Guest guest Posted July 11, 2011 Report Share Posted July 11, 2011 Judy Ann, welcome. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with right now. Part of IE is learning to take care of yourself and that might mean a nap, a bubble bath, a walk, or whatever works for you. I too have IBS but pretty much know what will trigger it. I can choose to eat those foods or avoid them and pepto bismal works pretty good for me if I get in trouble. I think you have taken the first step already. This is a journey and takes time. I have to remind myself that it took me over 60 years to get here so it isn't going away in a few days/weeks or even months. In the mean time I try to be kind to myself and just notice when I am eating emotionally, and no judgement(that's the hard part). Today I chose to eat when I knew it was emotional and I will let it go at that. And I know what you mean about not feeling good. I feel yucky. I am glad you wrote. Keep reading and writing. Sandy Hi - I'm new to the group but have not posted much. I have been reading the posts but can't seem to get my " drive position " going. I've been dealing with family-estate issues, unemployment and financial issues. And being such a long-term emotional eater, I can't seem to find that " pause " button and think about what I'm doing to myself when I'm reacting with food. I also suffer from IBS and this makes eating sometimes uncomfortable and causes anxiety, since I never know how my digestive system will behave. I do take digestive enzymes, fiber and vitamins though which all helps and I'm learning about what foods to stay away from. But eating as been such a comfort zone for me for years, since I was in my teens, so I'm not sure how to jump-start an IE program. Food has been such a comfort zone for me -- although I do feel lousy afterwards. I dont' binge, I just eat the wrong foods. I need to drop 50 lbs to be at a healthy place -- which will help my IBS and other health issues. So I thought to myself -- I'll just write about what's going on in my head. Maybe this can act as a starting point for me.... Judy Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2011 Report Share Posted July 11, 2011 Hi Judy Ann, I'm glad you decided to check in with the group and share what's been going on in your life. I agree with Sandy about taking care of yourself. I am in the process of learning new things that comfort me. Food has been my comfort for as long as i can remember and it's hard to think anything will feel the same. I too am an emotional eater and when those situations arise, i am trying to ask myself " what is it that i really want besides food? " Good luck to you on this journey, i hope you continue to check in. Ann > > Hi - I'm new to the group but have not posted much. I have been reading the posts but can't seem to get my " drive position " going. I've been dealing with family-estate issues, unemployment and financial issues. And being such a long-term emotional eater, I can't seem to find that " pause " button and think about what I'm doing to myself when I'm reacting with food. > > I also suffer from IBS and this makes eating sometimes uncomfortable and causes anxiety, since I never know how my digestive system will behave. I do take digestive enzymes, fiber and vitamins though which all helps and I'm learning about what foods to stay away from. But eating as been such a comfort zone for me for years, since I was in my teens, so I'm not sure how to jump-start an IE program. Food has been such a comfort zone for me -- although I do feel lousy afterwards. I dont' binge, I just eat the wrong foods. I need to drop 50 lbs to be at a healthy place -- which will help my IBS and other health issues. > > So I thought to myself -- I'll just write about what's going on in my head. Maybe this can act as a starting point for me.... > > Judy Ann > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2011 Report Share Posted July 15, 2011 I don't think the urge to eleminate a certain food out of your diet for health reasons is not necessarily diet mentality. Or at least it doesn't need to be. I think it all depends on your out look of things. That outlook stems around good/bad, right/wrong thinking. If you work on eleminating say sugar from your diet because you know it doesn't serve your body well and with the attitude that you will do your best to not eat sugar, but then occassionaly you do have some sugar, it is important to not make yourself bad or wrong for having something with sugar. But if you beat yourself up and make yourself bad and wrong for eating sugar, then you end up in diet mentality. I have really experimented with this. I eleminated gluten from my diet for a year. I did it because I was having digestive issues and wondered if I might be gluten sensitive. As I eleminated it, I realized I felt better. So I kept it out of my diet for a year. Then I started experimenting with adding it back in but in the most whole grain/natural way possible. I have found that I can eat gluten, but there are times I prefer not to. I have also worked at eliminating sugar. And again, I feel so much better when I don't eat a ton of sugar. But I occassionaly have ice cream or some chocolate. And I don't make myself bad for doing so. I think my brain has finally made the connection to my body that I don't feel good eating these things and so I am more able to stop and really question wether I want that food item or not. My brain now can say, " no, that won't make the tummy feel good, so we dont' really want it. Let's find something else " . I think my brain finally made that connection because I quit having the negative talk when I did. I also quit " depriving " myself. If I really wanted it, I did, but I really stopped and asked myself if I really wanted it and for what reasons. Am I making any sense? Alana > > > ** > > > > > > hi Judy Ann, > > > > I'm glad you wrote. > > > > i'm wondering about the phrase you used " jump start an IE program. " > > > > this sounds worrisome to me... like a diet mentality... especially in > > conjunction with the fact that you want to lose 50 pounds. > > > > diet mentality tends to lead to restriction and then rebellion... and more > > weight GAIN, in the long run if not the short run as well. > > > > i think IE works best if you can start slowly and gently. pick ONE thing > > that you want to work on, and start with that. maybe it will be eating when > > hungry, stopping when full, or eating consciously. > > > > when you feel confident with that step, then you can pick another from the > > IE smorgasboard. > > > > i caution you against focusing on your weight loss goal. if you focus on > > that, it will be extremely hard to eat intuitively. with time, you may lose > > weight as a side effect of learning to eat intuitively. but let your body > > guide that... while you just work on getting the rest of you in order! > > > > best, > > > > abby > > IE since 11/08 > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2011 Report Share Posted July 15, 2011 So much good wisdom - thanks for sharing it Alana. It does take time to develop this attitude, but its so worth it. Bet you can remember back to when this seemed like a dream for you. Bravo for you! IE really does broaden our lives as well as eliminating what doesn't suit us well. ehugs, Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > I don't think the urge to eleminate a certain food out of your diet for health reasons is not necessarily diet mentality. Or at least it doesn't need to be. I think it all depends on your out look of things. That outlook stems around good/bad, right/wrong thinking. If you work on eleminating say sugar from your diet because you know it doesn't serve your body well and with the attitude that you will do your best to not eat sugar, but then occassionaly you do have some sugar, it is important to not make yourself bad or wrong for having something with sugar. But if you beat yourself up and make yourself bad and wrong for eating sugar, then you end up in diet mentality. > > I have really experimented with this. I eleminated gluten from my diet for a year. I did it because I was having digestive issues and wondered if I might be gluten sensitive. As I eleminated it, I realized I felt better. So I kept it out of my diet for a year. Then I started experimenting with adding it back in but in the most whole grain/natural way possible. I have found that I can eat gluten, but there are times I prefer not to. > I have also worked at eliminating sugar. And again, I feel so much better when I don't eat a ton of sugar. But I occassionaly have ice cream or some chocolate. And I don't make myself bad for doing so. I think my brain has finally made the connection to my body that I don't feel good eating these things and so I am more able to stop and really question wether I want that food item or not. My brain now can say, " no, that won't make the tummy feel good, so we dont' really want it. Let's find something else " . I think my brain finally made that connection because I quit having the negative talk when I did. > I also quit " depriving " myself. If I really wanted it, I did, but I really stopped and asked myself if I really wanted it and for what reasons. > Am I making any sense? > Alana > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2011 Report Share Posted July 17, 2011 That's a good idea, Judy. I can certainly understand about estate issues and the anxiety that goes along with that. Anyway, welcome to the board. I've been away for a while, so it's nice to see you! And I'm looking forward to hearing what you have to say. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Monday, July 11, 2011 9:32 AMSubject: Comfort Zone Issues Hi - I'm new to the group but have not posted much. I have been reading the posts but can't seem to get my "drive position" going. I've been dealing with family-estate issues, unemployment and financial issues. And being such a long-term emotional eater, I can't seem to find that "pause" button and think about what I'm doing to myself when I'm reacting with food. I also suffer from IBS and this makes eating sometimes uncomfortable and causes anxiety, since I never know how my digestive system will behave. I do take digestive enzymes, fiber and vitamins though which all helps and I'm learning about what foods to stay away from. But eating as been such a comfort zone for me for years, since I was in my teens, so I'm not sure how to jump-start an IE program. Food has been such a comfort zone for me -- although I do feel lousy afterwards. I dont' binge, I just eat the wrong foods. I need to drop 50 lbs to be at a healthy place -- which will help my IBS and other health issues. So I thought to myself -- I'll just write about what's going on in my head. Maybe this can act as a starting point for me.... Judy Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2011 Report Share Posted July 18, 2011 Thanks for all of your kind support and suggestions. I'm realizing too that my hormornes are playing a big part of my emotions and cravings. I do think that keeping in touch with all of your posts is helping me to slowly listen to my body and am trying to " be in the moment. " I'm realizing too that my " reacting with food " is not a quick fix... Thanks again. Judy Ann ________________________________ Sent: Monday, July 11, 2011 9:32 AM Hi - I'm new to the group but have not posted much. I have been reading the posts but can't seem to get my " drive position " going. I've been dealing with family-estate issues, unemployment and financial issues. And being such a long-term emotional eater, I can't seem to find that " pause " button and think about what I'm doing to myself when I'm reacting with food. I also suffer from IBS and this makes eating sometimes uncomfortable and causes anxiety, since I never know how my digestive system will behave. I do take digestive enzymes, fiber and vitamins though which all helps and I'm learning about what foods to stay away from. But eating as been such a comfort zone for me for years, since I was in my teens, so I'm not sure how to jump-start an IE program. Food has been such a comfort zone for me -- although I do feel lousy afterwards. I dont' binge, I just eat the wrong foods. I need to drop 50 lbs to be at a healthy place -- which will help my IBS and other health issues. So I thought to myself -- I'll just write about what's going on in my head. Maybe this can act as a starting point for me.... Judy Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2011 Report Share Posted July 18, 2011 Thanks for all of your kind support and suggestions. I'm realizing too that my hormornes are playing a big part of my emotions and cravings. I do think that keeping in touch with all of your posts is helping me to slowly listen to my body and am trying to " be in the moment. " I'm realizing too that my " reacting with food " is not a quick fix... Thanks again. Judy Ann ________________________________ Sent: Monday, July 11, 2011 9:32 AM Hi - I'm new to the group but have not posted much. I have been reading the posts but can't seem to get my " drive position " going. I've been dealing with family-estate issues, unemployment and financial issues. And being such a long-term emotional eater, I can't seem to find that " pause " button and think about what I'm doing to myself when I'm reacting with food. I also suffer from IBS and this makes eating sometimes uncomfortable and causes anxiety, since I never know how my digestive system will behave. I do take digestive enzymes, fiber and vitamins though which all helps and I'm learning about what foods to stay away from. But eating as been such a comfort zone for me for years, since I was in my teens, so I'm not sure how to jump-start an IE program. Food has been such a comfort zone for me -- although I do feel lousy afterwards. I dont' binge, I just eat the wrong foods. I need to drop 50 lbs to be at a healthy place -- which will help my IBS and other health issues. So I thought to myself -- I'll just write about what's going on in my head. Maybe this can act as a starting point for me.... Judy Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2011 Report Share Posted July 18, 2011 And thanks to you too Judy Ann - I get something from every post that is shared here. Hope you continue to add to this fabulous site for your as well as all members too. ehugs, Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > Thanks for all of your kind support and suggestions. I'm realizing too that my hormornes are playing a big part of my emotions and cravings. I do think that keeping in touch with all of your posts is helping me to slowly listen to my body and am trying to " be in the moment. " I'm realizing too that my " reacting with food " is not a quick fix... > > Thanks again. Judy Ann > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2011 Report Share Posted July 18, 2011 And thanks to you too Judy Ann - I get something from every post that is shared here. Hope you continue to add to this fabulous site for your as well as all members too. ehugs, Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > Thanks for all of your kind support and suggestions. I'm realizing too that my hormornes are playing a big part of my emotions and cravings. I do think that keeping in touch with all of your posts is helping me to slowly listen to my body and am trying to " be in the moment. " I'm realizing too that my " reacting with food " is not a quick fix... > > Thanks again. Judy Ann > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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