Guest guest Posted June 27, 2011 Report Share Posted June 27, 2011 Tai,I like the way you often mention "if I want it" ... it helps me so much to think in those terms ... new thinking for me! So often I just eat something/anything without ever thinking if it's something I actually want.Thanks!MargaretTo: "IntuitiveEating_Support " <IntuitiveEating_Support >Sent: Fri, June 24, 2011 8:17:15 PMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Also, Sandy, actions are preceded by thoughts. So if I'm in the aisle where they stock "goodies," I'm now saying to myself -- well, I would have found this irresistable and forbidden a while back. I would have found it hard to tear myself away from the aisle. I would have done so with regret. But now I know I can have it if I really want it. And I don't want it -- now. That's how I'm thinking, Sandy, hope this helps. I believe the principle of IE is: if you really want it, have it. I do not really want it at that point. But it I did, I'd buy it and hopefully enjoy it. But I have learned that I can have it, and if I want it, I can have it later. If I want it. Tai Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2011 Report Share Posted June 27, 2011 Tai,I like the way you often mention "if I want it" ... it helps me so much to think in those terms ... new thinking for me! So often I just eat something/anything without ever thinking if it's something I actually want.Thanks!MargaretTo: "IntuitiveEating_Support " <IntuitiveEating_Support >Sent: Fri, June 24, 2011 8:17:15 PMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Also, Sandy, actions are preceded by thoughts. So if I'm in the aisle where they stock "goodies," I'm now saying to myself -- well, I would have found this irresistable and forbidden a while back. I would have found it hard to tear myself away from the aisle. I would have done so with regret. But now I know I can have it if I really want it. And I don't want it -- now. That's how I'm thinking, Sandy, hope this helps. I believe the principle of IE is: if you really want it, have it. I do not really want it at that point. But it I did, I'd buy it and hopefully enjoy it. But I have learned that I can have it, and if I want it, I can have it later. If I want it. Tai Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2011 Report Share Posted June 27, 2011 Sandy, I am also at a place of not trusting myself with foods ... if it's in the house I may just eat it and it won't necessarily be because I'm hungry and that's the particular food I want to eat. I am dealing with so many "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" that I impose upon myself. I need to keep remembering all of this takes TIME. Thanks, MargaretTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Fri, June 24, 2011 9:27:04 PMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Tai, I've been walking down that aisle with my favorite cookies for months and walked right by without wanting them. Today I just really wanted them and I have had 6 (I think) and enjoyed them. I am still at the point that if I have them in the house I will eat them even if I don't really want them. Sometimes I think if I eat them all quickly then I will be done with them, there won't be any more in the house. I still do better if I don't have things in the house that I tend to over eat. I guess that says I haven't given myself unconditional permission to eat, no forbidden foods and that I don't trust myself. I also will eat those kinds of foods when I am not hungry. As for family celebrations, I am still pondering what you said. I have no problem having cake and ice cream on my birthday. But I would probably not have it in the house, as I would just eat and eat it. When I first started IE and ate ice cream, I got to a point where I did not enjoy it and even threw some of it out. It was during that initial phase where I gave myself unconditional permission to eat foods that I gained so much weight. I have heard that from others on this post too. I guess the part I am having trouble with is "having it later". I "want" it NOW. You have given me a lot to think about and I have a phone conference with Gillian on Tues. I will take some of these ideas and a few others to talk with her about. Sandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2011 Report Share Posted June 27, 2011 Sandy, I am also at a place of not trusting myself with foods ... if it's in the house I may just eat it and it won't necessarily be because I'm hungry and that's the particular food I want to eat. I am dealing with so many "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" that I impose upon myself. I need to keep remembering all of this takes TIME. Thanks, MargaretTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Fri, June 24, 2011 9:27:04 PMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Tai, I've been walking down that aisle with my favorite cookies for months and walked right by without wanting them. Today I just really wanted them and I have had 6 (I think) and enjoyed them. I am still at the point that if I have them in the house I will eat them even if I don't really want them. Sometimes I think if I eat them all quickly then I will be done with them, there won't be any more in the house. I still do better if I don't have things in the house that I tend to over eat. I guess that says I haven't given myself unconditional permission to eat, no forbidden foods and that I don't trust myself. I also will eat those kinds of foods when I am not hungry. As for family celebrations, I am still pondering what you said. I have no problem having cake and ice cream on my birthday. But I would probably not have it in the house, as I would just eat and eat it. When I first started IE and ate ice cream, I got to a point where I did not enjoy it and even threw some of it out. It was during that initial phase where I gave myself unconditional permission to eat foods that I gained so much weight. I have heard that from others on this post too. I guess the part I am having trouble with is "having it later". I "want" it NOW. You have given me a lot to think about and I have a phone conference with Gillian on Tues. I will take some of these ideas and a few others to talk with her about. Sandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2011 Report Share Posted June 27, 2011 Sandy, I am also at a place of not trusting myself with foods ... if it's in the house I may just eat it and it won't necessarily be because I'm hungry and that's the particular food I want to eat. I am dealing with so many "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" that I impose upon myself. I need to keep remembering all of this takes TIME. Thanks, MargaretTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Fri, June 24, 2011 9:27:04 PMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Tai, I've been walking down that aisle with my favorite cookies for months and walked right by without wanting them. Today I just really wanted them and I have had 6 (I think) and enjoyed them. I am still at the point that if I have them in the house I will eat them even if I don't really want them. Sometimes I think if I eat them all quickly then I will be done with them, there won't be any more in the house. I still do better if I don't have things in the house that I tend to over eat. I guess that says I haven't given myself unconditional permission to eat, no forbidden foods and that I don't trust myself. I also will eat those kinds of foods when I am not hungry. As for family celebrations, I am still pondering what you said. I have no problem having cake and ice cream on my birthday. But I would probably not have it in the house, as I would just eat and eat it. When I first started IE and ate ice cream, I got to a point where I did not enjoy it and even threw some of it out. It was during that initial phase where I gave myself unconditional permission to eat foods that I gained so much weight. I have heard that from others on this post too. I guess the part I am having trouble with is "having it later". I "want" it NOW. You have given me a lot to think about and I have a phone conference with Gillian on Tues. I will take some of these ideas and a few others to talk with her about. Sandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2011 Report Share Posted June 27, 2011 Thanks, Margaret. Yes, those words really helped me to change. "If I really want to," I can have those things now (or later) that look attractive to me. :-) Glad you're catching on. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, June 27, 2011 8:59 AMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Tai,I like the way you often mention "if I want it" ... it helps me so much to think in those terms ... new thinking for me! So often I just eat something/anything without ever thinking if it's something I actually want.Thanks!MargaretTo: "IntuitiveEating_Support " <IntuitiveEating_Support >Sent: Fri, June 24, 2011 8:17:15 PMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Also, Sandy, actions are preceded by thoughts. So if I'm in the aisle where they stock "goodies," I'm now saying to myself -- well, I would have found this irresistable and forbidden a while back. I would have found it hard to tear myself away from the aisle. I would have done so with regret. But now I know I can have it if I really want it. And I don't want it -- now. That's how I'm thinking, Sandy, hope this helps. I believe the principle of IE is: if you really want it, have it. I do not really want it at that point. But it I did, I'd buy it and hopefully enjoy it. But I have learned that I can have it, and if I want it, I can have it later. If I want it. Tai Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2011 Report Share Posted June 27, 2011 Thanks, Margaret. Yes, those words really helped me to change. "If I really want to," I can have those things now (or later) that look attractive to me. :-) Glad you're catching on. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, June 27, 2011 8:59 AMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Tai,I like the way you often mention "if I want it" ... it helps me so much to think in those terms ... new thinking for me! So often I just eat something/anything without ever thinking if it's something I actually want.Thanks!MargaretTo: "IntuitiveEating_Support " <IntuitiveEating_Support >Sent: Fri, June 24, 2011 8:17:15 PMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Also, Sandy, actions are preceded by thoughts. So if I'm in the aisle where they stock "goodies," I'm now saying to myself -- well, I would have found this irresistable and forbidden a while back. I would have found it hard to tear myself away from the aisle. I would have done so with regret. But now I know I can have it if I really want it. And I don't want it -- now. That's how I'm thinking, Sandy, hope this helps. I believe the principle of IE is: if you really want it, have it. I do not really want it at that point. But it I did, I'd buy it and hopefully enjoy it. But I have learned that I can have it, and if I want it, I can have it later. If I want it. Tai Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2011 Report Share Posted June 27, 2011 Thanks, Margaret. Yes, those words really helped me to change. "If I really want to," I can have those things now (or later) that look attractive to me. :-) Glad you're catching on. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, June 27, 2011 8:59 AMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Tai,I like the way you often mention "if I want it" ... it helps me so much to think in those terms ... new thinking for me! So often I just eat something/anything without ever thinking if it's something I actually want.Thanks!MargaretTo: "IntuitiveEating_Support " <IntuitiveEating_Support >Sent: Fri, June 24, 2011 8:17:15 PMSubject: Re: OA and freedom! Also, Sandy, actions are preceded by thoughts. So if I'm in the aisle where they stock "goodies," I'm now saying to myself -- well, I would have found this irresistable and forbidden a while back. I would have found it hard to tear myself away from the aisle. I would have done so with regret. But now I know I can have it if I really want it. And I don't want it -- now. That's how I'm thinking, Sandy, hope this helps. I believe the principle of IE is: if you really want it, have it. I do not really want it at that point. But it I did, I'd buy it and hopefully enjoy it. But I have learned that I can have it, and if I want it, I can have it later. If I want it. Tai Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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