RE: Dundee gals (was busy busy)

December 19, 2000

Ann, we lived in Scone, near Perth from 83 to 96, when we moved here,

Aberdeenshire. My DS's went to RDMS and then Perth Academy - Oakbanck fed

the High School, didn't it? My DS1 went to Dundee Uni, as well, from 93 to

97 and stayed in the Halls of Residence opposite Academy!

As for DC Thomson - the Dundee Courier was never the same after they took

the ads off the front page. Still like to read it though, much better than

the P & J!!

Lesley

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From: ann

I have lived in various parts of Scotland, but as a teenager spent 2

years in Monifieth and then from 16 onwards in Strathmartine Road,

Dundee, - my parents ran a newsagent shop on Caird Avenue - and I

wnet to the Academy. I then trained as a journalist with DC

Thomson, writing for the People's Journal (which old people up there

still remember fondly....) I moved down to Cambridgeshire about 13

years ago and would NEVER consider moving back up. Parents and family

are wonderful when they are 450 miles away...although my dad has been

quite ill this year so I have spent a fortune on day-trip flights up

to see him!

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> Are you seriously a wicked stepmother?

My three step-children certainly think so!! The eldest (19) hasn't

spoken to me since we announced my pregnancy (Ben is now 2 1/2) and

has seen his little brother only twice. The middle one (16) has made

it his mission in life to be as horrible to me as possible (kicking

as I walk past, doesn't eat food I cook, walks out when I walk into a

room, glares at me continutally etc etc) this is all when his father

isn't there - is generally a little angel when has father is around

and it has taken me almost 6 years to convince my husband that he is

like this. What worries me is that he is also like this with our

little one - so much so that there was a bit of a barny at the

weekend when step-son2 turned up to spend the night (unexpectedly)

and I refused to go out and leave him babysitting with the others - I

just don't trust him (the eldest has already intimated that he is

going to kill me and Ben). The third step-child is a 13-year-old girl

who sometimes likes me and sometimes doesn't - really just fairly

normal behaviour for a teenage girl and she is good friends with my

daughter so I am thankful for small mercies and just let her sulk

when she wants to.

My DH and I try very, very hard to make life as easy and normal as

possible for them - believe me, Christmas shopping for kids who hate

you and who will refuse to even look at you on Christmas day is very,

very difficult.

sorry, I didn't mean this to be a rant... so many people feel sorry

for step-children and don't see the other side of the coin - my three

step-children have spent years seeing different councillors to help

them come to terms with their parents divorce - but this seems to

have just made them focus on it all the more.

anyway, merry christmas - might see you on the motorway!!!

ann

SAHM to (14), Kirsty (13) and Ben (2)

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December 19, 2000

My first boyfriend was a Thomson from Dundee - should have held on to him!

As for DC Thomson - the Dundee Courier was never the same after they took

the ads off the front page. Still like to read it though, much better than

the P & J!!

Lesley

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December 19, 2000

> Date: Tue, 19 Dec 2000 14:20:58 -0000

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>Subject: Dundee gals (was busy busy)

>I didn't mean this to be a rant... so many people feel sorry

>for step-children and don't see the other side of the coin - >my three

>step-children have spent years seeing different councillors >to help

>them come to terms with their parents divorce - but this >seems to

>have just made them focus on it all the more.

Oh my goodness how awful for you, and your little boy, to have to live with

that. That is shocking behaviour from those boy's, you'd think by 19 you

would have a bit more of a clue. My parents had a VERY bitter divorce when I

was 11, 20 years later my mother still can't mention 'his' name without a

string of expletives attached. My father remarried when I was 17 and had

another child, they have 3 altogether now, but my mother uses his new wife

(who has now been married to him longer than she was) as the scapegoat for

her vent. " If it wasn't for her " ..yadda, yadda. It sounds like your dh's

boys are using you as their scapegoat, totally unfair, and the eldest who is

now an Adult himself should know much better and be able to see things with

a little more perspective, but then again my mothers in her 50's and I hold

no hope of her changing...lol

You have my sympathies, what brats.

Mum of 9 to...

Rhys (12), Jayden (11), Tessa (9), Tyler (7),

Paige (6), Grace (4), Zachary (3), Rose and Amelia (15mths) and new sprout

due 8/2001

" Welcome to this Place I'll show you everything with arms wide

open " ....Creed

December 19, 2000