(Long) My Plan for Daughter (7) doesn't want me to do this...

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Thanks so much for all your sharing. As always this group is go great

and supportive. I love reading all of the different opinions and the

way we all support each other.

All I had told my seven year old was that I was going to have surgery

to make me feel better and that I would get thinner. In my case the

surgery will solve a lot of issues with bile backing up into my

stomach. I didn't mention anything about the possibility of dying. She

came up with that one on her own. Perhaps because she has lost two

grandparents who died in the hospital.

My older daughter has asked many more detailed questions and I have

answered her honestly and even shown her the illustration from the DS

site. She asked me specifically how likely I was to die and I answered

her honestly there too. She is also aware of my limitations and

reduced quality of life. I suspect she may be somewhat ashamed of how

I look. She wants me to get healthy and have this surgery.

I went back to a wonderful message from Tiger, I will forward the

original for you all to share. Oh yeah my plan...

I am having each of us write a list of our worries and hopes. We will

box them up and hand them over to God. Then we don't have to worry

about them any more. My seven year old enthusastically wrote a letter

to God and tomorrow after Thanksgiving Dinner we will put away the

worries.

I am sorry if bringing up the possibility of a negative outcome made

some of you uncomfortable. I am one of those people who try and look

at every side of things. I have to admit that the discussions have

helped to clarify why I am doing this.

Vickie H.

15 days and counting...