Guest guest Posted May 12, 2011 Report Share Posted May 12, 2011 Sounds like you handled it pretty good. Don't beat yourself up. Be kind to yourself. Sounds like they're not very good company anyway. I'm glad you have a lot of tools to use. I need to post some on my wall because I can forget when I'm in the midst of feeling bad. If you don't mind could you share what some of your tools are? Maybe I could learn a few new ones. Thanks. Sandy Yesterday i was supposed to meet a new group of women go go for walks at a park.They said they they meet at 6 at the park and i was there at 6. They told me they meet by the palm trees and I should have known better: there are so many palm trees in santa . Well, I didnt see them so I walked alone. I did sent them by email by ph and I received zero call. So when I got home, I emailed them. The group leader said this: " Sorry we missed you too. It sounds like maybe it's not meant to be. Good luck, " I emailed her back asking her if I was misinterpreting her email or if she was saying that I am not welcome. she didnt respond. So I did feel rejected and It send me straight into a binge feeling. I didnt engage in a full binge but I did overeat so ...why??? I know better...I have so many tools that I can use but I guess rejection ,,and rejection over something so silly....hit me really hard A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2011 Report Share Posted May 12, 2011 Not going into a full binge was a huge victory! And I agree...they don't sound like good company anyway. Hugs seconded! It is not silly at all to let rejection hurt you! Instead of feeling bad about using food to cope with your feelings I think you should applaud that fact that you were able to use it without going on a full out binge. I know for me something like that is huge. Think back to the days when things would have turned our much differently and celebrate your progress! And screw those women, they don't sound like they would be good friends in the long run anyways. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2011 Report Share Posted May 12, 2011 thanks ladies I will post some tools later A > > Hugs seconded! It is not silly at all to let rejection hurt you! Instead of > feeling bad about using food to cope with your feelings I think you should > applaud that fact that you were able to use it without going on a full out > binge. I know for me something like that is huge. Think back to the days > when things would have turned our much differently and celebrate your > progress! And screw those women, they don't sound like they would be good > friends in the long run anyways. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2011 Report Share Posted May 12, 2011 ,Remember that these women don't even KNOW you!!!i am hard hit by rejection, too. but i agree with the others that they don't sound very nice. i'm guessing that maybe they thought you didn't show up, and made up an excuse? it seems very strange to blow some one off after missing each other once. regardless, it's NOT ABOUT YOU. tell yourself that, over and over. they haven't even met you so they don't know ANYTHING about you.YOU know you... and you know that you deserve better! hugs,abby Not going into a full binge was a huge victory! And I agree...they don't sound like good company anyway. Hugs seconded! It is not silly at all to let rejection hurt you! Instead of feeling bad about using food to cope with your feelings I think you should applaud that fact that you were able to use it without going on a full out binge. I know for me something like that is huge. Think back to the days when things would have turned our much differently and celebrate your progress! And screw those women, they don't sound like they would be good friends in the long run anyways. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2011 Report Share Posted May 12, 2011 I completley understand. I eat to deal with rejection too. It hurts to feel rejected. But I learned the overwheming feeling of rejection is from my childhood. some how I did not know how to deal with rejection when I was a child and I picked eating to deal with it. NOw, When I get rejected, I talk to my inner child, I validate her for being rejected and hurt. I try to be nice and loving toward her. JUST validating my feelings does wonder... Subject: rejection = bingeTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, May 12, 2011, 6:30 AM Yesterday i was supposed to meet a new group of women go go for walks at apark.They said they they meet at 6 at the park and i was there at 6. They toldme they meet by the palm trees and I should have known better: there are so manypalm trees in santa .Well, I didnt see them so I walked alone. I did sent them by email by ph and Ireceived zero call.So when I got home, I emailed them.The group leader said this:"Sorry we missed you too. It sounds like maybe it's not meant to be. Good luck,"I emailed her back asking her if I was misinterpreting her email or if she wassaying that I am not welcome.she didnt respond.So I did feel rejected and It send me straight into a binge feeling.I didnt engage in a full binge but I did overeatso ...why??? I know better...I have so many tools that I can usebut I guess rejection ,,and rejection over something so silly....hit me reallyhardA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2011 Report Share Posted May 13, 2011 so sorry. NOT SILLY! If I had a plan like that, I'd be REALLY looking forward to it. It signifies new friends, new fun, new life. Their loss. Please pat yourself on the back for your attempt to bring positive change into your life. There will always be bumps, and this one sounds pretty hurtful. But the real intuitive is on the self-care, self-love path. So, plan B? Try another walking group possibility? hugs Foggy > > Yesterday i was supposed to meet a new group of women go go for walks at a > park.They said they they meet at 6 at the park and i was there at 6. They told > me they meet by the palm trees and I should have known better: there are so many > palm trees in santa . > Well, I didnt see them so I walked alone. I did sent them by email by ph and I > received zero call. > So when I got home, I emailed them. > The group leader said this: > " Sorry we missed you too. It sounds like maybe it's not meant to be. Good luck, > " > > I emailed her back asking her if I was misinterpreting her email or if she was > saying that I am not welcome. > she didnt respond. > So I did feel rejected and It send me straight into a binge feeling. > I didnt engage in a full binge but I did overeat > > so ...why??? I know better...I have so many tools that I can use > > > but I guess rejection ,,and rejection over something so silly....hit me really > hard > A > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2011 Report Share Posted May 13, 2011 Oh how hurtful! Anyone would be upset.Its really their loss and so mean of them to do this to you.You did really well managing not to binge, even if you overate a bit! Sorry this happened to you!Leonora Yesterday i was supposed to meet a new group of women go go for walks at a park.They said they they meet at 6 at the park and i was there at 6. They told me they meet by the palm trees and I should have known better: there are so many palm trees in santa . Well, I didnt see them so I walked alone. I did sent them by email by ph and I received zero call. So when I got home, I emailed them. The group leader said this: " Sorry we missed you too. It sounds like maybe it's not meant to be. Good luck, " I emailed her back asking her if I was misinterpreting her email or if she was saying that I am not welcome. she didnt respond. So I did feel rejected and It send me straight into a binge feeling. I didnt engage in a full binge but I did overeat so ...why??? I know better...I have so many tools that I can use but I guess rejection ,,and rejection over something so silly....hit me really hard A Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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