Guest guest Posted July 28, 2011 Report Share Posted July 28, 2011 So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a snack and it'd be no disaster. Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2011 Report Share Posted July 28, 2011 Jane,You are right that this is a tough issue for many of us, scheduling versus natural hunger.It sounds like you are already well on your way to finding your own solutions! of course, there are no " right " answers... only what works best for you. The idea of having a small snack if I feel I MUST eat with others usually works well for me. like, i might have soup or an appetizer if i go out to eat (i live alone, so i don't eat with others at home.) you are right, though, that the food won't be as enjoyable if you aren't hungry. if you can find it tolerable to sit down with others and NOT eat, that works great! i imagine your kids care more about getting time with their mom than they do about your eating or not. if you are feeling the beginnings of hunger late at night... why not experiment? what happens if you don't eat? will you wake up during the night? more often for me, it means I won't be able to go to sleep. so having a small snack makes sense. remember, there's no rules with IE... so that means it IS okay to eat whenever you are hungry, including right before bed! that said, many of us don't feel so well, lying down with a full belly, so play around with what feels good. as i have spent more time with IE, i started to eat more in the earlier part of the day, and became much less hungry at night. perhaps this will happen for you as well. the nighttime hungriness stopped being an issue for me fairly quickly... but now that i am pregnant, it has come back! so i do eat at night. hope this helps,abby So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a snack and it'd be no disaster. Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2011 Report Share Posted July 28, 2011 Abby Congrats on the pregnancy - that's so cool - when is the baby due? I hope that you are keeping well. Are you beyond the first trimester munchies?? > > > ** > > > > > > So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to > > begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have > > scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to > > the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the > > next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry > > at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on > > amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at > > brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My > > kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm > > not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is > > bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet > > getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed > > without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to > > sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a > > snack and it'd be no disaster. > > > > Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While > > I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually > > hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining > > everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't > > think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and > > realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on > > satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull > > later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was > > wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and > > just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my > > discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. > > > > I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family > > breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school > > and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So > > I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and > > mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I > > to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? > > > > What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? > > > > Jane > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2011 Report Share Posted July 28, 2011 Abby Congrats on the pregnancy - that's so cool - when is the baby due? I hope that you are keeping well. Are you beyond the first trimester munchies?? > > > ** > > > > > > So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to > > begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have > > scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to > > the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the > > next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry > > at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on > > amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at > > brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My > > kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm > > not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is > > bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet > > getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed > > without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to > > sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a > > snack and it'd be no disaster. > > > > Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While > > I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually > > hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining > > everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't > > think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and > > realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on > > satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull > > later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was > > wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and > > just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my > > discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. > > > > I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family > > breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school > > and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So > > I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and > > mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I > > to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? > > > > What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? > > > > Jane > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2011 Report Share Posted July 28, 2011 Abby Congrats on the pregnancy - that's so cool - when is the baby due? I hope that you are keeping well. Are you beyond the first trimester munchies?? > > > ** > > > > > > So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to > > begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have > > scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to > > the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the > > next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry > > at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on > > amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at > > brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My > > kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm > > not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is > > bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet > > getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed > > without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to > > sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a > > snack and it'd be no disaster. > > > > Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While > > I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually > > hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining > > everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't > > think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and > > realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on > > satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull > > later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was > > wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and > > just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my > > discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. > > > > I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family > > breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school > > and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So > > I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and > > mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I > > to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? > > > > What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? > > > > Jane > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2011 Report Share Posted July 28, 2011 i'm just nine days from my due date. crazy!thankfully the nausea and constant cravings for sugar from the first trimester are gone. now i just have to eat OFTEN. and i've mostly gone off meat. which is pretty weird. but interesting. doing IE through pregnancy has been a pretty cool experience! thanks for asking!abbydue august 6, and hoping for sooner! Abby Congrats on the pregnancy - that's so cool - when is the baby due? I hope that you are keeping well. Are you beyond the first trimester munchies?? > > > ** > > > > > > So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to > > begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have > > scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to > > the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the > > next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry > > at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on > > amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at > > brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My > > kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm > > not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is > > bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet > > getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed > > without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to > > sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a > > snack and it'd be no disaster. > > > > Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While > > I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually > > hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining > > everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't > > think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and > > realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on > > satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull > > later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was > > wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and > > just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my > > discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. > > > > I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family > > breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school > > and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So > > I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and > > mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I > > to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? > > > > What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? > > > > Jane > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2011 Report Share Posted July 28, 2011 Thanks so much, Abby. When you said, " Why not experiment? " I was just stunned by the freedom! Duh. Why must I know what is the " right " thing? My body will let me know. Jane > > > ** > > > > > > So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to > > begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have > > scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to > > the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the > > next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry > > at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on > > amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at > > brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My > > kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm > > not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is > > bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet > > getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed > > without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to > > sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a > > snack and it'd be no disaster. > > > > Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While > > I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually > > hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining > > everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't > > think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and > > realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on > > satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull > > later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was > > wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and > > just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my > > discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. > > > > I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family > > breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school > > and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So > > I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and > > mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I > > to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? > > > > What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? > > > > Jane > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2011 Report Share Posted July 28, 2011 Is this your first baby? If so, 9 more days of independence - make the most of it Abby - really pamper yourself cause once your wee treasure arrives life will never be the same - I wouldn't be without my two bundles of energy but I do remember only too vividly the sheer exhaustion of those first few weeks - I hope you have stocked the freezer with some easy to prepare meals which you can heat and eat - if not now's the time to do that - and suggest to anyone who asks if they can help that a freezer meal would be so welcome!! Babies have a way of desperately needing you right at the time you would normally be throwing a meal together - so a freezer meal is a lifesaver - either that or you'll find yourself surviving on toast! I really hope the coming days are peaceful and restful for you. Keep us posted. Best Wishes Clare > > > > > > > ** > > > > > > > > > > > > So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry > > to > > > > begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have > > > > scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust > > to > > > > the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when > > the > > > > next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not > > hungry > > > > at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone > > well on > > > > amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at > > > > brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. > > My > > > > kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. > > I'm > > > > not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble > > with is > > > > bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet > > > > getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to > > bed > > > > without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be > > able to > > > > sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a > > > > snack and it'd be no disaster. > > > > > > > > Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. > > While > > > > I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet > > actually > > > > hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not > > joining > > > > everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and > > don't > > > > think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and > > > > realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on > > > > satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt > > overfull > > > > later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I > > was > > > > wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items > > and > > > > just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my > > > > discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. > > > > > > > > I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our > > family > > > > breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high > > school > > > > and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being > > awake. So > > > > I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a > > wife and > > > > mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how > > am I > > > > to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner > > time? > > > > > > > > What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? > > > > > > > > Jane > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2011 Report Share Posted July 29, 2011 :-) Keep in touch, abby. Let us know how you're doing. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, July 28, 2011 5:54 PMSubject: Re: Re: Timing Problems i'm just nine days from my due date. crazy!thankfully the nausea and constant cravings for sugar from the first trimester are gone. now i just have to eat OFTEN. and i've mostly gone off meat. which is pretty weird. but interesting. doing IE through pregnancy has been a pretty cool experience! thanks for asking!abbydue august 6, and hoping for sooner! Abby Congrats on the pregnancy - that's so cool - when is the baby due? I hope that you are keeping well. Are you beyond the first trimester munchies?? > > > ** > > > > > > So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to > > begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have > > scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to > > the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the > > next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry > > at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on > > amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at > > brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My > > kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm > > not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is > > bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet > > getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed > > without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to > > sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a > > snack and it'd be no disaster. > > > > Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While > > I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually > > hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining > > everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't > > think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and > > realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on > > satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull > > later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was > > wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and > > just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my > > discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. > > > > I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family > > breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school > > and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So > > I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and > > mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I > > to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? > > > > What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? > > > > Jane > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2011 Report Share Posted July 29, 2011 :-) Keep in touch, abby. Let us know how you're doing. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, July 28, 2011 5:54 PMSubject: Re: Re: Timing Problems i'm just nine days from my due date. crazy!thankfully the nausea and constant cravings for sugar from the first trimester are gone. now i just have to eat OFTEN. and i've mostly gone off meat. which is pretty weird. but interesting. doing IE through pregnancy has been a pretty cool experience! thanks for asking!abbydue august 6, and hoping for sooner! Abby Congrats on the pregnancy - that's so cool - when is the baby due? I hope that you are keeping well. Are you beyond the first trimester munchies?? > > > ** > > > > > > So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to > > begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have > > scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to > > the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the > > next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry > > at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on > > amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at > > brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My > > kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm > > not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is > > bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet > > getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed > > without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to > > sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a > > snack and it'd be no disaster. > > > > Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While > > I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually > > hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining > > everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't > > think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and > > realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on > > satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull > > later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was > > wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and > > just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my > > discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. > > > > I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family > > breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school > > and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So > > I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and > > mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I > > to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? > > > > What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? > > > > Jane > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2011 Report Share Posted July 29, 2011 :-) Keep in touch, abby. Let us know how you're doing. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, July 28, 2011 5:54 PMSubject: Re: Re: Timing Problems i'm just nine days from my due date. crazy!thankfully the nausea and constant cravings for sugar from the first trimester are gone. now i just have to eat OFTEN. and i've mostly gone off meat. which is pretty weird. but interesting. doing IE through pregnancy has been a pretty cool experience! thanks for asking!abbydue august 6, and hoping for sooner! Abby Congrats on the pregnancy - that's so cool - when is the baby due? I hope that you are keeping well. Are you beyond the first trimester munchies?? > > > ** > > > > > > So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to > > begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have > > scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to > > the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the > > next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry > > at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on > > amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at > > brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My > > kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm > > not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is > > bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet > > getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed > > without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to > > sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a > > snack and it'd be no disaster. > > > > Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While > > I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually > > hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining > > everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't > > think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and > > realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on > > satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull > > later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was > > wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and > > just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my > > discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. > > > > I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family > > breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school > > and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So > > I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and > > mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I > > to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? > > > > What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? > > > > Jane > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2011 Report Share Posted July 29, 2011 You know, Jane, that's an interesting point you make about feeling empty but not wanting to eat. I sometimes have that feeling, and I want to wait to eat. Doesn't happen that often, though, that I'm in a position to wait because I'm usually with someone who wants to eat. When I don't. And then you said that you ate anyway with your friend but really did not enjoy the meal. Very interesting point (about not enjoying the meal because you ate when you were not hungry). VERY interesting, and I'm going to work on that. I, too, don't remember a meal with delight no matter how good it should have tasted, if I eat when I'm NOT hungry. So thanks for reflecting on that, it helps and I'm going to let that thought settle in me, although I don't know what I'll do with it yet. :-) Take care. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, July 28, 2011 2:39 PMSubject: Timing Problems So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a snack and it'd be no disaster. Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2011 Report Share Posted July 29, 2011 You know, Jane, that's an interesting point you make about feeling empty but not wanting to eat. I sometimes have that feeling, and I want to wait to eat. Doesn't happen that often, though, that I'm in a position to wait because I'm usually with someone who wants to eat. When I don't. And then you said that you ate anyway with your friend but really did not enjoy the meal. Very interesting point (about not enjoying the meal because you ate when you were not hungry). VERY interesting, and I'm going to work on that. I, too, don't remember a meal with delight no matter how good it should have tasted, if I eat when I'm NOT hungry. So thanks for reflecting on that, it helps and I'm going to let that thought settle in me, although I don't know what I'll do with it yet. :-) Take care. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, July 28, 2011 2:39 PMSubject: Timing Problems So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a snack and it'd be no disaster. Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2011 Report Share Posted July 29, 2011 You know, Jane, that's an interesting point you make about feeling empty but not wanting to eat. I sometimes have that feeling, and I want to wait to eat. Doesn't happen that often, though, that I'm in a position to wait because I'm usually with someone who wants to eat. When I don't. And then you said that you ate anyway with your friend but really did not enjoy the meal. Very interesting point (about not enjoying the meal because you ate when you were not hungry). VERY interesting, and I'm going to work on that. I, too, don't remember a meal with delight no matter how good it should have tasted, if I eat when I'm NOT hungry. So thanks for reflecting on that, it helps and I'm going to let that thought settle in me, although I don't know what I'll do with it yet. :-) Take care. TaiTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thursday, July 28, 2011 2:39 PMSubject: Timing Problems So, I understand that the main point of IE is waiting until I am hungry to begin eating, then stopping once I am no longer hungry. But we all have scheduling issues to deal with. My hope is that eventually I can adjust to the appropriate amount of food at each meal in order to be hungry when the next meal time comes, but for now, it's all over the place. I am not hungry at breakfast time or for hours afterward. I have done pretty doggone well on amounts as far as not eating all that much past satisfaction at brunch/lunch, but when dinner time comes, once again I am not hungry. My kids got upset the one night I didn't sit down to eat with the family. I'm not sure how best to handle this. The other time I am having trouble with is bedtime. Most nights I am at that point where I feel empty, but not yet getting the stomach grumbles signalling to eat. I am afraid if I go to bed without at least a small snack, I will get really hungry and not be able to sleep. But I suppose if that DID happen, I could just get up and have a snack and it'd be no disaster. Last night a friend came over for the evening and had dinner with us. While I was cooking, I recognized that I was feeling empty, but not yet actually hungry. But I didn't want to make our friend uncomfortable by not joining everyone for dinner. Plus, I am used to eating when others do, and don't think I could just sit at the table and not eat. Last night, I ate and realized the truth that without hunger, there are no clear cues on satisfaction either. I simply ate everything on my plate. I felt overfull later, and I didn't enjoy dinner - it was just a chore to eat! Later, I was wondering whether I should have selected a couple of my favorite items and just ate them. Now I'm wondering whether I just need to get past my discomfort with sitting with others while they eat. I'm a homemaker and my husband has suggested we dispense with our family breakfast, since I'm working on IE and our eldest is entering high school and has to be gone before our younger kids are even used to being awake. So I am suddenly in as near to an ideal IE situation as possible for a wife and mother. I will only need to eat with the family at dinner time. But how am I to adjust to a point where I will be consistently hungry at dinner time? What has your experience been? Any words of wisdom? Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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