Re: powerful brainwashing techniques

[Guest guest]

Sounds like nada gave you an ultimatum ( " choose me or choose him, you can't love

us both " ) and you picked the boyfriend; good choice!

I agree, it is pretty amazing that all of us here even survived; battle-torn and

scarred but alive.

-Annie

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> my mother told me that it was either her or my boyfriend of 7 years...she told

me i couldn't love them both at the same time.

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> my mom always told me that nobody in this world will love me like she did...

> and I thank G-d for that.

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> amy

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> it has been such a painful relationship, i still can't even believe all this

is true and that i lived thru it...but not without battle scars.

[Guest guest]

Annie, i chose my mom...because she threatened me with the loss of my whole

family at the time and i crumbled over a period of 7 years with him. life has

been a nightmare...but i turned it around somehow, not easily, and married an

amazing man and we have 5 kids together. but my past haunts me to this day. my

old boyfriend and i still talk and luckily we can have a friendship.

amy

Re: powerful brainwashing techniques

Sounds like nada gave you an ultimatum ( " choose me or choose him, you can't love

us both " ) and you picked the boyfriend; good choice!

I agree, it is pretty amazing that all of us here even survived; battle-torn and

scarred but alive.

-Annie

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> my mother told me that it was either her or my boyfriend of 7 years...she told

me i couldn't love them both at the same time.

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> my mom always told me that nobody in this world will love me like she did...

> and I thank G-d for that.

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> amy

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> it has been such a painful relationship, i still can't even believe all this

is true and that i lived thru it...but not without battle scars.

[Guest guest]

((((Amy)))) I'm so sorry I misunderstood; I'm sure my response came across as

flippant and insensitive. That must have been a terribly stressful thing to go

through. I'm glad that it turned out well in the end, that you now have a

lovely family and are still friends with the former boyfriend too. Your

resilience and strength of character are awesome.

-Annie

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is true and that i lived thru it...but not without battle scars.

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[Guest guest]

Annie, it's totally ok...it was a really bad time in my life...I had to choose

between my love and my mom.

Nobody should have to make a decision like that. So, in effect, I didn't make

any decision...went right down the middle for 7 years. I never accepted his

marriage proposals which went on all the time...and I also didn't break up with

him. I loved him and wanted to marry him...but couldn't with the threat of

losing my whole family.

My mom even stooped so low as to threaten that my young nieces and nephews would

disown me if I married this man. Crazy, right? But I was in such a victim mode,

I had no voice...and I couldn't tell what was real. I just knew I couldn't make

any decisions for myself...everything was too weighty...too life-altering...with

the threat of me losing everyone and everything.

IF I HAD MY WITS ABOUT ME, AND IF I HAD PEOPLE TO TALK TO LIKE ALL OF YOU, I

WOULD HAVE HAD THE STRENGTH AND KNOWLEDGE TO LEAVE SUCH A POISONOUS MONSTER TO

MY HAPPINESS.

To this day, I suffer every day with the knowledge that I hurt a very loving man

many years ago, gave up my voice and my spirit, and lived a very numb life for

years.

amy

Re: powerful brainwashing techniques

((((Amy)))) I'm so sorry I misunderstood; I'm sure my response came across as

flippant and insensitive. That must have been a terribly stressful thing to go

through. I'm glad that it turned out well in the end, that you now have a

lovely family and are still friends with the former boyfriend too. Your

resilience and strength of character are awesome.

-Annie

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> > amy

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