Re: Introducing myself

[Guest guest]

hi JJ,Welcome to the group!Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you are well on your way already, recognizing damaging patterns you have, and already having bought your books... and best of all, having built up some energy and enthusiasm to explore your issues.

Way to go!Please keep us posted on your successes and challenges.Best,AbbyIE since 11/08

 

Hi! My name is JJ.  I just found this group and I'm very excited about it. I'm a teacher, and I'm about to be out for summer vacation, which leads to more resolutions and plans than New Years! I had already decided that I was going to use Thin Within OR Intuitive Eating principles to reform my relationship with my body and food this summer--but experience tells me that I need some people who understand cheering me on and offering support. Did I find the right group? I hope so!

For years, I've weighed about 200 lbs. I'm 5'3, so that's even worse than it sounds, I would guess. Until the two or three years, I felt physically fine and had no physical issues, so I could shrug off being heavy by claiming I wasn't vain enough to care about weight...I am what I am, basically. I was in a

marriage where I was a roommate/caretaker (I understand how much I created and allowed that dynamic--he was morbidly obese--over 600 lbs, now--and I couldn't care enough to change him or our relationship.) Since then, I've separated and divorced him, and developed lower back pain due to a leg problem that we never realized I had. It's corrected now, but years of pressure on my back has added up to continued back pain. I'm working on getting that under control, but it's made me seriously consider my weight (which makes the problem worse), my aversion to exercise (which I need) and my relationship with food.

Or more accurately, my relationship with Pepsi. I'm not a heavy eater. I can easily stay under the calorie limits on Weight Watchers and other plans....except for pop. Don't suggest diet pop--I've done that for years at a time, and never get used to the taste. AND the problem isn't the calories, it's how and why I drink it, I think. I get

stressed, I get tired, I don't plan for lunch at school....bingo, a dollar in the pop machine. I am out of school in three days. My plan is to have the specific goals/plans for this summer ready to go into place the first day of vacation. I want to focus--I think--on Mindful, conscious eating, but I'm thinking through what that means. I have a couple Geneen Roth books, the Thin Within book, and an old Intuitive Eating book that I was looking at just today at school....finding this group later in the day in a totally unrelated computer search is sort of eerie!

That's my intro, kind of long and detailed, I know. Feedback and suggestions are welcome! And hi!

[Guest guest]

Welcome.  Glad to have you along.  I finally came to the relization like others here that DIETS DON'T work! As a matter of fact if you want to gain weight, go on a diet.  Have you read the IE book yet.  I found it very helpful. I also have Geneen Roth's book on " Women, Food and God " and " Big Fat Lies " by Glenn Gaesser and " Health at Every Size " by Bacon.  If your into reading.  I just ordered the audio book IE on CD because I am not an avid reader.  I drink diet Coke but I'm not sure it's any better than the regular.  I have found a carbonated flavored drink with no sugar or caffeine but there is something about the Coke(I used to drink Pepsi).  I find that sometimes I just want that carbonation. I've cut back or stopped many times but always get back on it.  Sounds like a really good thing you did getting out of that relationship.  And I do understand about LIFE getting in the way of IE sometimes.  Even being retired it still can be a problem.  I just have to work one day at a time and understand that this is a journey. Keep reading and writing in.   Sandy

 

Hi! My name is JJ.  I just found this group and I'm very excited about it. I'm a teacher, and I'm about to be out for summer vacation, which leads to more resolutions and plans than New Years! I had already decided that I was going to use Thin Within OR Intuitive Eating principles to reform my relationship with my body and food this summer--but experience tells me that I need some people who understand cheering me on and offering support. Did I find the right group? I hope so!

For years, I've weighed about 200 lbs. I'm 5'3, so that's even worse than it sounds, I would guess. Until the two or three years, I felt physically fine and had no physical issues, so I could shrug off being heavy by claiming I wasn't vain enough to care about weight...I am what I am, basically. I was in a

marriage where I was a roommate/caretaker (I understand how much I created and allowed that dynamic--he was morbidly obese--over 600 lbs, now--and I couldn't care enough to change him or our relationship.) Since then, I've separated and divorced him, and developed lower back pain due to a leg problem that we never realized I had. It's corrected now, but years of pressure on my back has added up to continued back pain. I'm working on getting that under control, but it's made me seriously consider my weight (which makes the problem worse), my aversion to exercise (which I need) and my relationship with food.

Or more accurately, my relationship with Pepsi. I'm not a heavy eater. I can easily stay under the calorie limits on Weight Watchers and other plans....except for pop. Don't suggest diet pop--I've done that for years at a time, and never get used to the taste. AND the problem isn't the calories, it's how and why I drink it, I think. I get

stressed, I get tired, I don't plan for lunch at school....bingo, a dollar in the pop machine. I am out of school in three days. My plan is to have the specific goals/plans for this summer ready to go into place the first day of vacation. I want to focus--I think--on Mindful, conscious eating, but I'm thinking through what that means. I have a couple Geneen Roth books, the Thin Within book, and an old Intuitive Eating book that I was looking at just today at school....finding this group later in the day in a totally unrelated computer search is sort of eerie!

That's my intro, kind of long and detailed, I know. Feedback and suggestions are welcome! And hi!

[Guest guest]

JJ

Welcome!

Changing the internal image is crucial, you're right. And "not caring" doesn't work well for healthy living, at least not for me. When I don't care, my body gets quite upset with me, and tells me how much I should care, via pain! I've been going through a difficult process the last few months. I started IE last fall, but since January, I have not had the energy needed to put towards it. Now my energy is coming back. I have not been exercising at all; I've just started (this past week), with the stationary bike - which is all my body will allow at this point. I'm glad there is something I can do. I've already noticed the increase in energy.

Also I need to listen to my body, and sort out the different messages and what they mean. When I'm tired, I tend to eat anything in front of me, and all of it!

Thanks for sharing, and giving me an opportunity to connect.

Keep it real,

To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: sandyb1234@...Date: Tue, 7 Jun 2011 12:15:11 -0400Subject: Re: Introducing myself

Welcome. Glad to have you along. I finally came to the relization like others here that DIETS DON'T work! As a matter of fact if you want to gain weight, go on a diet. Have you read the IE book yet. I found it very helpful. I also have Geneen Roth's book on "Women, Food and God" and "Big Fat Lies" by Glenn Gaesser and "Health at Every Size" by Bacon. If your into reading. I just ordered the audio book IE on CD because I am not an avid reader. I drink diet Coke but I'm not sure it's any better than the regular. I have found a carbonated flavored drink with no sugar or caffeine but there is something about the Coke(I used to drink Pepsi). I find that sometimes I just want that carbonation. I've cut back or stopped many times but always get back on it. Sounds like a really good thing you did getting out of that relationship. And I do understand about LIFE getting in the way of IE sometimes. Even being retired it still can be a problem. I just have to work one day at a time and understand that this is a journey. Keep reading and writing in. Sandy

Hi! My name is JJ. I just found this group and I'm very excited about it. I'm a teacher, and I'm about to be out for summer vacation, which leads to more resolutions and plans than New Years! I had already decided that I was going to use Thin Within OR Intuitive Eating principles to reform my relationship with my body and food this summer--but experience tells me that I need some people who understand cheering me on and offering support. Did I find the right group? I hope so! For years, I've weighed about 200 lbs. I'm 5'3, so that's even worse than it sounds, I would guess. Until the two or three years, I felt physically fine and had no physical issues, so I could shrug off being heavy by claiming I wasn't vain enough to care about weight...I am what I am, basically. I was in a marriage where I was a roommate/caretaker (I understand how much I created and allowed that dynamic--he was morbidly obese--over 600 lbs, now--and I couldn't care enough to change him or our relationship.) Since then, I've separated and divorced him, and developed lower back pain due to a leg problem that we never realized I had. It's corrected now, but years of pressure on my back has added up to continued back pain. I'm working on getting that under control, but it's made me seriously consider my weight (which makes the problem worse), my aversion to exercise (which I need) and my relationship with food.Or more accurately, my relationship with Pepsi. I'm not a heavy eater. I can easily stay under the calorie limits on Weight Watchers and other plans....except for pop. Don't suggest diet pop--I've done that for years at a time, and never get used to the taste. AND the problem isn't the calories, it's how and why I drink it, I think. I get stressed, I get tired, I don't plan for lunch at school....bingo, a dollar in the pop machine. I am out of school in three days. My plan is to have the specific goals/plans for this summer ready to go into place the first day of vacation. I want to focus--I think--on Mindful, conscious eating, but I'm thinking through what that means. I have a couple Geneen Roth books, the Thin Within book, and an old Intuitive Eating book that I was looking at just today at school....finding this group later in the day in a totally unrelated computer search is sort of eerie! That's my intro, kind of long and detailed, I know. Feedback and suggestions are welcome! And hi!

[Guest guest]

Hi, JJ. sorry I didn't answer you sooner, I was very busy, but have a few moments. Glad you're joining the group. I just joined also. Sandy gave you some good advice -- we're in it for the long haul -- this is not a diet per se, it's learning to live with yourself and your perception of eating. Stick around, girl. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Tuesday, June 7, 2011 12:15

PMSubject: Re: Introducing myself

Welcome. Glad to have you along. I finally came to the relization like others here that DIETS DON'T work! As a matter of fact if you want to gain weight, go on a diet. Have you read the IE book yet. I found it very helpful. I also have Geneen Roth's book on "Women, Food and God" and "Big Fat Lies" by Glenn Gaesser and "Health at Every Size" by Bacon. If your into reading. I just ordered the audio book IE on CD because I am not an avid reader. I drink diet Coke but I'm not sure it's any better than the regular. I have found a carbonated flavored drink with no sugar or caffeine but there is something about the Coke(I used to drink Pepsi). I find that sometimes I just want that carbonation. I've cut back or stopped many times but always get back on it. Sounds like a really good thing you did getting out of that relationship. And I do understand about LIFE getting in the way

of IE sometimes. Even being retired it still can be a problem. I just have to work one day at a time and understand that this is a journey. Keep reading and writing in. Sandy

Hi! My name is JJ. I just found this group and I'm very excited about it. I'm a teacher, and I'm about to be out for summer vacation, which leads to more resolutions and plans than New Years! I had already decided that I was going to use Thin Within OR Intuitive Eating principles to reform my relationship with my body and food this summer--but experience tells me that I need some people who understand cheering me on and offering support. Did I find the right group? I hope so!

For years, I've weighed about 200 lbs. I'm 5'3, so that's even worse than it sounds, I would guess. Until the two or three years, I felt physically fine and had no physical issues, so I could shrug off being heavy by claiming I wasn't vain enough to care about weight...I am what I am, basically. I was in a

marriage where I was a roommate/caretaker (I understand how much I created and allowed that dynamic--he was morbidly obese--over 600 lbs, now--and I couldn't care enough to change him or our relationship.) Since then, I've separated and divorced him, and developed lower back pain due to a leg problem that we never realized I had. It's corrected now, but years of pressure on my back has added up to continued back pain. I'm working on getting that under control, but it's made me seriously consider my weight (which makes the problem worse), my aversion to exercise (which I need) and my relationship with food.

Or more accurately, my relationship with Pepsi. I'm not a heavy eater. I can easily stay under the calorie limits on Weight Watchers and other plans....except for pop. Don't suggest diet pop--I've done that for years at a time, and never get used to the taste. AND the problem isn't the calories, it's how and why I drink it, I think. I get

stressed, I get tired, I don't plan for lunch at school....bingo, a dollar in the pop machine. I am out of school in three days. My plan is to have the specific goals/plans for this summer ready to go into place the first day of vacation. I want to focus--I think--on Mindful, conscious eating, but I'm thinking through what that means. I have a couple Geneen Roth books, the Thin Within book, and an old Intuitive Eating book that I was looking at just today at school....finding this group later in the day in a totally unrelated computer search is sort of eerie!

That's my intro, kind of long and detailed, I know. Feedback and suggestions are welcome! And hi!

[Guest guest]

Welcome Marilyn. I'm new here as well. Like you I lost a lot of weight, and you

are right. You can lose the weight, but it doesn't fix the problems in your head

(OK, so that didn't sound too good). I mean it doesn't fix the way we think

about food, and the emotional aspects of it. I noticed that even though I was

skinny, I really didn't feel good about myself, and the bad habits eventually

returned.

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> I joined your group about a week ago and have been reading, reading, reading

ever since. I am about 1/2 way thru the IE book by the two nutritionists and

thought since I am now taking baby steps in the process I should jump in to the

group with two feet and introduce myself.

>

> My name is Marilyn. I am a middle aged housewife and mother who has been

attempting to control my weight my whole life. I had weight loss surgery 10

years ago and had success with getting my excess weight off; however, the

surgery does NOT deal with your head and I have been doing some version of diet

or diet rebellion to maintain my weightloss ever since. I am tired of my first

thought in the morning being about food. I am tired of feeling guilty for eating

all those formerly forbidden foods after " lights out " , so hubby and kids would

not witness my out of control eating. I love the idea of giving myself

permission to eat all my favorite foods, as I love to cook and bake but in the

past would either avoid it or give it all away....then scrounge in the kitchen

for some " second best " substitute and eat WAY MORE than if I just allowed myself

what I really wanted in the first place.

>

> Right now I am focusing on feeling hunger and satisfaction and bringing what I

used to think of as " trigger foods " into the house and allowing myself to eat

them. As a matter of fact, I just got back from Walmart where I bought my

favorite cookie; I am putting them in a special cookie jar (antique, it used to

be in my grandma's house when I was a girl) and looking forward to seeing how I

handle them this week.

>

> Just reading your posts this week has helped me...helped me feel ok with

giving up exercise for a bit (I was using it as justification for eating more

and/or using it to " offset " what I considered being bad with my eating) and

having a blueberry scone from Starbucks for lunch if I wanted one. Oh, and while

I haven't given up the scale I have scaled back on it's usage....I was a daily

weigher; now, once a week. Maybe eventually I will give it up.

>

> Marilyn

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, Katcha I do still struggle with finding kinder words to use in the process;

so thanks for that.

Marilyn

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> > Right now I am focusing on feeling hunger and satisfaction and

> bringing what I used to think of as " trigger foods " into the house and

> allowing myself to eat them. As a matter of fact, I just got back from

> Walmart where I bought my favorite cookie; I am putting them in a

> special cookie jar (antique, it used to be in my grandma's house when I

> was a girl) and looking forward to seeing how I handle them this week.

>

> > Marilyn

> >

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