Re: So hard to be intuitive now

[Guest guest]

Sherry, I had to put my dog down about 2 weeks ago.  She was my daughters dog but I lived with them for many years and the dog brought us much joy.  It has hit me harder than I thought it would.  But I have been able to let myself feel the grief and not numb out with food.  It felt good to be able to do that.  The dog was 16 years old and had a lot of physical problems, but that didn't make it much easier.  I have noticed for some time that I eat so fast that I don't give myself time to enjoy the food or notice when I am full.  It is slowly changing.  When I am in a stressful time I try to be kind to myself and not judgmental.  It is what it is and it won't last forever.  I just had several days of stress and got bent out of shape , mainly because I didn't let myself really feel what I was feeling.  So I comforted myself with food.  But I also knew I would come out of my funk in a few days, which I did, and wasn't judgmental but kind.  Be kind to yourself.  I hope you will be able to sit with your feelings rather than eat them away.  It takes time.  Sandy

 

Really glad that I just joined your group. Boy am I having a hard time. Although I really like and " get " the idea of slowing down and eating intuitively, when I'm stressed/lonely I just binge.

Sure, had I slowed down and eaten just 4 bites of mac and cheese, I probably would have been satisfied. However, it's so much more satisfying to scoop it all up and shove a pitchfork full of Amy's cheddar and shells into my mouth. This is a stressful time - culminating in me putting my cat of 20 years to sleep 2 weeks ago.

Anyone else have these struggles? I really need to get back on the program.

Thanks everyone!

Sherry

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time right now. The best suggestion I can make is to be compassionate with yourself at this difficult time. Just try to be present, and If you overeat, OK, accept it, don't get angry with yourself or blame yourself at all, just take care of you.

I haven't been here very long myself, but I'm glad you've joined this group too. Welcome. Judy

[Guest guest]

Thank you Judy - that is very good advice. I'm really glad to have found this

group.

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> I'm sorry you're having such a hard time right now. The best suggestion I can

make is to be compassionate with yourself at this difficult time. Just try to be

present, and If you overeat, OK, accept it, don't get angry with yourself or

blame yourself at all, just take care of you.

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> I haven't been here very long myself, but I'm glad you've joined this group

too. Welcome. Judy

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[Guest guest]

Sherry, your struggles are not unusual as far as I know - eating as a reaction

to stress is something I and probably most here truly understand and do too.

Rather than try to STOP this dead in its tracks, I think you are on the right

way to just NOTICE that this is happening, acknowledge it to yourself, accept

that its what IS happening and comfort yourself with knowing that you are

choosing to let this run its course. Acknowledgement is a first step which

allows you to take another step (choice) which leads to another step

(satisfaction) etc. etc.

Congrats on your baby step!

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

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> Really glad that I just joined your group. Boy am I having a hard time.

Although I really like and " get " the idea of slowing down and eating

intuitively, when I'm stressed/lonely I just binge.

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> Sure, had I slowed down and eaten just 4 bites of mac and cheese, I probably

would have been satisfied. However, it's so much more satisfying to scoop it

all up and shove a pitchfork full of Amy's cheddar and shells into my mouth.

This is a stressful time - culminating in me putting my cat of 20 years to sleep

2 weeks ago.

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> Anyone else have these struggles? I really need to get back on the program.

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> Thanks everyone!

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> Sherry

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