Re: Long post! Sorry! What are you doing about Thanksgiving with nada?

[Guest guest]

I would cast in a vote not to write anything back. I find expressing my feelings

to nada just gives her more amunition to turn around on me.

I think you could restate your boundaries/what you are willing to do with her

for Thanksgiving on Wed and don't show any emotion to her, but only if you think

it is necessary.

I found having kids to be such a wake up call to just how messed up nada was. I

would never put my kids through the catch 22's and no win situations that my

nada puts me through. Ugh.

It helps me to think of it that no matter what you say, nada will probably take

it as an attack on her. I find the less I say or invest in her drama the better

it is for me and the faster she just goes away to find someone else to draw into

her drama of the day.

Good for you for taking care of yourself and your family first. You deserve it

and they need you now more than ever.

peace,

patinage