Boundaries UP... reinforced, land-mined and with bigger dogs that ever before!

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Well it took less than a month for Nada to be CURED and for her to be 'moving

forward' and for me to being an ass for not moving on with her. Super!!!

Don't worry... I'm wiser than that... I'm not taking the bait.

Dad's side of the family (the only family I have left) has also set boundaries

for the holidays... " No XX - YOU may come on T day and XMas Eve but your

'boyfriend' (married lover) is NOT welcome. " So... the boundaries have been set

and it's not on me. First time EVER!!!

Nada took T day OK... but she's insistant that boyfriend is coming and 'they'll

get a hotel and he can wait there for me...' Good grief... the bonus round here

is that she then whined to my dad, 'well... I need to bring M. so that I can

introduce (my teen) to HIS NEW GRANDPA!!! "

HOLY CRAP!!!!

No way in %##$ is that ever going to be the case. I don't even know what place

to put that in my head. Thank GOD for a good therapist who is just

flabberghasted at all this too... and thank GOD for boundaries (although they

were developed late in life.)

I told teen about this last night... and his response, " Mom... can I just call

him Dude? It's not like he'll be around next year cause nada chases people away

like a dog. "

I said, " I love you... you can call him by his name and NO...he'll ever be your

Grandpa unless they get married and you WANT that. "

He replied, " I have an awesome Grandpa. I'm good. "

Wow. wow. wow. wow.

Lynnette