when he was finally born, it was as if he'd always been part of the family because we been using his name. The boys would come in from school and ask if had had a good day etc it was very sweet. They'd go off to school and tell him to behave himself, no somersaults or kicking mum etc. :-) Sorry I've gone on a bit haven't I. Tupman Mum to Matt 13, 10, Jonty 14 months & Phil 35 NCT Houseswap Register Coordinator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2000 Report Share Posted November 10, 2000 It may not get any easier but it doesn't necessarily get worse!! As I've said before, I really, really like the teenage yrs.......send your babies to me when they turn 13!! Lesley ------------------------------- Shall I bring DS1 with me tomorrow then, and you can take him home after the R1 AGM????? - thought you were safe to make such a wild offer living so far north eh? Liz Goudie (Who has dived into coffee to try and get a perspective on life) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2000 Report Share Posted November 10, 2000 Yeah, go on, I'm up for it! But remember, a la and , (Fank-you-very-much-Mrs-.) your 'orrible little br*ts are darling little angels when in someone else's company!! Lesley (who ought to be in bed as I have to leave by 7.30 am to reach Edinburgh in time for the AGM!!) ----------- ------------------------------- Liz said.....Shall I bring DS1 with me tomorrow then, and you can take him home after the R1 AGM????? - thought you were safe to make such a wild offer living so far north eh? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2000 Report Share Posted November 10, 2000 I wrote.....your 'orrible little br*ts are darling little angels when in someone else's company!! -------- Sorry, Liz, I didn't mean your 'orrible little br*ts, as in *yours*, but as in general.........or something!!! Signing off now B4 I dig myself into an even deeper hole, :-( Lesley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2000 Report Share Posted November 11, 2000 Sorry Angi - didn't see this earlier - perhaps we should have a badge printed 'Membership Secretary Survivor' - only don't tell cos she's taking over from me!! Carr SAHM to four boys Sunbury & Shepperton Branch Trainee ANT & Mem Sec Re: Re: Supermums > Carr >Trainee ANT & Mem Sec (till the AGM next week - hey sarah -just like me!!- angi trainee ant & memb sec for 12 more days....!! Live chat /chat/nct-coffee Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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