Re: OUCH!!!!!

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Nikkie, how old is your daughter? My daughter just turned 5 and just started saying things like this too. Yes, it does hurt. I started to explain the weight-loss thing to Cara, but there's no way she'd understand it. I just tell her "that hurts mommy's feelings." Then she says she's sorry.

OUCH!!!!!

Well, I had a conversation with my daughter that really hurt me. Let me start this by saying I know it was not meant to hurt me but I am surprized at how much it did hurt.

The conversation was about Holloween. My daughter said she couldn't wait for Holloween and get tons of candy. She said she wants to eat it all and doesn't care if she gets fat. I said if she were to ever get fat she would care. Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know what if feels like?' OUCH OUCH OUCH. I never heard her refer to me as fat. I know what she meant by the comment and I know she wasn't 'calling' me fat. BUT OUCH! I know she accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have me as her mommy. She wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her friends so if she were embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.

When she made this comment her father told her not to refer to me as fat and that I was very sensitive and trying very hard to lose weight. She apologized and I told her I loved her so all is well there. I wasn't able to sit at the dinner table after that ,although, I went to my room for a good cry. I can't begin to tell you all how the 'fat' word coming from her sliced thru' me but it did, more than I ever thought it would.

Nikkie

http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

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na is 7. She felt bad when her daddy explained how it hurt my feelings. I don't think she'll say it again. It still stings tho'.

Nikkie

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Nikkie, how old is your daughter? My daughter just turned 5 and just started saying things like this too. Yes, it does hurt. I started to explain the weight-loss thing to Cara, but there's no way she'd understand it. I just tell her "that hurts mommy's feelings." Then she says she's sorry.

OUCH!!!!!

Well, I had a conversation with my daughter that really hurt me. Let me start this by saying I know it was not meant to hurt me but I am surprized at how much it did hurt.

The conversation was about Holloween. My daughter said she couldn't wait for Holloween and get tons of candy. She said she wants to eat it all and doesn't care if she gets fat. I said if she were to ever get fat she would care. Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know what if feels like?' OUCH OUCH OUCH. I never heard her refer to me as fat. I know what she meant by the comment and I know she wasn't 'calling' me fat. BUT OUCH! I know she accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have me as her mommy. She wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her friends so if she were embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.

When she made this comment her father told her not to refer to me as fat and that I was very sensitive and trying very hard to lose weight. She apologized and I told her I loved her so all is well there. I wasn't able to sit at the dinner table after that ,although, I went to my room for a good cry. I can't begin to tell you all how the 'fat' word coming from her sliced thru' me but it did, more than I ever thought it would.

Nikkie

http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

[Guest guest]

Hugs Nickkie!

What a wonderful daughter you have, you are very blessed. Look at her

mind and see what she see's when she looks at her mom.>

(Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know what if feels

like?') OUCH OUCH OUCH.

She recognizes that fat does cause unhappiness, she also recognizes

that her mom is a person who understands and cares for her and does

not want her to feel bad about herself.Of course she wants tons of

candy and doesn't care if she does get fat, how often do we see the

probable consequences of a behaviour, but it is just so exciting and

normally forbidden, which just increases the desire to do this thing.

It does hurt most from people we love and whose admiration we need.

(I know she accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have me as

her mommy. She wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her

friends so if she were embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do

that.)

But she so obviously does admire you, and she trusts you with her

feelings and feels safe enough with you to speak her mind. You are a

remarkable woman to have such a child.

And now we know the word " fat " hurts. Why? And more importantly, how

do we control the power we permit a word to influence our feelings of

self worth?

1) we acknowledge that we are in this situation because of an

inappropriate use of food to cover our feelings. yes, I am fat. But

that isn't all I am or even close to the most important part of who I

am. It is simply a fact. I am fat. There, I have said it. I am fat.

2) What else am I? What else are you?

3) You are intelligent, you are compassionate, you are funny, you are

lovely, and most importantly: YOU ARE LOVED.

And you know what kid? As you work to become healthier and the weight

sweats off? You will still be all those things.

4) Take back your personal power. Change the tapes that run through

your mind. Instead of a negative message, begin to give yourself a

positive message, even if you don't really believe it yet. Give

yourself a new learning experience by learning anew about yourself.

I am always surprised by how people love me, with this disabled,

scarred, morbidly obese, fat body. Well, obviously I must be

loveable, so there!

I cannot change the disabilities, but I can help them with weight

loss, I cannot change the scars, but I can see them as the trophies

of a survivor, not a quiter, the fat, the fat, I can change. It is

gonna take time, and courage, and a lot of hugs and laughter and

probably even more tears, but it took a lot of time and effort to get

this fat, it will take some to get healthier.And we are going to do

this together, one ounce (gram for you other Canadians) at a time.

Hugs for you and your lovely daughter!

Eleanora

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

the courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference.

http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry...even in her innocense I cant imagine hearing what

you heard. The good news is she sees you as someone good and not

someone bad. And more importantly it sounds like your husband is

very supportive. Kudos for you husband!!! And your doing something

positive about your weight.

Gretchen

> Well, I had a conversation with my daughter that really hurt me.

Let me

> start this by saying I know it was not meant to hurt me but I am

surprized

> at how much it did hurt.

> The conversation was about Holloween. My daughter said she

couldn't wait for

> Holloween and get tons of candy. She said she wants to eat it all

and doesn

> t care if she gets fat. I said if she were to ever get fat she

would care.

> Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know what if feels

like?' OUCH

> OUCH OUCH. I never heard her refer to me as fat. I know what she

meant by

> the comment and I know she wasn't 'calling' me fat. BUT OUCH! I

know she

> accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have me as her

mommy. She

> wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her friends so if

she were

> embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.

> When she made this comment her father told her not to refer to me

as fat and

> that I was very sensitive and trying very hard to lose weight. She

> apologized and I told her I loved her so all is well there. I

wasn't able to

> sit at the dinner table after that ,although, I went to my room

for a good

> cry. I can't begin to tell you all how the 'fat' word coming from

her sliced

> thru' me but it did, more than I ever thought it would.

> Nikkie

>

>

> http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

[Guest guest]

Eleanora, I love the way you look at things sometimes. (She's a wise woman, Nikkie. Heed her advice.)

Re: OUCH!!!!!

Hugs Nickkie! What a wonderful daughter you have, you are very blessed. Look at her mind and see what she see's when she looks at her mom.> (Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know what if feels like?') OUCH OUCH OUCH.She recognizes that fat does cause unhappiness, she also recognizes that her mom is a person who understands and cares for her and does not want her to feel bad about herself.Of course she wants tons of candy and doesn't care if she does get fat, how often do we see the probable consequences of a behaviour, but it is just so exciting and normally forbidden, which just increases the desire to do this thing. It does hurt most from people we love and whose admiration we need.(I know she accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have me as her mommy. She wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her friends so if she were embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.)But she so obviously does admire you, and she trusts you with her feelings and feels safe enough with you to speak her mind. You are a remarkable woman to have such a child.And now we know the word "fat" hurts. Why? And more importantly, how do we control the power we permit a word to influence our feelings of self worth?1) we acknowledge that we are in this situation because of an inappropriate use of food to cover our feelings. yes, I am fat. But that isn't all I am or even close to the most important part of who I am. It is simply a fact. I am fat. There, I have said it. I am fat. 2) What else am I? What else are you? 3) You are intelligent, you are compassionate, you are funny, you are lovely, and most importantly: YOU ARE LOVED. And you know what kid? As you work to become healthier and the weight sweats off? You will still be all those things.4) Take back your personal power. Change the tapes that run through your mind. Instead of a negative message, begin to give yourself a positive message, even if you don't really believe it yet. Give yourself a new learning experience by learning anew about yourself.I am always surprised by how people love me, with this disabled, scarred, morbidly obese, fat body. Well, obviously I must be loveable, so there! I cannot change the disabilities, but I can help them with weight loss, I cannot change the scars, but I can see them as the trophies of a survivor, not a quiter, the fat, the fat, I can change. It is gonna take time, and courage, and a lot of hugs and laughter and probably even more tears, but it took a lot of time and effort to get this fat, it will take some to get healthier.And we are going to do this together, one ounce (gram for you other Canadians) at a time.Hugs for you and your lovely daughter!EleanoraGod grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,the courage to change the things I can,and the wisdom to know the difference. http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

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Eleenora,

Thank you so much for your words!!!! I cried thru' your entire post.

You're right I am much more than the word 'fat'. I know I am much more than

that to my daugther!

I do need to change the tape in my head from negative thoughts to more

positive ones. I have a really close friend that sometimes just wants to kick

me in the butt when I repeat those 'tapes'. I am getting a lot better a recognizing my

postive attributes. It was like when na said what she did it hit the play button on

that old tape.

Thanks again. Your post really hit me dead on!

Nikkie

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Hugs Nickkie! What a wonderful daughter you have, you are very blessed. Look at her mind and see what she see's when she looks at her mom.> (Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know what if feels like?') OUCH OUCH OUCH.She recognizes that fat does cause unhappiness, she also recognizes that her mom is a person who understands and cares for her and does not want her to feel bad about herself.Of course she wants tons of candy and doesn't care if she does get fat, how often do we see the probable consequences of a behaviour, but it is just so exciting and normally forbidden, which just increases the desire to do this thing. It does hurt most from people we love and whose admiration we need.(I know she accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have me as her mommy. She wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her friends so if she were embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.)But she so obviously does admire you, and she trusts you with her feelings and feels safe enough with you to speak her mind. You are a remarkable woman to have such a child.And now we know the word "fat" hurts. Why? And more importantly, how do we control the power we permit a word to influence our feelings of self worth?1) we acknowledge that we are in this situation because of an inappropriate use of food to cover our feelings. yes, I am fat. But that isn't all I am or even close to the most important part of who I am. It is simply a fact. I am fat. There, I have said it. I am fat. 2) What else am I? What else are you? 3) You are intelligent, you are compassionate, you are funny, you are lovely, and most importantly: YOU ARE LOVED. And you know what kid? As you work to become healthier and the weight sweats off? You will still be all those things.4) Take back your personal power. Change the tapes that run through your mind. Instead of a negative message, begin to give yourself a positive message, even if you don't really believe it yet. Give yourself a new learning experience by learning anew about yourself.I am always surprised by how people love me, with this disabled, scarred, morbidly obese, fat body. Well, obviously I must be loveable, so there! I cannot change the disabilities, but I can help them with weight loss, I cannot change the scars, but I can see them as the trophies of a survivor, not a quiter, the fat, the fat, I can change. It is gonna take time, and courage, and a lot of hugs and laughter and probably even more tears, but it took a lot of time and effort to get this fat, it will take some to get healthier.And we are going to do this together, one ounce (gram for you other Canadians) at a time.Hugs for you and your lovely daughter!EleanoraGod grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,the courage to change the things I can,and the wisdom to know the difference. http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

[Guest guest]

HE IS! HE IS!! Very supportive. He never says anything about my weight and says that I don't have to lose weight to please him. I am very lucky to have him in my life. He supports whatever decision I make.

I don't want to be 'thin' but I do want to be healthy and that suits him just fine.

Nikkie

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I am so sorry...even in her innocense I cant imagine hearing what you heard. The good news is she sees you as someone good and not someone bad. And more importantly it sounds like your husband is very supportive. Kudos for you husband!!! And your doing something positive about your weight. Gretchen> Well, I had a conversation with my daughter that really hurt me. Let me> start this by saying I know it was not meant to hurt me but I am surprized> at how much it did hurt.> The conversation was about Holloween. My daughter said she couldn't wait for> Holloween and get tons of candy. She said she wants to eat it all and doesn> t care if she gets fat. I said if she were to ever get fat she would care.> Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know what if feels like?' OUCH> OUCH OUCH. I never heard her refer to me as fat. I know what she meant by> the comment and I know she wasn't 'calling' me fat. BUT OUCH! I know she> accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have me as her mommy. She> wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her friends so if she were> embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.> When she made this comment her father told her not to refer to me as fat and> that I was very sensitive and trying very hard to lose weight. She> apologized and I told her I loved her so all is well there. I wasn't able to> sit at the dinner table after that ,although, I went to my room for a good> cry. I can't begin to tell you all how the 'fat' word coming from her sliced> thru' me but it did, more than I ever thought it would.> Nikkie> > > http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

[Guest guest]

Your husband sounds like mine. Says he loves me no matter what I look like and just wants me to be happy. But he jokes, "If you eat a whole box of Pop-Tarts, I don't want to hear you whine."

Re: OUCH!!!!!

I am so sorry...even in her innocense I cant imagine hearing what you heard. The good news is she sees you as someone good and not someone bad. And more importantly it sounds like your husband is very supportive. Kudos for you husband!!! And your doing something positive about your weight. Gretchen> Well, I had a conversation with my daughter that really hurt me. Let me> start this by saying I know it was not meant to hurt me but I am surprized> at how much it did hurt.> The conversation was about Holloween. My daughter said she couldn't wait for> Holloween and get tons of candy. She said she wants to eat it all and doesn> t care if she gets fat. I said if she were to ever get fat she would care.> Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know what if feels like?' OUCH> OUCH OUCH. I never heard her refer to me as fat. I know what she meant by> the comment and I know she wasn't 'calling' me fat. BUT OUCH! I know she> accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have me as her mommy. She> wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her friends so if she were> embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.> When she made this comment her father told her not to refer to me as fat and> that I was very sensitive and trying very hard to lose weight. She> apologized and I told her I loved her so all is well there. I wasn't able to> sit at the dinner table after that ,although, I went to my room for a good> cry. I can't begin to tell you all how the 'fat' word coming from her sliced> thru' me but it did, more than I ever thought it would.> Nikkie> > > http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

[Guest guest]

Nikkie said:

>>I do need to change the tape in my head from negative thoughts to more

positive ones.

Your daughter had nothing but love in her voice when she mentioned you were

fat. Like Elenora said, she wasn't judging you, nor did she equate fat with

anything bad.

Now, if that were a little kid out in public who commented on your size (and

I know it happens to me) you have a few choices on how to react. You can

walk away crying, feeling sorry for yourself, get mad at the rudeness of a

little kid (who, like your daughter, probably meant nothing by it), or work

with it. If a little one says to me, or within earshot - Gee, that lady is

fat! I sometimes reply - I *am*?!? Oh, NO! When did *that* happen? I was

skinny when I left the house!

Or

Yes, I am. And you're tiny.

Or, if I'm in a lousy mood for some reason, So? Is there anything wrong

with being fat?

Usually the parents then take the kid by the hand and quickly walk in the

opposite direction, but at least they all have something to think about.

Howlin' Sue in Ghoul Jersey

[Guest guest]

That's really wonderful...how lucky you are.

MariAnne

--- Nikkie <nikkiekoala@...> wrote:

> HE IS! HE IS!! Very supportive. He never says

> anything about my weight and

> says that I don't have to lose weight to please him.

> I am very lucky to have

> him in my life. He supports whatever decision I

> make.

> I don't want to be 'thin' but I do want to be

> healthy and that suits him

> just fine.

> Nikkie

>

> -- Re: OUCH!!!!!

>

>

>

> I am so sorry...even in her innocense I cant imagine

> hearing what

> you heard. The good news is she sees you as someone

> good and not

> someone bad. And more importantly it sounds like

> your husband is

> very supportive. Kudos for you husband!!! And your

> doing something

> positive about your weight.

>

> Gretchen

>

> > Well, I had a conversation with my daughter that

> really hurt me.

> Let me

> > start this by saying I know it was not meant to

> hurt me but I am

> surprized

> > at how much it did hurt.

> > The conversation was about Holloween. My daughter

> said she

> couldn't wait for

> > Holloween and get tons of candy. She said she

> wants to eat it all

> and doesn

> > t care if she gets fat. I said if she were to ever

> get fat she

> would care.

> > Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know

> what if feels

> like?' OUCH

> > OUCH OUCH. I never heard her refer to me as fat. I

> know what she

> meant by

> > the comment and I know she wasn't 'calling' me

> fat. BUT OUCH! I

> know she

> > accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have

> me as her

> mommy. She

> > wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet

> her friends so if

> she were

> > embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.

> > When she made this comment her father told her not

> to refer to me

> as fat and

> > that I was very sensitive and trying very hard to

> lose weight. She

> > apologized and I told her I loved her so all is

> well there. I

> wasn't able to

> > sit at the dinner table after that ,although, I

> went to my room

> for a good

> > cry. I can't begin to tell you all how the 'fat'

> word coming from

> her sliced

> > thru' me but it did, more than I ever thought it

> would.

> > Nikkie

> >

> >

> > http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

(((Nikkie))) you have a very smart little girl, and I

don't think she meant to hurt you, but I'm so sorry

she did.

MariAnne

--- Nikkie <nikkiekoala@...> wrote:

> Well, I had a conversation with my daughter that

> really hurt me. Let me

> start this by saying I know it was not meant to hurt

> me but I am surprized

> at how much it did hurt.

> The conversation was about Holloween. My daughter

> said she couldn't wait for

> Holloween and get tons of candy. She said she wants

> to eat it all and doesn

> t care if she gets fat. I said if she were to ever

> get fat she would care.

> Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know

> what if feels like?' OUCH

> OUCH OUCH. I never heard her refer to me as fat. I

> know what she meant by

> the comment and I know she wasn't 'calling' me fat.

> BUT OUCH! I know she

> accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have

> me as her mommy. She

> wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her

> friends so if she were

> embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.

> When she made this comment her father told her not

> to refer to me as fat and

> that I was very sensitive and trying very hard to

> lose weight. She

> apologized and I told her I loved her so all is well

> there. I wasn't able to

> sit at the dinner table after that ,although, I went

> to my room for a good

> cry. I can't begin to tell you all how the 'fat'

> word coming from her sliced

> thru' me but it did, more than I ever thought it

> would.

> Nikkie

>

>

> http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

=====

MariAnne

" Luck ain't even lucky, gotta make your own breaks "

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Good morning Christy dear, and thank you! that' is very nice of you

to say...course the other times....

Love eleanora

> Eleanora, I love the way you look at things sometimes. (She's a

wise woman, Nikkie. Heed her advice.)

ice.

[Guest guest]

Anytime Nikkie. We are gonna be fine, just gotta stick together.

Love eleanora

> Eleenora,

> Thank you so much for your words

[Guest guest]

and don't forget my favorite:

" Do not meddle in the affairs of fat women because you are crunchy

and taste good with ketchup. "

Jaci

If a little one says to me, or within earshot - Gee, that lady is

> fat! I sometimes reply - I *am*?!? Oh, NO! When did *that* happen?

I was > skinny when I left the house!

> > Or

> > Yes, I am. And you're tiny.

> > Or, if I'm in a lousy mood for some reason, So? Is there

anything wrong

> with being fat?

> >

> Usually the parents then take the kid by the hand and quickly walk

in the

> opposite direction, but at least they all have something to think

about.

>

>

> Howlin' Sue in Ghoul Jersey

[Guest guest]

Howlin' Sue in Ghoul Jersey wrote:

>>Gee, that lady is>>fat! I sometimes reply

>>Yes, I am. And you're tiny.

LOL, I love that reply!

Nikkie

-------Original Message-------

[Guest guest]

HE HE HE! I like that one too!

Nikkie

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and don't forget my favorite:"Do not meddle in the affairs of fat women because you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.";)JaciIf a little one says to me, or within earshot - Gee, that lady is> fat! I sometimes reply - I *am*?!? Oh, NO! When did *that* happen? I was > skinny when I left the house!> > Or> > Yes, I am. And you're tiny.> > Or, if I'm in a lousy mood for some reason, So? Is there anything wrong> with being fat?> > > Usually the parents then take the kid by the hand and quickly walk in the> opposite direction, but at least they all have something to think about.> > > Howlin' Sue in Ghoul Jersey

[Guest guest]

((((((((Nikkie)))))))) I am so sorry you had this experience. I am sure she didn't mean to hurt you. But I know how it does hurt.

Just wait till we get this extra weight off. We are going to be so proud of ourselves. And our children will even be MORE proud of us.

-- OUCH!!!!!

Well, I had a conversation with my daughter that really hurt me. Let me start this by saying I know it was not meant to hurt me but I am surprized at how much it did hurt.

The conversation was about Holloween. My daughter said she couldn't wait for Holloween and get tons of candy. She said she wants to eat it all and doesn't care if she gets fat. I said if she were to ever get fat she would care. Then she said 'cuz you're fat, mommy, and you know what if feels like?' OUCH OUCH OUCH. I never heard her refer to me as fat. I know what she meant by the comment and I know she wasn't 'calling' me fat. BUT OUCH! I know she accepts me as I am and I know she is proud to have me as her mommy. She wants her friends to meet me and for me to meet her friends so if she were embarassed by me or anything she wouldn't do that.

When she made this comment her father told her not to refer to me as fat and that I was very sensitive and trying very hard to lose weight. She apologized and I told her I loved her so all is well there. I wasn't able to sit at the dinner table after that ,although, I went to my room for a good cry. I can't begin to tell you all how the 'fat' word coming from her sliced thru' me but it did, more than I ever thought it would.

Nikkie

http://members.dsl-only.net/~nikkiekoala/index.htm

[Guest guest]

ROFL!!!!!!!

Jacinda wrote:

> and don't forget my favorite:

>

> " Do not meddle in the affairs of fat women because you are crunchy

> and taste good with ketchup. "

>

>

> Jaci

>

> If a little one says to me, or within earshot - Gee, that lady is

> > fat! I sometimes reply - I *am*?!? Oh, NO! When did *that* happen?

> I was > skinny when I left the house!

> > > Or

> > > Yes, I am. And you're tiny.

> > > Or, if I'm in a lousy mood for some reason, So? Is there

> anything wrong

> > with being fat?

> > >

> > Usually the parents then take the kid by the hand and quickly walk

> in the

> > opposite direction, but at least they all have something to think

> about.

> >

> >

> > Howlin' Sue in Ghoul Jersey

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

These are great! I'll have to remember them.

Re: OUCH!!!!!

and don't forget my favorite:"Do not meddle in the affairs of fat women because you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.";)JaciIf a little one says to me, or within earshot - Gee, that lady is> fat! I sometimes reply - I *am*?!? Oh, NO! When did *that* happen? I was > skinny when I left the house!> > Or> > Yes, I am. And you're tiny.> > Or, if I'm in a lousy mood for some reason, So? Is there anything wrong> with being fat?> > > Usually the parents then take the kid by the hand and quickly walk in the> opposite direction, but at least they all have something to think about.> > > Howlin' Sue in Ghoul Jersey

[Guest guest]

----- Original Message -----

From: gonzo_skye

> Hello folks, just a quick note to yell I HURT and I am sooo sick of it. RA is attacking me from every angle. The worst is my elbows. They feel like they are being crushed....Ok thank you just needed to vent ...............Skye

You have my sympathy!! My left hand is so swollen and painful today I can't open it from its curled position! The middle and ring fingers on my right hand are the same way. If my husband were not home today for the holiday, my animals would go hungry and thirsty. I type 100+ wpm, but today am using one finger and thumb. It is SO frustrating. It has only been 2 weeks since my last steroid shot, so I know they will not give another yet. And I am taking 20 mg of prednisone each day. Pain meds will help the pain, but won't help the cause. grrrrr

I hope you find relief from the pain soon!

Nina

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I'm having one of "those" days too. My right hand joint on the pinky side is killing me. We have some bad weather coming thru and I get an ache when the barometer changes. I'm trying to cook Easter dinner...decided to take a break to read email and my dog pukes...grrrrrrrr Now I have to get the carpet cleaner out.

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-----Original Message-----From: Nina [mailto:ncampbell@...]Sent: Sunday, March 27, 2005 12:20 PMRheumatoid Arthritis Subject: Re: OUCH!!!!!

You have my sympathy!! My left hand is so swollen and painful today I can't open it from its curled position! The middle and ring fingers on my right hand are the same way. If my husband were not home today for the holiday, my animals would go hungry and thirsty. I type 100+ wpm, but today am using one finger and thumb. It is SO frustrating. It has only been 2 weeks since my last steroid shot, so I know they will not give another yet. And I am taking 20 mg of prednisone each day. Pain meds will help the pain, but won't help the cause. grrrrr

I hope you find relief from the pain soon!

Nina

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----- Original Message -----

From: Maggie

> I'm having one of "those" days too. My right hand joint on the pinky side is killing me. We have some bad weather coming thru and I get an ache when the barometer changes. I'm trying to cook Easter dinner...decided to take a break to read email and my dog pukes...grrrrrrrr Now I have to get the carpet cleaner out.

Same here with the pain and the weather change. Suddenly turned very cold and rainy.

Nina

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> ----- Original Message -----

> From: gonzo_skye

> I like the way you grawl grrrrrrrr lol Skye

>

> > Hello folks, just a quick note to yell I HURT and I am sooo

sick of

> it. RA is attacking me from every angle. The worst is my elbows.

They

> feel like they are being crushed....Ok thank you just needed to

> vent ...............Skye

>

> You have my sympathy!! My left hand is so swollen and painful

today I can't open it from its curled position! The middle and ring

fingers on my right hand are the same way. If my husband were not

home today for the holiday, my animals would go hungry and thirsty.

I type 100+ wpm, but today am using one finger and thumb. It is SO

frustrating. It has only been 2 weeks since my last steroid shot,

so I know they will not give another yet. And I am taking 20 mg of

prednisone each day. Pain meds will help the pain, but won't help

the cause. grrrrr

>

> I hope you find relief from the pain soon!

>

> Nina

[Guest guest]

I used to have a sure fire way for me to let of steam and vent.

I'd fluff up all the pillows on the sofa and then punch the heck out of them. Now that hurts too much to do.

Maybe you could kick a pillow?

----- Original Message ----- From: gonzo_skye

Rheumatoid Arthritis

Sent: Sunday, March 27, 2005 09:45

Subject: OUCH!!!!!

Hello folks, just a quick note to yell I HURT and I am sooo sick of it. RA is attacking me from every angle. The worst is my elbows. They feel like they are being crushed....Ok thank you just needed to vent ...............Skye

[Guest guest]

See it pays to not be cooking! LOL.

Hugs,Jacy

----- Original Message ----- From: Joyce McCrary

Rheumatoid Arthritis

Sent: Sunday, March 27, 2005 23:06

Subject: Re: OUCH!!!!!

Thanks Jacy. I didn't have to stove on..........Joyce M

----- Original Message -----

From: Jacy

Rheumatoid Arthritis

Sent: Sunday, March 27, 2005 10:54 PM

Subject: Re: OUCH!!!!!

I am sorry to hear that Joyce but I am thankful you didn't burn yourself.

----- Original Message ----- From: Joyce McCrary

Rheumatoid Arthritis

Sent: Sunday, March 27, 2005 16:49

Subject: Re: OUCH!!!!!

I feel for you Skye. I hurt too especially my lower back. Friday nightwhile in the kitchen I was standing next to the stove. As I turned tostep toward the sink my left knee popped. I almost went to the floorbut caught hold of the stove. That knee still hurts. To my sorrow Iam back on Prednisone. Poof will that 18 pounds I lost go.....Joyce M----- Original Message ----- From: "gonzo_skye" <gonzo_skye@...><Rheumatoid Arthritis >Sent: Sunday, March 27, 2005 10:45 AMSubject: OUCH!!!!! Hello folks, just a quick note to yell I HURT and I am sooo sick of it. RA is attacking me from every angle. The worst is my elbows. They feel like they are being crushed....Ok thank you just needed to vent ...............Skye