Guest guest Posted May 31, 2011 Report Share Posted May 31, 2011 Something else that hits me hard is when I'm tired. I tend to lose all sense of "what's good for me" and dive into what isn't. It seems to help me to have some kind of structured eating plan, which I've let go of over the past couple of months. The IE book suggests that for those of us who are "really sick!" That would be me, I guess! Working this together, To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: jeanna.packard@...Date: Mon, 30 May 2011 19:20:19 +0000Subject: Re: Abandonment Oh my, I could copy and paste what you wrote in my own "venting" post and I wouldn't neet to change a word!I can relate.And the worste part is that I repeat the same mistakes ...turning to food. And I don't honestly understand why? I'm an intelligent, logical person, and I know that outcome of overeating=not filling good about myself. Why do you participate in self-destructive behaviors to remedy other bad situations?This is my biggest life question right now- why do i do this to myself? And why does it feel so inevitable? how can I change this behavior and learn to love myself?>> Abandonment> Why is abandonment so hard to digest?> In theory, I know that if he does not want to be around me, it might be for the best. What's the point of having someone by your side who is ONLY giving a small percent?> I also know that overeating will not solve any issue but just add issues to the feeling of being abandoned…but it feels so nice and warm in my throat and stomach when I numb these feelings…> oh well..just venting> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2011 Report Share Posted May 31, 2011 I wonder if that feeling tired is your body trying to tell you something, that it needs something. We usually crave sweets/carbohydrates because our body needs it to refuel. I find that adding a little protein to a carb helps a whole lot. Also I try not to let myself get to the point of being real tired or real hungry. I carry a snack with me for those times when I am not able to get a meal. I find for me that about 4-6 of those little cheese cubes really help, or a tablespoon of peanut butter on a cracker or sliced banana or apple. You have to find what works for you. I'm trying to stop thinking of those moments as weakness or failure, but as a time I need to listen to my body. Its pretty smart you know. Hope this helps. Please don't beat yourself up. I think you will find that many of us have this experience. Sandy Something else that hits me hard is when I'm tired. I tend to lose all sense of " what's good for me " and dive into what isn't. It seems to help me to have some kind of structured eating plan, which I've let go of over the past couple of months. The IE book suggests that for those of us who are " really sick! " That would be me, I guess! Working this together, To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: jeanna.packard@... Date: Mon, 30 May 2011 19:20:19 +0000Subject: Re: Abandonment Oh my, I could copy and paste what you wrote in my own " venting " post and I wouldn't neet to change a word!I can relate.And the worste part is that I repeat the same mistakes ...turning to food. And I don't honestly understand why? I'm an intelligent, logical person, and I know that outcome of overeating=not filling good about myself. Why do you participate in self-destructive behaviors to remedy other bad situations? This is my biggest life question right now- why do i do this to myself? And why does it feel so inevitable? how can I change this behavior and learn to love myself? >> Abandonment> Why is abandonment so hard to digest?> In theory, I know that if he does not want to be around me, it might be for the best. What's the point of having someone by your side who is ONLY giving a small percent? > I also know that overeating will not solve any issue but just add issues to the feeling of being abandoned…but it feels so nice and warm in my throat and stomach when I numb these feelings…> oh well..just venting > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2011 Report Share Posted May 31, 2011 Thanks Sandy, it helps. Just reading on this site helps! Thanks, To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: sandyb1234@...Date: Tue, 31 May 2011 17:09:09 -0400Subject: Re: Re: Abandonment I wonder if that feeling tired is your body trying to tell you something, that it needs something. We usually crave sweets/carbohydrates because our body needs it to refuel. I find that adding a little protein to a carb helps a whole lot. Also I try not to let myself get to the point of being real tired or real hungry. I carry a snack with me for those times when I am not able to get a meal. I find for me that about 4-6 of those little cheese cubes really help, or a tablespoon of peanut butter on a cracker or sliced banana or apple. You have to find what works for you. I'm trying to stop thinking of those moments as weakness or failure, but as a time I need to listen to my body. Its pretty smart you know. Hope this helps. Please don't beat yourself up. I think you will find that many of us have this experience. Sandy Something else that hits me hard is when I'm tired. I tend to lose all sense of "what's good for me" and dive into what isn't. It seems to help me to have some kind of structured eating plan, which I've let go of over the past couple of months. The IE book suggests that for those of us who are "really sick!" That would be me, I guess!Working this together, To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: jeanna.packard@...Date: Mon, 30 May 2011 19:20:19 +0000Subject: Re: Abandonment Oh my, I could copy and paste what you wrote in my own "venting" post and I wouldn't neet to change a word!I can relate.And the worste part is that I repeat the same mistakes ...turning to food. And I don't honestly understand why? I'm an intelligent, logical person, and I know that outcome of overeating=not filling good about myself. Why do you participate in self-destructive behaviors to remedy other bad situations?This is my biggest life question right now- why do i do this to myself? And why does it feel so inevitable? how can I change this behavior and learn to love myself?>> Abandonment> Why is abandonment so hard to digest?> In theory, I know that if he does not want to be around me, it might be for the best. What's the point of having someone by your side who is ONLY giving a small percent?> I also know that overeating will not solve any issue but just add issues to the feeling of being abandoned…but it feels so nice and warm in my throat and stomach when I numb these feelings…> oh well..just venting> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2011 Report Share Posted June 3, 2011 This is really important for me to remember. I work overnight shifts and have for years now. My hunger and eating can be very intense at night as my body tries to help me stay awake. At first I saw this as yet another way in which my body could not be trusted. Truth be told, I still struggle with that when my stress rises and I want more "control" and I just wind up eating more because I ignore my hunger clues and then become famished! Reminders like these in this discussion help me remember that eating when I am hungry helps me not only stay awake but avoid binging at later times (i.e. whatever arbitrary time I have deemed appropriate). Yes, it is supportive to realize I am not the only one, especially since its so easy for me to isolate in general and with night work. Peace, C To: intuitiveeating_support Sent: Tue, May 31, 2011 9:18:13 PMSubject: RE: Re: Abandonment Thanks Sandy, it helps. Just reading on this site helps!Thanks, To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: sandyb1234@...Date: Tue, 31 May 2011 17:09:09 -0400Subject: Re: Re: Abandonment I wonder if that feeling tired is your body trying to tell you something, that it needs something. We usually crave sweets/carbohydrates because our body needs it to refuel. I find that adding a little protein to a carb helps a whole lot. Also I try not to let myself get to the point of being real tired or real hungry. I carry a snack with me for those times when I am not able to get a meal. I find for me that about 4-6 of those little cheese cubes really help, or a tablespoon of peanut butter on a cracker or sliced banana or apple. You have to find what works for you. I'm trying to stop thinking of those moments as weakness or failure, but as a time I need to listen to my body. Its pretty smart you know. Hope this helps. Please don't beat yourself up. I think you will find that many of us have this experience. Sandy Something else that hits me hard is when I'm tired. I tend to lose all sense of "what's good for me" and dive into what isn't. It seems to help me to have some kind of structured eating plan, which I've let go of over the past couple of months. The IE book suggests that for those of us who are "really sick!" That would be me, I guess!Working this together, To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: jeanna.packard@...Date: Mon, 30 May 2011 19:20:19 +0000Subject: Re: Abandonment Oh my, I could copy and paste what you wrote in my own "venting" post and I wouldn't neet to change a word!I can relate.And the worste part is that I repeat the same mistakes ...turning to food. And I don't honestly understand why? I'm an intelligent, logical person, and I know that outcome of overeating=not filling good about myself. Why do you participate in self-destructive behaviors to remedy other bad situations?This is my biggest life question right now- why do i do this to myself? And why does it feel so inevitable? how can I change this behavior and learn to love myself?>> Abandonment> Why is abandonment so hard to digest?> In theory, I know that if he does not want to be around me, it might be for the best. What's the point of having someone by your side who is ONLY giving a small percent?> I also know that overeating will not solve any issue but just add issues to the feeling of being abandoned…but it feels so nice and warm in my throat and stomach when I numb these feelings…> oh well..just venting> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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