Re: 'the death of me'

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(((((((Amy))))))))

Saying something like that to your own child *even once* expresses a level of

cruelty that is hard for me to even comprehend. Its just mind-boggling to make

a abjectly trusting little child who only wants to please her parents and

receive love from her parents, to be told over and over that *she* is

responsible if one of her parents *dies*??! A child has no choice but to

believe that what her parents tell her is the truth and very real. Lying to

children is such a betrayal of trust; in my opinion its breaking a sacred bond

to manipulate, lie to, and use a child like that.

Good Lord.

What they did to you is emotional blackmail: " Obey us perfectly or we'll DIE and

it will be YOUR FAULT. " It made you pretty much a hostage; your parents were

holding your caring, tender little heart hostage.

In a similar way, I've read posts in which (various) pd dads threatened to

sexually violate the posters' younger sisters if she didn't keep her mouth shut

about the sexual services he forced her to commit with him. That is pure,

undiluted blackmail also, and the fathers in such cases were/are very likely

psychopathic.

But that's just my opinion, though: I think that only a person who lacks a

conscience, lacks empathy, and lacks remorse, and who views other people as mere

objects (a psychopath) would emotionally blackmail their own child.

I'm glad for you that you are getting your voice back, so to speak.

You can speak the truth out loud, now.

-Annie

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> my mom has always threatened me with her death.

> whatever small, insignificant issue arose, she would tell me that if anything

ever was to happen to her or my father, that it would be my fault. I lived thru

years and years of this nonsense. when my dad found out that he had a heart

condition, she cruelly accused me of bringing it on. i held that in my fears and

in my heart for a very long time until i realized that that's impossible. i'm

not G-d and i can't make that happen. so many tears about this so many years

ago.

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> we are never ultimately responsible for anyone else's life. we are not at

fault for their tragedies, their aches and pains, their obsessiveness, their

weird thoughts and feelings, their manipulations of loved ones, their complaints

of how everything should be their

way...etc...etc...etc....bla...blah...blahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

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> my lifetime is about regaining my voice now.

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> ever watch the little mermaid? when the seawitch takes arielle's voice...i

cried at that scene because i could relate. now i want my voice back...arielle

got it back...so can i.

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> does anyone else feel this way???

> amy