Re: The Thanksgiving holiday

[Guest guest]

I also have that reflex. We all do, we had to defend in a quick minute. A smile

would turn into a smack with the broom in .0001 seconds. I hate it; I had a lot

of problems playing sports in grade and high school.. any balls that came flying

at me would hit me in the face or miss me because my eyes are closed I'm trying

to duck when I really want to jump! I wound up never playing sports again after

Freshmen year.

Even when someone next to me just raises their hand quickly I flinch. I have

noticed that as I continue to do my EMDR treatments and address my PTSD that

it's reducing with time.

Again, I recommend finding an therapist that is trained in EMDR for PTSD if you

grew up with a BP parent or other relative that, basically, beat you.

________________________________

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Thu, October 28, 2010 4:05:48 PM

Subject: Re: Re: The Thanksgiving holiday

I have the really bad startle reflex too. OH well. I think dealing with

these people is somewhat addictive. I want to relive the trauma except this

time I'm in control (yeah right).

[Guest guest]

Sue, WOW.. you have really bad PTSD. Sounds like you are also experiencing

hyper-vigilance. I hate to tell you but first thing of the bat is eliminate all

stimulants for a while.. cigs and caffeine.

There is a cure. It's called EMDR. It's a technique that therapists are trained

in. Make sure you are seeing a good therapist.. someone with their Masters and

has been working for some time (3-5 years?) EMDR: It's a bi-lateral stimulation

while using memory recall to think of positive believes while remembering

negative memories.. and its' amazing. I highly recommend finding someone who has

done it for at least 2-3 years. You can google it but some of the descriptions

are confusing. Do you want an explanation of my experience with it and how it

works?

________________________________

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Thu, October 28, 2010 5:51:39 PM

Subject: Re: The Thanksgiving holiday

Dear Group,

After living completely separate lives for many, many years my sister and I were

on the phone and she said how she had PTSD from our upbringing. She would awake

in the middle of the night lost and crying and not knowing why? It was totally

out of the blue. That was exactly what I experienced. Of course it was PTSD.

My body reacts like an electric current was shocking my central nervous system

if there was a dramatic escalation of emotions around me. I have also observed

this in someone else and immediately recognized it for what it was. I did not

begin screaming out at the least startle reflex until I was assaulted by

stranger. Now my own immediate family know to try to warn me that they're coming

in the house, entering a room I'm in or just going to say something. Isn't that

ridiculous? It hurts me to be so startled but it also hurts me to have them

trying to be so careful about doing something so mundane.

Since we're talking about it does anyone know how to cure it?

For me it really gets worse when I am on more asthma medicine since they are all

stimulants- usually in October. I also scare the hell out of doctors who rush

into the examine room.

Sue

[Guest guest]

Whoa - is that why I can't stand sports? I about have a nervous breakdown

when the possibility of playing or being near flying balls comes up. And of

course we have basketball and ping pong both in my office - when they play I

feel like I'm on a war.

>

>

> Sue, WOW.. you have really bad PTSD. Sounds like you are also experiencing

> hyper-vigilance. I hate to tell you but first thing of the bat is eliminate

> all

> stimulants for a while.. cigs and caffeine.

>

> There is a cure. It's called EMDR. It's a technique that therapists are

> trained

> in. Make sure you are seeing a good therapist.. someone with their Masters

> and

> has been working for some time (3-5 years?) EMDR: It's a bi-lateral

> stimulation

> while using memory recall to think of positive believes while remembering

> negative memories.. and its' amazing. I highly recommend finding someone

> who has

> done it for at least 2-3 years. You can google it but some of the

> descriptions

> are confusing. Do you want an explanation of my experience with it and how

> it

> works?

>

> ________________________________

> From: Sue Tippett <suetip51@... <suetip51%40yahoo.com>>

> To: WTOAdultChildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com>

> Sent: Thu, October 28, 2010 5:51:39 PM

> Subject: Re: The Thanksgiving holiday

>

>

> Dear Group,

> After living completely separate lives for many, many years my sister and I

> were

> on the phone and she said how she had PTSD from our upbringing. She would

> awake

> in the middle of the night lost and crying and not knowing why? It was

> totally

> out of the blue. That was exactly what I experienced. Of course it was

> PTSD.

>

> My body reacts like an electric current was shocking my central nervous

> system

> if there was a dramatic escalation of emotions around me. I have also

> observed

> this in someone else and immediately recognized it for what it was. I did

> not

> begin screaming out at the least startle reflex until I was assaulted by

> stranger. Now my own immediate family know to try to warn me that they're

> coming

> in the house, entering a room I'm in or just going to say something. Isn't

> that

> ridiculous? It hurts me to be so startled but it also hurts me to have them

>

> trying to be so careful about doing something so mundane.

>

> Since we're talking about it does anyone know how to cure it?

> For me it really gets worse when I am on more asthma medicine since they

> are all

> stimulants- usually in October. I also scare the hell out of doctors who

> rush

> into the examine room.

> Sue

>

>

[Guest guest]

Whoa - is that why I can't stand sports? I about have a nervous breakdown

when the possibility of playing or being near flying balls comes up. And of

course we have basketball and ping pong both in my office - when they play I

feel like I'm on a war.

>

>

> Sue, WOW.. you have really bad PTSD. Sounds like you are also experiencing

> hyper-vigilance. I hate to tell you but first thing of the bat is eliminate

> all

> stimulants for a while.. cigs and caffeine.

>

> There is a cure. It's called EMDR. It's a technique that therapists are

> trained

> in. Make sure you are seeing a good therapist.. someone with their Masters

> and

> has been working for some time (3-5 years?) EMDR: It's a bi-lateral

> stimulation

> while using memory recall to think of positive believes while remembering

> negative memories.. and its' amazing. I highly recommend finding someone

> who has

> done it for at least 2-3 years. You can google it but some of the

> descriptions

> are confusing. Do you want an explanation of my experience with it and how

> it

> works?

>

> ________________________________

> From: Sue Tippett <suetip51@... <suetip51%40yahoo.com>>

> To: WTOAdultChildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com>

> Sent: Thu, October 28, 2010 5:51:39 PM

> Subject: Re: The Thanksgiving holiday

>

>

> Dear Group,

> After living completely separate lives for many, many years my sister and I

> were

> on the phone and she said how she had PTSD from our upbringing. She would

> awake

> in the middle of the night lost and crying and not knowing why? It was

> totally

> out of the blue. That was exactly what I experienced. Of course it was

> PTSD.

>

> My body reacts like an electric current was shocking my central nervous

> system

> if there was a dramatic escalation of emotions around me. I have also

> observed

> this in someone else and immediately recognized it for what it was. I did

> not

> begin screaming out at the least startle reflex until I was assaulted by

> stranger. Now my own immediate family know to try to warn me that they're

> coming

> in the house, entering a room I'm in or just going to say something. Isn't

> that

> ridiculous? It hurts me to be so startled but it also hurts me to have them

>

> trying to be so careful about doing something so mundane.

>

> Since we're talking about it does anyone know how to cure it?

> For me it really gets worse when I am on more asthma medicine since they

> are all

> stimulants- usually in October. I also scare the hell out of doctors who

> rush

> into the examine room.

> Sue

>

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Harry Jr,

I would really appreciate more info on EMDR. I have heard of this before but

don't understand it.

I have PTSD which has improved after being back in the states now for 10 years.

I apparently had it anyway from the upbringing. Oddly, I don't remember

physical or sexual abuse - just emotional/spiritual and lots of " scaring " games

for family entertainment. (I was the entertainment.)

Anyway, I was attacked, robbed and chased overseas several times and was

initially unable to function upon return. Fairly normal now - kind of like what

Sue described. It's hard on my husband and kids, though, because I wake up

screaming at times and can't handle anyone walking around the house like normal

people do. I have learned not to blame them and now apologize when I scream. I

can also suppress violent reactions now; I used to react aggressively to being

startled. I consider this progress. :-)

Thanks,

Coal Miner's Daughter

>

> Sue, WOW.. you have really bad PTSD. Sounds like you are also experiencing

> hyper-vigilance. I hate to tell you but first thing of the bat is eliminate

all

> stimulants for a while.. cigs and caffeine.

>

> There is a cure. It's called EMDR. It's a technique that therapists are

trained

> in. Make sure you are seeing a good therapist.. someone with their Masters and

> has been working for some time (3-5 years?) EMDR: It's a bi-lateral

stimulation

> while using memory recall to think of positive believes while remembering

> negative memories.. and its' amazing. I highly recommend finding someone who

has

> done it for at least 2-3 years. You can google it but some of the descriptions

> are confusing. Do you want an explanation of my experience with it and how it

> works?

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Sent: Thu, October 28, 2010 5:51:39 PM

> Subject: Re: The Thanksgiving holiday

>

>

>

> Dear Group,

> After living completely separate lives for many, many years my sister and I

were

> on the phone and she said how she had PTSD from our upbringing. She would

awake

> in the middle of the night lost and crying and not knowing why? It was

totally

> out of the blue. That was exactly what I experienced. Of course it was PTSD.

>

>

> My body reacts like an electric current was shocking my central nervous system

> if there was a dramatic escalation of emotions around me. I have also

observed

> this in someone else and immediately recognized it for what it was. I did not

> begin screaming out at the least startle reflex until I was assaulted by

> stranger. Now my own immediate family know to try to warn me that they're

coming

> in the house, entering a room I'm in or just going to say something. Isn't

that

> ridiculous? It hurts me to be so startled but it also hurts me to have them

> trying to be so careful about doing something so mundane.

>

>

> Since we're talking about it does anyone know how to cure it?

> For me it really gets worse when I am on more asthma medicine since they are

all

> stimulants- usually in October. I also scare the hell out of doctors who rush

> into the examine room.

> Sue

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>