Guest guest Posted July 15, 2011 Report Share Posted July 15, 2011 Thanks Alana for posting this. That story could be told by most any one of us, just changing the body 'part' to suit (ha ha). I found it to be an excellent example of how we try to re-shape ourselves to suit some ideal or other people's preferences. But really it only leads to frustration and is as unrealistic as asking a short person to be tall! My own body is truly not blessed with 'ideal' proportions. My upper torso is longer and my legs shorter than the 2/5ths vs. 3/5ths ideal Edith Head talked about for bodies. BUT rather than sign up for stretching treatments on a rack (joking of course), I've learned to adjust my clothing to overcome this 'imbalance'. My sister-in-law has heavy legs. My brothers are bald. I wear thick glasses, and have always been 'pear' shaped. Not one of us can't add their 'flaws' to that list! Even actresses who are considered gorgeous have 'parts' of themselves they don't like. One of the best things I've done with IE is to NOT 'diss' my own body. Its strong, serves me well, especially considering how I've worked against it at times (poor little misunderstood darling that it is). Respect starts at 'home', in this case with my own self. Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > I thought this was a pretty good article on accepting body parts. > Alana > > http://glo.msn.com/beauty/i-love-my-body-hate-my-legs-1534300.story?gt1=49006 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2011 Report Share Posted July 16, 2011 Hi Alana! Thanks for posting this article link. Reading that post about the woman's journey in relationship with her legs reminded me of a Buddhist practice called Tonglen. In that spiritual practice, you open up to and breathe in the understanding that other people also have similar experiences of the type of emotional pain that you have experienced and breathe out love and compassion for anyone else throughout time who have encountered what you've encountered in this world. For anyone who's interested in this awesome practice, check out Pema Chodron's work, specifically her book " Comfortable with Uncertainty. " I, like other people, can feel like I'm all alone in my challenges, especially in cases where I've felt like I was singled out by some specific physical feature. I related to the woman's description of feeling like her legs look like sausages. I've felt like my arms looked like sausages. Interestingly, I was going through a " body tantrum " last week and not feeling so attractive. While I was walking outside during that time, one man yelled " sexy " to me and another walked past and called me beautiful... Ha! It's great to get contrary messages to whatever warped mindspaces we get trapped in sometimes. In that post, I also saw a comment about someone being told that they have ugly feet. My mom told me I had ugly feet when I was a child. After that, I was self-conscious about my feet my whole childhood and adolescence. One day in my twenties, I noticed her feet and the feet of some of my older women relatives and lo' and behold their feet looked like mine! What the @$@$? After that realization, I got over my " ugly feet. " Latoya:) Practicing IE since December '07 http://www.eatmovelove.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2012 Report Share Posted January 1, 2012 I read a blog called "Refuse to Regain." It is written by a doctor who has made a study of weight MAINTENANCE (or loss maintenance) vs. weight loss. You might be interested in her views on the article, as she basically feels its lack of hope is false.http://refusetoregain.com/Sara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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