Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss, not only in death, but in life as well. And I m sorry in the way in which you were told, this is unfair to you and could not have been easy to hear. I did not have anything so difficult as you have had, but I know it is painful to be left out of your family regardless of how crazy and painful it is to be there. She was your birth mother and I'm sure you would have liked to make your own choice about whether or not to be there. LB > > I just found out this morning from a Flying Monkey that Nada passed away. Interesting to note that the Flying Monkey didn't bother to let me know when the event actually happened, only now that the funeral is safely over and all parties have milked their personal gain and attention from it. My ex-family has never informed me of deaths in the family in a timely manner. It's just one more delicious source of manipulation and control. > > Well, I always knew this would happen--that one or both of the parental units would pass, and I'd find out somewhere, somehow down the line. Nada died protecting the secrets he so carefully held, and sacrificed his children for. Bravo, Nada, you did it. Nothing to worry about anymore. Rest in Peace. And leave me in peace, too. > > Thanks for listening, everybody. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss, not only in death, but in life as well. And I m sorry in the way in which you were told, this is unfair to you and could not have been easy to hear. I did not have anything so difficult as you have had, but I know it is painful to be left out of your family regardless of how crazy and painful it is to be there. She was your birth mother and I'm sure you would have liked to make your own choice about whether or not to be there. LB > > I just found out this morning from a Flying Monkey that Nada passed away. Interesting to note that the Flying Monkey didn't bother to let me know when the event actually happened, only now that the funeral is safely over and all parties have milked their personal gain and attention from it. My ex-family has never informed me of deaths in the family in a timely manner. It's just one more delicious source of manipulation and control. > > Well, I always knew this would happen--that one or both of the parental units would pass, and I'd find out somewhere, somehow down the line. Nada died protecting the secrets he so carefully held, and sacrificed his children for. Bravo, Nada, you did it. Nothing to worry about anymore. Rest in Peace. And leave me in peace, too. > > Thanks for listening, everybody. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 Hi Joanna, nice to hear from you. Thanks to this group listening and commenting, I have only felt compelled to speak to one friend about Fada's death, and that person is also the son on an NPD mother. He got it perfectly. I haven't mentioned this to any other friends and I know it's the right thing to do. Imagining the confusion and struggle on their faces as they try to make sense of the situation (as has happened in the past) would only add horribly to the pain. So because I've talked about this frankly here, I don't need to turn to others who have no coping skills or helpfulness around this situation (although they do regarding lots of other stuff). You used the word " unbelieveable " and I think that's an apt word that applies to everybody's story across this board. We think we're so advanced in our society. But in my opinion, as long as BPD and NPD continue along unchecked and unrecognized, with no protections for innocent children, barbarism runs free. (Okay, I'm getting dramatic, but you know what I mean!) AFB > > > > I just found out this morning from a Flying Monkey that Nada passed away. Interesting to note that the Flying Monkey didn't bother to let me know when the event actually happened, only now that the funeral is safely over and all parties have milked their personal gain and attention from it. My ex-family has never informed me of deaths in the family in a timely manner. It's just one more delicious source of manipulation and control. > > > > Well, I always knew this would happen--that one or both of the parental units would pass, and I'd find out somewhere, somehow down the line. Nada died protecting the secrets he so carefully held, and sacrificed his children for. Bravo, Nada, you did it. Nothing to worry about anymore. Rest in Peace. And leave me in peace, too. > > > > Thanks for listening, everybody. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 Hi Joanna, nice to hear from you. Thanks to this group listening and commenting, I have only felt compelled to speak to one friend about Fada's death, and that person is also the son on an NPD mother. He got it perfectly. I haven't mentioned this to any other friends and I know it's the right thing to do. Imagining the confusion and struggle on their faces as they try to make sense of the situation (as has happened in the past) would only add horribly to the pain. So because I've talked about this frankly here, I don't need to turn to others who have no coping skills or helpfulness around this situation (although they do regarding lots of other stuff). You used the word " unbelieveable " and I think that's an apt word that applies to everybody's story across this board. We think we're so advanced in our society. But in my opinion, as long as BPD and NPD continue along unchecked and unrecognized, with no protections for innocent children, barbarism runs free. (Okay, I'm getting dramatic, but you know what I mean!) AFB > > > > I just found out this morning from a Flying Monkey that Nada passed away. Interesting to note that the Flying Monkey didn't bother to let me know when the event actually happened, only now that the funeral is safely over and all parties have milked their personal gain and attention from it. My ex-family has never informed me of deaths in the family in a timely manner. It's just one more delicious source of manipulation and control. > > > > Well, I always knew this would happen--that one or both of the parental units would pass, and I'd find out somewhere, somehow down the line. Nada died protecting the secrets he so carefully held, and sacrificed his children for. Bravo, Nada, you did it. Nothing to worry about anymore. Rest in Peace. And leave me in peace, too. > > > > Thanks for listening, everybody. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2010 Report Share Posted December 9, 2010 Hi Joanna, nice to hear from you. Thanks to this group listening and commenting, I have only felt compelled to speak to one friend about Fada's death, and that person is also the son on an NPD mother. He got it perfectly. I haven't mentioned this to any other friends and I know it's the right thing to do. Imagining the confusion and struggle on their faces as they try to make sense of the situation (as has happened in the past) would only add horribly to the pain. So because I've talked about this frankly here, I don't need to turn to others who have no coping skills or helpfulness around this situation (although they do regarding lots of other stuff). You used the word " unbelieveable " and I think that's an apt word that applies to everybody's story across this board. We think we're so advanced in our society. But in my opinion, as long as BPD and NPD continue along unchecked and unrecognized, with no protections for innocent children, barbarism runs free. (Okay, I'm getting dramatic, but you know what I mean!) AFB > > > > I just found out this morning from a Flying Monkey that Nada passed away. Interesting to note that the Flying Monkey didn't bother to let me know when the event actually happened, only now that the funeral is safely over and all parties have milked their personal gain and attention from it. My ex-family has never informed me of deaths in the family in a timely manner. It's just one more delicious source of manipulation and control. > > > > Well, I always knew this would happen--that one or both of the parental units would pass, and I'd find out somewhere, somehow down the line. Nada died protecting the secrets he so carefully held, and sacrificed his children for. Bravo, Nada, you did it. Nothing to worry about anymore. Rest in Peace. And leave me in peace, too. > > > > Thanks for listening, everybody. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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