The Am I the one with BPD? question

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Dear WTO Adult Children,

I have noticed some threads dealing with the question of whether we are the ones

with BPD or nadas accusing us of such. Have you been beat down to the point

that you start to feel you are the one with the problem?

My husband and I used to spend hours analyzing our family members trying to find

a good role model or some way to " let them off the hook " for crazy, hurtful

actions like yelling/screaming at us, sexually molesting our child, or stealing.

We felt that we must be terrible people because so many of our family members

were angry at us for making boundaries to limit visits that erupted in raging

dogfights.

Our basic logic was: if we think so many people around us are f****ed up, then

it must actually be us. Finally, we realized that it is possible for several

people from the same family system to have serious issues (likely even). Of

course, we have many things to work on also, but we are not hurting them like

they are hurting us.

Then we realized the most f****ed up thing we did was letting them have our

babies alone EVER. Protect yourself and your children.